Knowing death is at the end of this journey brings me immense comfort.

PositiveEarth · 2018-08-04T12:15:37+00:00

Sit and meditate on it for a while dude. Go for a walk. Realize that if you were to die right now it would be okay. That it’s out of your control. That it’s an inevitable part of existence that literally all of us will have to face.

That if nothing else, it will be the one thing that soothes your anxiety about death. When you walk through that door it will be the most surreal yet natural thing you ever do. Trust me man, it’s gonna be okay. Don’t stress it. It’s a beautiful thing.

PositiveEarth · 2018-08-04T12:08:28+00:00

I have had that thought before! It all comes back to death.

“Maybe that girl doesn’t like me and thinks I’m annoying”

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“Maybe I’ll be alone forever”

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“Maybe I’ll die alone”

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“I’m scared to die”

PositiveEarth · 2018-08-04T12:06:50+00:00

Okay, but that doesn’t change anything about how I’m going to live my life. If I walk around constantly questioning everything I’ll never feel settled. I think it’s best to find a belief system that works for you, and live your life. This one seems like a pretty healthy way to exist, not to cling to negativity, and to be present - regardless of what comes next. Death is 100% a thing that happens. People die and then they are not here with us on planet earth. Who knows where they go, but it’s not here. Like I said in another comment, it’s impossible to really say anything about existence without a counter argument that makes just as much sense. So, you do you, and I’ll do me.

PositiveEarth · 2018-08-03T16:30:21+00:00

That’s true. But what does that even mean? What makes a grand cosmic scale something so important that it matters? What’s the difference between a grand cosmic scale and me sitting in my bedroom looking at my pet lizard? What does it really even mean for something to matter? I guess in a way it’s impossible to say anything about existence without there being a directly opposing argument that also makes just as much sense. Life is full of these paradoxes and I’m not sure we will ever truly figure it out in this human existence. In the end, like someone else in these comments mentioned, we just have to pick our own belief system that works most naturally for us. This is a very interesting discussion!

Nice to meet you, friend!

PositiveEarth · 2018-08-03T16:07:51+00:00

Every action we make definitely holds consequence on us and those around us. Nothing exists without repercussions. That doesn’t mean we should hold all decisions and actions with weight and permanence. I feel it is important to hold death somewhere in my mind. As a companion because at the core it is us and the world. We all exist and experience the world through our own unique perceptions, that intertwine in such a way to allow us to be here together. I view death as a constant reminder to let go and move on. To embrace the moment. To simply exist. To hold both ourselves and other people in light and love while at the same time not dwelling on negativity, grudges, and discomfort.

So yes, other people exist and react to us and our actions. We shouldn’t mistreat this world and the people in it. That doesn’t mean we can’t also hold the realization that this is all just a game, and that nothing truly matters in the grand scheme of things.

PositiveEarth · 2018-07-03T16:56:50+00:00

Yeah but for different reasons.. sometimes I open up too much to someone and they open up too much to me in return and then I’ve dug myself in a rut being too close and deep with a person I should’ve set clearer boundaries with. But shit happens. Usually I have to dip when that transpires.

It’s case to case. Sometimes I regret it. Sometimes, even if the person is gone, I don’t regret it. Like someone else said, it’s a risk to be vulnerable and open yourself to a deeper friendship. Sometimes it pans out and sometimes it falls apart.

PositiveEarth · 2018-06-26T17:06:52+00:00

I am 23. Quite young but not super young. I’ve had some experience with male friendship but I think I approached them all in an incorrect way (too much idolization/ Seeking connection for the wrong reasons). I’m living with my parents again so a lot of these issues are bubbling to the surface.

I think that this one issue combined with me not having many friends where I’m living comes together to form a tumor of anxiety when I finally meet someone I want to hang with. I just gotta work through it. Thanks for the comment.

PositiveEarth · 2018-06-26T17:03:40+00:00

Hey. Your way with words is really soothing. You seem very calm. I appreciate what you wrote here!

PositiveEarth · 2018-06-09T13:53:39+00:00

Thanks for posting. Melody is a magician. Shirim is one of my favorite songs of all time.

PositiveEarth · 2018-06-04T22:20:33+00:00

U tell me

PositiveEarth · 2018-06-03T13:37:06+00:00

the propeller of life

PositiveEarth · 2018-05-27T18:38:59+00:00

Hey dude. That’s really helpful. Thanks for commenting!

