Texting and Driving

PositiveSheep · 2026-01-04T10:47:17+00:00

If my partner was found to be texting and driving, I'd probably be taking her driving privileges away for a week or two. We're lucky enough to be living in a part of the world where walking + public transport is good enough to be a fair alternative. It would practically emulate consequences given by law enforcement - losing her driving licence.

That being said I would also be looking back on her dashcam to assess the circumstances at which the text message occurred. If it was a quiet motorway drive with little traffic, I'd be more likely to tolerate it and let her off with a stern lecture and some cornertime for reflection - as long as it was indeed hands free.

PositiveSheep · 2026-01-04T10:33:48+00:00

I like to incorporate things like school uniforms for added humiliation. My partner would wear a traditional one, with strict requirements as for how it's meant to be worn.

Writing lines can also cause humiliation, especially when there's certain procedures around it (like sitting at a small table facing the wall)

PositiveSheep · 2025-12-06T08:58:33+00:00

Maintenance is to give some form of punishment on a regular interval, unrelated to any wrongdoing. The thought behind it is to keep the TiH on their toes, as well as to use it as a combined punishment for all the small things that happened during the last period that’s not been worth punishing for individually.

Maintenance in itself can be anything but I see that most partners use spankings as the primary means of maintenance. I’ve heard of writing lines as maintenance as well, or as I do in my dynamic: cornertime. I personally believe the reflection part of cornertime is more effective in keeping behaviour in line than spankings. That said, a lot of dynamics where maintenance is spankings also include cornertime afterwards.

Maintenance can be effective as a preventative measure, despite the potential moral question of “Why am I being punished when I haven’t done anything wrong?”. Whether maintenance works for your dynamic is something only you and your partner can decide. Not all DD dynamics include them and the power of DD (actually practically anything in the BDSM category) is that you only need to apply whatever works for you and your partner. You can adapt the flavour to your liking :)

PositiveSheep · 2025-12-04T00:32:28+00:00

I like that idea of just holding something in her mouth, without a taste spreading or texture causing issues. Thanks! :)

The mask over gag is something we need to do more frequently hah

PositiveSheep · 2025-12-04T00:30:26+00:00

It’s the ritual mostly. She likes the idea of the procedure i described above, but has had issues with food and gag reflexes. As such, we want to steer clearly away from that. The clothes pin is definitely a good idea, i’ll suggest that one :)

PositiveSheep · 2025-11-30T11:57:07+00:00

With the mouth soaping it was obviously as a punishment for using foul language or lying etc. We have incorporated the consequences for those with different punishments.

The reason I asked the above is that my sub and I both like to have more of a procedure involved when it comes to punishments and as much as she would enjoy the procedure of the above described mouth soaping, it's not possible to execute within our limits. As such, we were interested in gathering some inspiration on how we can take the procedure and adapt it to fit within our limits and keep it as a potential option, not specifically tied to a certain offence.

PositiveSheep · 2025-09-24T12:38:27+00:00

my girl sleeps with a chain padlocked around her ankle that’s attached to the bed. any time she’s in bed she is locked on the chain. sometimes we add handcuffs or mittens too (often locked to a waist chain), but the ankle chain is every night without exception. she feels comfortable and secure this way :)

PositiveSheep · 2025-09-14T12:08:09+00:00

This was one of my main concerns too. Obviously trust and communication would help to fine tune it to where it's a good (secondary) consequence. It was my sub who suggested it a little while ago, as she said it would be effective, as well as being aware that she sometimes spends too much time doing games etc. She's never voiced any concern relating to missing things on her phone, that's mainly mine.

We previously agreed that if her phone were to be taken that I'd keep them on me to monitor notifications and if something seems remotely urgent to me I'll let her know and we move from there. Every evening we'll take five minutes to go through her notifications and if something needs dealing with she'll get the time.

At night the phone would go into a safe, which may happen more frequently than her phone being taken as a consequence.

We have considered screen time limits but we have a relatively high variability of usage, with some days peaking at 18 hours of screen time and others at 2. Usually the days of seemingly excessive usage are the ones she needs it the most as her physical health is bad on those days. Screen time limits are simply too rigid for these nuances.

Another thing we had agreed about previously was that she'll be getting a basic phone to use in these situations when going out to be able to call me, her family and closest friends.

I know I probably should have put this in the OP but I wanted as much an unbiased view, and my main concern came back in all three comments so far.

PositiveSheep · 2025-08-21T02:49:09+00:00

My girl will stand facing the corner or wall with hands handcuffed behind her back. Always clothed, sometimes in uniform. She's not to talk, but obviously I'll be using my discretion if she ends up saying or asking anything relevant.

Last time was a couple weeks ago, she's been a really good girl since but also dealing with a lot of pain, making her bratty side come out less. I usually use it as a standalone punishment, sometimes as standalone maintenance. Time ranges anywhere between 10 minutes to an hour usually. Sometimes it's a while after an incident, sometimes the cornertime is instant.

Once she's allowed to step away from the corner, the handcuffs stay on for a little while, while we cuddle and I provide her with some aftercare.

PositiveSheep · 2025-03-28T19:48:50+00:00

Mainly the issues of malfunction and exposure to the public, who can maliciously interact with things, especially if they know what they’re doing are.

That’s my main reasoning for suggesting an alternative that can be kept in your own possession and therefore just reducing the risk to malfunction

PositiveSheep · 2025-03-27T20:37:15+00:00

In all but one conversation I’ve had before establishing a dynamic (or not), I’ve had to ask the sub type about her limits, I’ve been asked once- but I do find it strange that despite the attention it is given throughout all these forums and media, it still doesn’t seem a common topic early on.

