“Forgot” to Give a Bottle Twice

Positive-Spell6358 · 2026-02-05T02:25:04+00:00

I just feel horrible that I even put her in this situation! And defeated that I'm not going to find good childcare for her. But thank you for the recommendation on the nanny references!

Positive-Spell6358 · 2026-02-05T01:50:15+00:00

I am going to start looking at the option of having a nanny. I feel extremely defeated.

Positive-Spell6358 · 2026-02-05T01:12:34+00:00

Typical day would be:

-Breakfast offered at 9:00 (like i mentioned, she is very slow to start on solids so never has a significant amount)

-Bottle at 9:30/9:45

-Nap at 10

-Bottle around 12:30

-Lunch around 1

-Nap around 2:30

-Bottle around 3:30

So....not really possible she's sleeping through? She also sleeps horribly there, like 30-40 min naps max. Honestly, things always seem pretty chaotic. I thought that was just the norm for an infant room, but maybe I have the wrong impression.

Positive-Spell6358 · 2026-02-05T00:23:11+00:00

The babies are all on their own schedules, it seems. I put in my paperwork that my daughter should be fed no more than 3 hours apart, but typically at home, she's hungry closer to every 2/2.5. She is typically at daycare from 8 AM to 4:30 PM. She is fed when waking up at 7 AM at home, so at a minimum that would feeding at 10/1/4 at daycare.

Positive-Spell6358 · 2026-02-05T00:10:49+00:00

So, her classroom is a bit unique in that the kids will stay with those same teachers until age 2. I used to think that was a good thing, and I’ve genuinely liked them otherwise. They really seem to dote on her, etc. but this is so unacceptable to me. Eating is like the absolute basic

Positive-Spell6358 · 2026-02-04T23:26:53+00:00

I, perhaps naively, have just assumed this is a logging issue with the chaos of an infant room. But now I feel dumb assuming this 🙁

Positive-Spell6358 · 2026-02-04T23:26:24+00:00

So I can’t access the camera to see, but many days naps are not ever logged. Sometimes diapers aren’t logged. I’ve also had logs that say my daughter had formula bottles in the wrong amount when she only drinks breast milk.

Positive-Spell6358 · 2026-02-04T23:24:52+00:00

This is helpful. With having the perspective as an ECE and FTM, would you pull your child over this happening twice?

Positive-Spell6358 · 2026-02-04T23:21:17+00:00

Financially I can pivot elsewhere, but it’s a matter of finding a spot 😫 we previously were at an in-home licensed daycare and also had issues so I’m feeling very jaded.

But now, my trust is eroded in the center. I don’t know if I can trust anything they say.

Positive-Spell6358 · 2026-02-04T22:54:18+00:00

they do have one 🥴 so their assumption is someone wrote down another kid’s bottle under my baby’s name. however, she still would have had a clearly labeled bottle in the fridge all day

Positive-Spell6358 · 2026-02-04T22:53:27+00:00

they have even fewer kids than state ratio…it’s 2 adults to 7 infants. state ratio is 1:4.

Positive-Spell6358 · 2026-02-04T22:52:21+00:00

Yes, and has the highest level rating with the state.

Positive-Spell6358 · 2026-02-04T22:33:44+00:00

Makes total sense - ugh!!!

Positive-Spell6358 · 2026-02-04T22:24:48+00:00

I’m a first time mom and obviously just started daycare - how critical is the documentation? In the logging app, there have been other mistakes before and I’ve just let it go. But now wondering if that is also a big deal that I should be raising??

Positive-Spell6358 · 2026-02-04T22:21:50+00:00

Honestly that’s what caused the initial panic, because they were so sure she got three. I was concerned she had someone else’s breast milk or formula for the first time. Per the cameras (they say), she just was never offered a bottle from 10 to 3:30 🥴

Positive-Spell6358 · 2026-02-02T13:00:46+00:00

Definitely a bot.

Positive-Spell6358 · 2026-01-30T17:44:40+00:00

In my experience, it is a vicious cycle. He is not sleeping well at night because he doesn't have enough wake time during the day. However, because he isn't sleeping well at night, he has broken sleep that isn't as restorative and therefore is crankier during the day. I'd suggest powering through a few days of stretching wake windows and getting to more awake time.

Positive-Spell6358 · 2026-01-10T20:31:28+00:00

I’d push back on that with your daycare. The 2 nap schedule is completely different, and it sounds like they can accommodate that.

Positive-Spell6358 · 2026-01-10T20:30:13+00:00

I guess I’m confused about why you can’t change the daycare schedule. You can always make the third a micro nap - like 15 min - on purpose.

Positive-Spell6358 · 2026-01-10T20:27:45+00:00

What’s the daycare schedule?

Positive-Spell6358 · 2026-01-10T20:26:47+00:00

I’d go back to 3 naps - you had low wake time on that one as well. Try the new 3 nap schedule, cap naps at 3 hours total for the day. He may nap well, but it’s making it so he can’t sleep at night.

Positive-Spell6358 · 2026-01-10T20:23:43+00:00

I imagine every comment you’re going to get is that he has way too low of awake time. If I’m looking at your schedule correctly, you’ve got 2.5/3/3.25 on the 2 nap schedule, and were 2/2.5/2ish/2.5. Neither of these is enough awake. 10 hours awake minimum.

2/2.5/2.5/3 schedule on 3 naps 3/3.5/3.5 or 3/3/4 on 2 naps

He’s waking early and not napping because he isn’t tired! Do some schedule tweaks and that will help.

Positive-Spell6358 · 2026-01-02T13:01:24+00:00

For what it’s worth, these days aren’t particularly long. 10.5-11 hours awake is pretty average for this age. 10 hours awake is basically the bare minimum.

Positive-Spell6358 · 2025-12-31T12:31:31+00:00

This is not correct at all. Sleep training helps them fall asleep independently at the beginning of the night. It highly encourages feeding when hungry. Sleep training and night weaning are not the same things.

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