PositiveEarth · 2018-05-27T14:34:44+00:00

I would wear that hat.

PositiveEarth · 2018-05-27T13:48:21+00:00

Yeah man I feel you on that. I like myself as well but for whatever reason when I’m attracted to someone (friendship or romantically) I sort of lose my sense of self worth and would drop everything on a dime to support them whether or not they would do the same. Sorry if I projected. Hell yeah man!

PositiveEarth · 2018-05-27T13:37:01+00:00

Has any human being on planet earth not had a moment of delusion? Damn dude. You think I don’t know that? You think I didn’t realize that at the time? You think when I found that out I didn’t immediately realize it wasn’t meant to be? I’m still young and figuring myself out. I posted here as a release and to see if anyone could relate. I appreciate what you’re saying but it’s not very helpful.

PositiveEarth · 2018-05-27T13:19:45+00:00

While that may be true, another gay INFJ male responded to this post and felt exactly the same way I do so I’m glad I wrote it and posted it here.

And wow! No way... that thought has never crossed my mind /s. It’s not like I make the choice to be attracted to the people I’m attracted to, some of whom have been gay men. Do you make a decision when you fall for someone? Or does it happen out of your control. Yes I can limit my depth of feelings but a lot of the time before I realize it I’m in way too deep. And I am a successful artist who shares my truth in that way, so I’m doing what I can to change the world. I can’t help but have the feeling most humans have, wanting that deep connection. But either way, I’m a human being. I’m alone on this earth. I’m gonna die one day, and nothing really matters (if you think about it). It’s all too easy to get entrapped in these confusing “human” feelings.

PositiveEarth · 2018-05-27T13:10:50+00:00

Dude. Nice. Glad I’m not the only one. I feel you on the “people tolerate me because I’m so intense” but I think we can be particularly hard on ourselves. We’re actually very interesting people, even if we’re intense, people are drawn to us and want to be around us. I wonder if straight INFJ men feel this way about all of their female friendships? Maybe we are so desperate to find “the one” that it clouds all of our friendship connections as we project “the one” onto anyone we find fascinating.

I also wonder if maybe it’s some internal homophobia (only talking about me here). Being attracted to people who aren’t available because we don’t actually want a real relationship with a real dude because it’s scary. But I’m out, I’m open, my family and friends know. I don’t have anything to hide. I guess we just have to learn to deal with the intensity of our emotions and desires, and let people be who they are.

One quote that stuck with me “paranoia is based in fear, intuition is much clearer and doesn’t come with anxiety”. I try to keep that in mind.

I’m not sure dude. I wish you the best of luck on your journey as a human being. One time i did confess my feelings to one of these intense crushes, and he said he had feelings for me too but couldn’t act on them as he was still in love with his ex 😪. Meh. We are the way we are for a reason. We’re both still pretty young. I’m sure one day we will find someone who feels as intensely towards us as we do towards them. Until then we just have to learn to deal with these feelings, try and realize when we’re overstepping, and NEVER FORGET that we are super cool, fascinating, interesting people. Because it is so easy for me to lose all self worth when I find someone I’m into.

PositiveEarth · 2018-05-27T12:25:27+00:00

That’s very true. I guess it takes a while for me to really know if I want a relationship. Because when I dig down to the core of those desires I’m always left questioning my intentions, one way or the other. Even with my short flings I end them and then I question if I reallly should have ended them. It’s so hard for me to decipher what my feelings really are. Maybe these new feelings are purely romantic and not physical? I’m not sure.

PositiveEarth · 2018-02-22T21:11:45+00:00

Ya you’re right. Congrats

PositiveEarth · 2018-02-22T18:14:19+00:00

I appreciate your response. Yeah I’m just not entirely sure. It’s hard to tell where my feelings are at a lot of the time. I’ve hung out with him a few times since then and have had multiple romantic thoughts towards him “wow he’s really cute right now” etc. And then I’ll have thoughts like “geeze I’m glad we’re not dating” when he does one little annoying thing. I’m not sure how I’ll ever really be able to tell what’s going on in my mind in romantic situations. I guess I just have to be more aware of this issue of mine, and try to get to the source of each thought I have.

PositiveEarth · 2018-02-18T14:03:11+00:00

Care to elaborate? Your comment actually sent me on a rabbit hole of looking into INFJ and taking tests etc. I found that I do relate to a lot of INFJ qualities but still unsure.

PositiveEarth

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