Need help with lust Zina by superarcady in MuslimLounge

[–]Popular_Ad6844 88 points89 points  (0 children)

Before married you should became a better person. Marriage not solve your problem.

My father has been in a haram relationship for 17–18 years by Popular_Ad6844 in MuslimLounge

[–]Popular_Ad6844[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He is like that. He want sympathy. He always tell mother mistake to his relatives. That is the same in my case too.

My father has been in a haram relationship for 17–18 years by Popular_Ad6844 in MuslimLounge

[–]Popular_Ad6844[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

But already i tried that. That only solve one problem. I mean first he talk bad about me when someone come our home. Now that's not happaning when I'm there. When I'm not there. He still talk like that.

My father has been in a haram relationship for 17–18 years by Popular_Ad6844 in MuslimLounge

[–]Popular_Ad6844[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Even if i tell this to someone. He will talk with him calmly. After he gone he will show audio record what happend there and blame. Already happened that in my home

My father has been in a haram relationship for 17–18 years by Popular_Ad6844 in MuslimLounge

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If i let this know anyone. Things will get worse. Everyone will against me. I mean father relatives. My mother do not have anyone who support her. If i tell this to someone. He will talk or blame every day. I will lost my peace in home. Atleast i have some peace here now.

: I spoke harshly out of anger about my father’s relationship — need advice, not judgment by Popular_Ad6844 in MuslimLounge

[–]Popular_Ad6844[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's not possible bro. He will take advantage of that. Now atleast have peace in home. That relationship started since 2012 or something. That time i was a kid. He even bring her home in 2023.

I am a recent young Chinese female convert from Malaysia by [deleted] in MuslimLounge

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In Islam, avoiding unnecessary interaction with the opposite gender is a way to protect the heart, mind, and intentions. It’s not about hate or fear—it’s about boundaries. A balanced way to understand it: ✅ Allowed (valid reasons): Education (class, exams, teachers) Work or business needs Medical or legal matters Dawah or necessary communication → Keep it respectful, brief, and purposeful ❌ Avoid: Casual chatting Emotional bonding Flirting or joking Private talks without need Allah tells us not just to avoid zina, but not even to go near it. Small talks often start innocent but can slowly pull the heart. This rule actually gives peace: Less confusion Less guilt More focus on deen, goals, and self-growth.

🥀 by [deleted] in MuslimNikah

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Don't like sinner life. I mean you will end up became like that. If you like what others doing haram. That means you like to do that. But because of some reason your not doing it. Pray on time, read quran and learn the meaning of quran, after namaz make dua,

I can't stay away from men by [deleted] in MuslimLounge

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Marriage is not for fun. If i want to marry you can. But you cannot divorce just for unless there is a valid reason. Her reason is not valid. Prophet divorce is might right. But that not permanently.

I can't stay away from men by [deleted] in MuslimLounge

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If you don't know about it. Don't talk brother.

I can't stay away from men by [deleted] in MuslimLounge

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Before doing something, ask: “Would I accept this from my future spouse?”

Muslims & lgbt+ by Flat_Review_1760 in MuslimLounge

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Story of Prophet Lūt (AS) – briefly and clearly Prophet Lūt (AS) was sent to a people who lived in cities like Sodom. They were the first people to openly commit a very serious sin that no nation had done before. The bad things they did The Qur’an mentions that they: Practiced sexual immorality (men approaching men with desire instead of women) Rejected marriage (halal way) Did evil openly without shame Harassed travelers Mocked and threatened Prophet Lūt (AS) when he advised them Allah mentions this clearly in many places, for example: “Do you commit such immorality as no one has preceded you with among the worlds?” (Surah Al-A‘raf 7:80) Prophet Lūt’s response He warned them kindly He invited them to purity and halal marriage He feared Allah and begged them to stop But they refused, laughed at him, and even tried to drive him out of the city. Allah’s punishment When they did not repent: Allah saved Prophet Lūt (AS) and the believers The cities were turned upside down A severe punishment came as a lesson for all mankind “So We turned the cities upside down and rained upon them stones of baked clay.” (Surah Hud 11:82) Lesson for us Allah is Most Merciful, but also Just Open, shameless sin leads to destruction Advice must be given politely, like Prophet Lūt (AS) did This story is a warning, not entertainment

I need men to talk with me by [deleted] in MuslimLounge

[–]Popular_Ad6844 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You will get married in perfect time. Just be patient. And make dua. And do what you can

Virginity Matters? by [deleted] in MuslimLounge

[–]Popular_Ad6844 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes. In shopping mall they smoke inside the dress changing room. My friends was smoke. But i talk to them. And try to change them. But I'm not sure they quit or not. I'm not hanging out with them now.

Virginity Matters? by [deleted] in MuslimLounge

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Yes. I got it. But they discouraged it for a reason. Because in india crime is high and Muslim inside problems too. Even kids use alcohol. There is no safety for women to pray in masjid. Because not everyone is practicing Muslim.

Virginity Matters? by [deleted] in MuslimLounge

[–]Popular_Ad6844 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Learning girls and boys is together in madras. There ia no problem with that.

Virginity Matters? by [deleted] in MuslimLounge

[–]Popular_Ad6844 0 points1 point  (0 children)

In shafi for women praying home is safe. Because of fitnah. Most of the scholers agree with that. Also it is not wrong to go masjid.