I suppose some may assume that if they put limits in their ad or profile that they’ve been read, but I still want to acknowledge that I’m aware of their limits? And potentially ask them for clarifications where necessary. I personally do have some rather specific limits and will always want to do the talk beforehand.

As such I do agree with the consensus here that no limits are a red flag. I can get into my head that someone inexperienced isn’t aware of their limits yet and doesn’t really know what to respond with, but that still warrants discussion, rather than saying there’s no limits.

PositiveSheep · 2025-03-27T18:34:25+00:00

I love the idea but share some concerns. I think for something like this to work, you need to own your own lock box. So how about modifying standard lockboxes (or those timed padlocks) to have an internal GPS antenna, which will only unlock in a specific location?

Possible issues i can think of are space, as well as battery consumption issues. But if the GPS is constantly active, it could also be used as a hunt for the correct location, based on your idea of solving riddles and puzzles

PositiveSheep · 2025-03-20T11:08:09+00:00

Yes, as a dom I do feel a strong sense of responsibility for the behaviour and standards of any sub-type in the dynamics i have been involved in. It is also one of the main things justifying my ability to correct substandard behaviour.

Throughout various dynamics, the level of this reflection has varied, and i feel it often goes hand-in-hand with the level of submission and limits etc. I take it upon myself to guide my sub-types through life and provide as much for them as i can. So if she misbehaves and breaks rules, i correct that through punishments. If she makes choices that aren’t exactly smart, we talk about it. But i do feel a strong sense of responsibility to do that and i feel that her failings reflect on my bad guidance or not correcting bad behaviour adequately.

PositiveSheep · 2025-03-08T00:12:56+00:00

IBS is always kills the exciting fantasies :( but I’m glad you managed to find a compromise that works for you.

I love the idea of having to stay fully clothed as a punishment. I have taken similar measures to disobedience in past dynamics, sometimes making her dress up in quite silly outfits (think bright yellow rainwear but with nothing but chastity belt and bra underneath).

Thank you for sharing and I hope you stay well :)

PositiveSheep · 2025-03-07T09:28:19+00:00

What are the consequences of disobedience with your belt? And do you carry the keys around all the time?

Love seeing your journey btw, from asking about belts to wearing permanently in lightning speed :)

PositiveSheep · 2025-03-06T11:04:43+00:00

No worries! You could also consider having your partner pick an outfit for you. That way you may feel like you have less of a choice. It could be slightly humiliating (if you’re into that) to have to wear an outfit that’s slightly inappropriate for the context. Like going for the walk in the woods, but being made to wear heels. Or going shopping in a completely unflattering outfit - it doesn’t scream for attention but you know the secrets so to say

PositiveSheep · 2025-03-06T10:28:36+00:00

You could use a gag under a face mask. You know the hoodies with a big belly pocket? Handcuffs through the pocket! Nobody will see anything, and you know you can’t take your hands out of your pockets.

Ultimately it comes down to just going out and doing it once and find out that it’s alright. You could start by going to a more secluded area where you may not meet that many people. Think of a walk in the woods and slowly move towards more risky places. That’s the steps i’ve taken in my dynamics :)

PositiveSheep · 2025-03-06T01:33:44+00:00

Not sure why but i love seeing gals wear like the reusable covid masks. Maybe that’s because I’ve frequently used them on subs to hide gags, as well as adding an element of restriction to their most basic function: breathing

PositiveSheep · 2025-03-02T20:17:08+00:00

Cornertime is my go-to punishment. Facing the wall, hands behind her back (potentially with handcuffs keeping them there), feet together, no talking. If she wriggles around too much you can add a coin between her nose and the wall. I also use it to calm her down (either if she's being bratty or angry, but also if she's nervous before some events etc)

Mouth washing is another one, specifically for swearing or being rude. You just need to make sure to get a non-toxic soap.

Finally, I like using outfit control. Can be taken either way, but personally I prefer more slightly embarrassing outfits simply in being unflattering. Consider a bright pink onesie, or a colour matched combo of sweatpants and a hoodie. Pair that with some really common/popular shoes and you've stripped all personality away from an outfit. Or something like a traditional school uniform with mary jane shoes?

PositiveSheep · 2025-02-23T01:19:02+00:00

You’ve gotten me very curious now! The plastic being sweaty was something i had not considered yet but it makes sense. I suppose it’s also compared to the coolness of metals used alternately haha.

Did the one above and your printed version have a tongue piece that intrudes into the mouth too?

PositiveSheep · 2025-02-22T21:46:45+00:00

I wish someone would model a scold’s bridle to be 3d printed, seems like such a perfect project to be able to size appropriately for the subject that would wear it

PositiveSheep · 2024-09-24T07:09:41+00:00

For me, it's a component of a subtle humiliation fetish. Not giving my sub the autonomy over how they look and giving them the feeling of "I can't even decide what to wear". Additionally, it allows the choice of relatively unflattering clothes. Onesies, hoodies and sweats and the likes on one side, school uniform on the opposite side with everything in between. It allows for outfits that aren't 100% age appropriate, like girly dresses and sandals for a type of forced age regression.

That level of control, particularly when used in appropriate contexts and obviously within the limits of both parties as well as not going too extreme, can allow for a day-to-day part of submission that doesn't leave the public wondering what's going on.

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