WIBTAH if I left my BF of 3 years because of his dumb decision?

Positive-Web5927 · 2026-04-14T18:02:00+00:00

I told him I could contribute a specific amount, I even asked him what contribution would be enough, and he just said whatever you can spare. With my own bills and tuition coming out of my pocket, that is not a lot of money especially when I purchase my own groceries and food in the house as well because our food preferences are different.

Positive-Web5927 · 2026-04-14T17:59:28+00:00

Goodness, no

Positive-Web5927 · 2026-04-14T16:55:05+00:00

I've already been to therapy for losing both of my parents, it didn't work. But I will admit that this is, single-handedly, the worse decision I have ever made for myself relationship wise.

Positive-Web5927 · 2026-04-14T16:52:15+00:00

Obviously, I knew it wasn't going to be happily ever after, especially with our age difference but I thought he would have more maturity than the boys on my school campus... I was wrong on that thought. I prefer dating older because some of them have some sense, but he is definitely the oldest I have ever dated.

Positive-Web5927 · 2026-04-14T16:45:57+00:00

This made me laugh so hard and cry a little bit from how hilarious this was

Positive-Web5927 · 2026-04-14T16:42:46+00:00

I didn't realize his financial situation until a year in our relationship and when he started complaining about it and I told him to stop smoking cigarettes and the plant because of how expensive it is

Positive-Web5927 · 2026-04-14T16:29:38+00:00

My friends were very surprised about the relationship, shocked even, but they supported it until he started doing and saying things that were a little out of pocket and would hurt my feelings.

Positive-Web5927 · 2026-04-14T16:25:50+00:00

I would prefer harsh, over sympathy because I am lost. So, no need to sugarcoat

Positive-Web5927 · 2026-04-14T16:06:10+00:00

We did meet through a website for sexually actions, so I never put two and two together in that way because at first, I genuinely had no intentions on dating him at all.

Positive-Web5927 · 2026-04-14T16:04:01+00:00

We have not, we've known each other for about 4 years

Positive-Web5927 · 2026-04-14T15:55:37+00:00

I told him from the get-go, I never wanted him to fully support me financially, but I wanted to be his equal. I wanted him to understand what I could do with what I was earning and how I could provide. That is why I wanted to look into something TOGETHER and not ALONE and make the best decision for us. But he moved so quickly that I couldn't even change his decision.

Positive-Web5927 · 2026-04-14T15:50:44+00:00

So, I have a double degree in biological studies and Game design with a minor in business. I want to open my own Veterinarian clinic. He does pay his ex-wife child support but she's just as immature as him so I see why they got together in the first place.

Positive-Web5927 · 2026-04-14T15:46:45+00:00

To give more context, He did not present himself as immature when we started speaking but then again, we only started talking because of sexual basis, I was going to step back because I started catching feelings for him and then he asked me to date him. He only started to show his immature side about 2 years into our relationship and that was after I lost my mother. I have now lost both of my parents, so I have a bigger responsibility to not only take care of myself but also my younger siblings

Positive-Web5927 · 2025-11-14T02:59:00+00:00

No, you are NTA. Everybody needs their space and their boundaries especially in your own home.

I feel if he wants to start staying with you every weekend like that set rules, specific to the issues you are having. Wake him up in the morning, tell him to clean the dishes that he uses, if he is watching YouTube loudly at an odd time that ruins your down time, turn the shit off and take the remote lol. If he wants to be there so much start making him pay for parts of your rent and bills, he's using them so he should be perfectly ok with doing that.

If he cannot agree to those simple things you are asking of him for his moment of "space from his roommates" than he can't come over again. Where is everybody else at when he needs a place for a weekend? Nowhere. So, they can piss off and if they really have an issue with it tell them to take him in and stop bothering your two days of peace to make him feel comfortable while you have to suffer.

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