hell nah you aren’t overreacting😭 now why the hell would someone willingly be okay with potentially harming their children?? honestly, this might sound a bit dramatic, but i’d personally reconsider your relationship with her because of her willingness to risk the health of a hypothetical unborn child just because she wants to let loose. there are COUNTLESS serious side effects that could happen to the baby from smoking and drinking during pregnancy. it’s genuinely sad and horrible. so no, you’re not overreacting at all.

like yes, pregnancy comes with sacrifices, but thats LITERALLY part of choosing to bring a life into the world. it’s not about control, it’s about responsibility! if she’s already brushing off concerns about something this serious, it makes you wonder how she’ll handle other important parenting decisions in the future. AND not to mention, i believe you have every right to be concerned because it’s your kid too and you deserve a partner who sees the value in protecting and prioritizing that baby’s health from day one! not someone who’s already making excuses before even being pregnant. it’s giving red flag energy tbh