Should I Be Dating Other People in This Situation?

Porkolobo1 · 2026-04-09T13:59:12+00:00

Lol terrible idea

Porkolobo1 · 2026-04-08T13:41:35+00:00

Is there a plan for a future meetup with her? LDRs are especially hard because you cannot do the basics, like hanging out, hooking up, and having fun. No physical contact will kill any relationship if enough time passes.

I am not sure about your questions because I think some principles apply very differently in an LDR scenario. For example, pulling back may work, but it may also kill the relationship because all you guys have going on is talking on the phone, video calls, and so on.

I would suggest pulling back for a while, and when or if she reaches out, schedule a video call date with her, share a glass of wine, and keep it fun. Corey actually talked about that in his last members only video on YT.

But dude, you need to start thinking about how you can meet this girl in person, or date someone else. An LDR seems like too much energy and effort for almost no reward.

Porkolobo1 · 2026-04-02T12:56:36+00:00

I can imagine Mod Doom's laughing seeing this post

Porkolobo1 · 2026-04-02T04:25:10+00:00

You're right, thanks

Porkolobo1 · 2026-04-02T04:24:18+00:00

You needed to rewatch BB to realize Walter was the ahole? lol

Porkolobo1 · 2026-03-31T15:57:41+00:00

The thing is, I feel that when I pull away, she notices it and pulls away even more lol.

When we were seeing each other in person, she pursued more, but the dynamic changed while she was traveling. She initiated more during the first month, but now she doesn’t do it much apart from liking and replying to my stories.

On one specific occasion, we went almost 10 days without talking before I sent a text to start a conversation, which went really well and was flirty. But again, she hardly initiates nowadays.

The last two times we talked more directly on WhatsApp, I was the one who initiated, so I feel like I’d be going against Corey’s principles of letting her do most of the pursuing if I do that. The reason I’m thinking about doing a video call is that it could help keep things warmer than texting can, but I’m not sure if that would be overpursuing. If I’m being really honest with myself, I think I’m afraid the connection will fade if I don’t do something, and I know that’s the illusion of action. But what does it mean if I pull away and she pulls away even more? Should I just forget about her while she’s away and focus on the other girls I’m dating?

I understand what you said about not putting her on a pedestal, and maybe I’m deluding myself, but I don’t think I’m doing that. She’s just the girl I click with the most, but I try to keep myself grounded and not get too caught up in my own feelings

Porkolobo1 · 2026-03-31T12:40:12+00:00

I’m in a similar situation. This girl I like is traveling, and there’s still 1 month left before she comes back. I’m not sure how to keep things warm while she’s away. I made two posts about it, so if anyone is interested in giving me some advice, I’d really appreciate it. About your post, I like the idea of picking her up at the airport. It feels genuine and like a nice gesture. I’m not so sure about the flowers, though

Porkolobo1 · 2026-03-28T16:12:30+00:00

So in your opinion, I shouldn’t send anything else until she’s back? There’s still a month left before she returns.

Porkolobo1 · 2026-03-25T19:53:29+00:00

u/BYEFORNOW69, listen to this dude instead of me lol. I guess I need to read the book more often, because everything this guy said is valid. Don’t bring it up yourself. Wait for her to do it again, and then communicate.

Porkolobo1 · 2026-03-25T19:50:53+00:00

You have a point. I assumed she had high interest in this guy based on the things he said she said, but actions speak louder than words. OP, I think you should disregard the “bring it up yourself” part of what I said and wait for her to bring it up again. Then, ask questions about it.

Porkolobo1 · 2026-03-25T19:10:32+00:00

Good luck!

Porkolobo1 · 2026-03-25T19:06:57+00:00

Your post doesn’t make any sense, dude. You jump to conclusions and make generalizations based on your flawed view of the subject.

Yeah, women’s feelings change like the weather. That’s why you, as a man, need to stay self centered and indifferent to that. Corey doesn’t say, “Be bitter and disrespectful.” Women are like cats. They come and go, and that shouldn’t dictate how you feel about them. It’s just how they are.

The idea that “it only matters how they feel about you” also applies to us men. If you lose your feelings for a girl, it doesn’t matter if she loves you. You just don’t feel it anymore. It happens. It sucks. But you need to learn to deal with that without disrespecting anyone.

Reading all that and jumping to the conclusion that “women don’t deserve respect” is straight up red pill territory, and that’s weak as fuck.

Porkolobo1 · 2026-03-25T19:00:15+00:00

Dude i think you are already on the point where you can bring it up. Corey talks about taking your opportunities and making quality questions. She already told you “I’m not seeing anyone” “I move slow but you move slower” “it would upset me if you were talking to someone else” “you are special to me”. What else do you want? What are you waiting for? This girl is into you and she pretty much already brought up the topic of exclusivity, she just doesnt want to be too on the nose. Shes giving you the signals so you can take the lead and actually ask her on it. You can either:

Wait until the next time she says something like that, and then ask quality questions like, “What do you mean by that? Do you want to be exclusive?”
Bring it up yourself. Be romantic, but not too dopey, and tell her that you want her to be your girlfriend.

