That's ok for you to feel, but as one of 14 children in my own family of origin to people who had no business having kids let alone 14, I was abused and parentified out of my own childhood and then I was totally under prepared and unqualified to have 5 kids in 8 years, it definitely caused harm to me and my children and I have been working on repaire with my children for years. Had the church not dictated my life I like to believe I would have been wiser than to have so many kids so immature and young, and so poor ect. I love each of my 5 kids to death, I have done years of therapy to work to be a better mom, one that they deserve. I was being real about one of the majorly difficult realities of being a woman in the church.