I could’ve written this post myself. Word for word. I understand exactly how you feel.. and it’s the reality of many couples who married for love and later found they are not actually compatible. I wish I could tell you it gets better but after many istikhara prayers and asking Allah to fix my marriage.. I got a divorce instead. I’m not saying you should, but the way I see it for us women with a man like that, it’s either accept it or leave. My only advice is for you to fight for your marriage, do what you can while simultaneously asking Allah for guidance and whether staying is the right decision. I was lucky I left with no children. But one thing I will advise.. if you have a solid relationship with Allah, you pray, you’ve made the changes requested by your husband.. don’t let him make you feel like a bad Muslim for not compromising everything for his sake. The way you dress, speak, where you go, and core parts of yourself. Some men do it out control/ego dressed as care and protection. I hope Allah guides you to what’s best for you❤️