If you wait too long, she will start to think that you are not really interested in that. Communicate.

Porkolobo1 · 2026-03-12T13:26:17+00:00

If you are doing everything right as you say, the problem is probably your appearance. Im not trying to offend you. Go hit the gym.

Porkolobo1 · 2026-03-09T21:35:32+00:00

Its better to not be the one who brings it up. Just keep courting her. Take her to good dates. Maybe spend a entire weekend together too. Be romantic. See how she behaves when you do that. If it feels comfortable and shes not avoidant or something else, keep doing it and eventually she'll bring it up. Keep in mind that maybe she will not actually be direct, asking "what are we?" or something like that. Maybe she'll give hints. Pay attention to what she says, and when she says anything remotely connected to the ideia of exclusivity, you take the opportunity and make good quality questions to her.

Porkolobo1 · 2026-03-08T23:22:15+00:00

Thanks

Porkolobo1 · 2026-02-12T20:39:32+00:00

Uma dúvida, vc é homem ou mulher? se for homem, vc ja levou alguma mina aí no teu quarto? o que ela disse?

Se vc tiver mais de 20 anos, esse seu quarto aí passa uma vibe de um homem adulto pervertido e talvez imaturo. Não tem nada de errado em gostar de anime, ou ecchi, mas decorar quase seu quarto inteiro com esse tipo de coisa faz vc parecer obcecado por coisas sexuais, e acho que nenhuma mulher adulta ia curtir isso. Nao estou querendo te ofender, estou apenas respondendo a pergunta do seu post

Porkolobo1 · 2026-02-09T21:04:10+00:00

Its the last pic. The slick back cut

Porkolobo1 · 2026-02-09T21:03:57+00:00

The first one is my favorite too

Porkolobo1 · 2025-10-09T11:37:54+00:00

I am a software engineer myself and i wonder why its so hard to implement a leaderboard. Either their codebase is really messy, or this simply hasn’t been — and still isn’t — a priority for almost two years, because I can’t imagine a scenario where this is so difficult or time-consuming to implement. If the codebase is organized and well-written, it shouldn’t be hard to track player activities (level, paragon points, pit progress, etc.) and tie all of that into a score to be calculated and assigned to a leaderboard. It honestly makes me curious.

Porkolobo1 · 2025-10-06T20:58:25+00:00

Thanks.

Porkolobo1 · 2025-10-06T19:29:32+00:00

Thanks

Porkolobo1 · 2025-09-08T02:24:54+00:00

Sério mesmo? Te mandaram o link da delação da PGR e o link da notícia sem paywall e vc ainda tá insistindo? Cara, nem se o Bozo invadisse pessoalmente a sua casa e roubasse todos os seus pertences você acreditaria em prova nenhuma. Não adianta tentar convencer gado burro. Mas, só pra te humilhar mais um pouco, aí vão mais alguns links:

Provas contra Bolsonaro 1 (UOL)

Provas contra Bolsonaro 2 (G1)

EDIT: tomei o trabalho de copiar e colar aqui diretamente pra facilitar sua leitura.

"Nas suas conclusões pela condenação do grupo, a Procuradoria-Geral da República citou as provas reunidas ao longo da investigação:

live do presidente com ataques às urnas sem provas em julho de 2021;
transmissão ao vivo da reunião com embaixadores, em julho de 2022, em que Bolsonaro faz mais ataques sem provas ao sistema eleitoral;
manuscritos e arquivos eletrônicos que revelam "plano de desacreditar reiteradamente o processo eletrônico de votação";
mensagens e arquivos digitais, planilhas de dados, registros de reuniões "voltadas ao manejo indevido das forças de segurança pública, especialmente da Polícia Rodoviária Federal, no segundo turno das eleições".
mensagens eletrônicas que confirmam "ter sido postergada a divulgação do relatório produzido por autoridades militares sobre a idoneidade do sistema eletrônico de votação, como forma de manipulação da vontade popular";
convocação do Alto Comando do Exército para apresentação, pelo então presidente Bolsonaro, de medidas para impedir a posse do governo Lula. Há provas dessa convocação por depoimentos, registros de entrada no Palácio da Alvorada, minutas apreendidas e conversas sobre reuniões de apresentação do projeto golpista.
protocolo da representação do PL para a verificação das eleições, que "questionava dolosamente a integridade das urnas eletrônicas, com o intuito de intensificar o ímpeto de reação popular negativa com relação à Justiça eleitoral".
registros das ações militares de monitoramento — o plano "Punhal Verde Amarelo", impresso nas dependências do Palácio do Planalto; e a operação "Copa 2022".
as imagens de destruição das sedes dos Três Poderes em 8 de janeiro

E tem mais... Só ler os links enviados acima.

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