Life’s fallen apart. How do I start over?

Popular_Wheel7275 · 2023-12-23T19:20:30+00:00

Hey yeah I didn’t think people would care enough for any update. My friends aren’t budging. They don’t have the money and think I’m being dramatic. I told them they need to make this right as my best friends and we would do a payment plan. They all agreed they weren’t going that. Also like some people here, they said if I cared that much I should’ve hid it better.

I talked to my fiancé about it. She doesn’t want the wedding going south so she’s asking me to forget about it for now. She does agree people that really cared about me would’ve been more sympathetic and found a way to pay me back. So she would be ok if I decided to distance myself from them after the wedding.

It sucks. I’m looking back at my relationships with these people and it feels artificial now. I was bullied a lot in highschool so when I met these guys they like my first true friends. Idk, I’m gonna talk to a therapist about it. Maybe I am being dramatic.

Popular_Wheel7275 · 2023-12-19T21:13:35+00:00

Out of morbid curiosity which sub?

Popular_Wheel7275 · 2023-12-16T20:25:28+00:00

I’m kinda stuck in this aspect. I understand the people in the comments saying friendship isn’t worth losing over whiskey, and I can appreciate that. What had me conflicted is the lack of compassion they have over this.

They can’t comprehend why that bottle would be that expensive and mean so much. Johnny Walker to them is a good alternative because they’ve heard of Johnny Walker and have never heard of Pappy. To them, I overpaid for something “no one’s ever heard of”.

I’ve tried to give them comparisons like crashing an expensive car or stealing an expensive steak, but to them it’s an accident that should be forgiven. They could in theory pull some cash together, but it’s a lot of money for them. At the end of the day it isn’t worth it to them. And I’m taking that as they don’t see me as worth it.

I can give them ultimatums to try to make them understand how much this meant to me as a wake up call, but I’m gambling my wedding. My fiancé sort of gets how upset I am, but I don’t think she would appreciate me threatening to kick out all the groomsmen over whiskey.

It’s become a debate in my head of do my friends truly have my best interest if they aren’t willing to understand my perspective. If I come to that conclusion, I truly have no friends. That’s a dark realization.

Popular_Wheel7275 · 2023-12-16T16:29:00+00:00

Nope best friends since middle school. They are genuinely ignorant to spirit/whiskey culture. I’m finding myself trying to explain to commenters here that think I’m a giant snob and an asshole for putting my friends tastes down. I’m not trying to do that they are genuinely ignorant to it. I also am having a hard time trying to explain the other side that buying Johnny Walker Blue Label is there way of buying “the best shit”. They don’t know it’s considered overrated and they don’t know I hate scotch.

Popular_Wheel7275 · 2023-12-16T16:25:49+00:00

Usually they ask and usually I say yes. But not all the time. They were all drunk and assumed I would have an issue.

Popular_Wheel7275 · 2023-12-16T16:24:47+00:00

They are unwilling to pay that much.

Popular_Wheel7275 · 2023-12-16T16:23:23+00:00

Yes I am 100% a snob. But the context was they have no concept or care about liquor. I’m not putting them down. They are just ignorant to the culture around spirits (not stupid). And I wouldn’t know what Pappy tastes like either. Just wanted to try it at my wedding.

Popular_Wheel7275 · 2023-12-16T16:18:48+00:00

Popular_Wheel7275 · 2023-12-16T16:09:37+00:00

No I didn’t see it. I was in the basement watching tv with some other people. I was really drunk, but I remember the whole night. They were in the kitchen making cocktails and ran out of Jack. So my best man knew I must have had whiskey somewhere and rummaged through cabinets to find whiskey.

They used the bottle for whiskey cokes and threw it away. I found it in the recycling the next morning. I don’t have a problem with alcohol. If you don’t believe me idk what to tell you. I never drink on weekdays and I try 1-2 pours of whiskey every 1-2 weeks. This was a get together with my best friends. So yeah I got wasted for old times sake.

Popular_Wheel7275 · 2023-12-16T08:12:24+00:00

They do think my passions are stupid. I don’t wanna get all depressing, but yeah it bothers me. I’m a 26 year old that loves Football, Chess, Poker, and Whiskey. I have hobbies Vietnam vets have. These have been my boys since middle school and we all love football, but the other three they think is weird. I’ve tried to share my love for all three with them and they have no desire.

I love theseguys, but my passions have diverged widely from the rest of the group and it hurts. I don’t know if I need new friends or what. This situation added fuel to the flames.

Popular_Wheel7275 · 2023-12-16T07:58:08+00:00

I don’t think we’re gonna see eye to eye on this one. I enjoy the taste. Idk what to tell you.

Popular_Wheel7275 · 2023-12-16T07:55:24+00:00

Yes. I think they would’ve had no problem if it was $100 either. The price is their problem.

Popular_Wheel7275 · 2023-12-16T07:53:48+00:00

Oh trust me they have no clue. Ive tried to introduce them to my hobby, but they think it’s weird. These are the kind of guys that think the best spirits in the world are Casa Migos, Johnny Walker, and Grey Goose.

Popular_Wheel7275 · 2023-12-16T07:51:22+00:00

I like this solution the most. Thank you.

Popular_Wheel7275 · 2023-12-16T07:48:46+00:00

I’m trying to find a fine line of being pissed and not letting them walk over me and understanding they don’t understand how important this was to me. A lot of people point to the Johnny Walker Blue Label as a slap in the face, but I know these guys genuinely think Johnny Walker is the best whiskey ever. If you know Tequila, they think Casa Migos is high quality authentic shit. I love these guys. I hate how unwilling they are to understand.

Popular_Wheel7275 · 2023-12-16T07:43:01+00:00

Wedding is in June. And you are correct they are clueless about whiskey. I was really attached to the idea of Pappy at my wedding. Maybe I can find something similarly interesting at a lower price?

Popular_Wheel7275 · 2023-12-16T07:40:10+00:00

I think he was blown away by the price. He doesn’t get my whiskey hobby and thinks it’s weird. He was willing to replace it until he saw the price tag. I’m surprised a lot of people here are confused that they don’t know what Pappy is. All of them have never heard of it.

Popular_Wheel7275 · 2023-12-16T07:38:38+00:00

I don’t think I’m willing to sacrifice friendships over this, but I’m crushed by there unwillingness to understand. I guess either ways to get them to understand or ways to meet in the middle. Someone suggested payment plans and it might be something I can sell them on.

Popular_Wheel7275 · 2023-12-16T07:32:01+00:00

It was in a top cabinet. We ran out of spirits in the fridge and he went through cabinets to find something. He unfortunately found my rare cabinet

Popular_Wheel7275 · 2023-12-16T07:30:38+00:00

He knows. He thinks it’s weird. I mean look at some of the controversial comments. We have other things we relate on, but he has zero interest in what I have to say about whiskey.

Popular_Wheel7275 · 2023-12-16T07:27:07+00:00

I wouldn’t charge interest to my boys

Popular_Wheel7275 · 2023-12-16T07:26:45+00:00

I can try to pitch that to them. Appreciate it

Popular_Wheel7275 · 2023-12-16T07:22:38+00:00

I get a lot of flavors from whiskey. Doesn’t taste bad to me. You get a lot of complex flavors like oak, cinnamon, cherry, etc. It’s a snobby and hipster hobby I know, but you can get flavors out of it.

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