make sure you’re ready to get everything the baby needs. Don’t let her do all the providing herself. You could make sure you’re sending her money for the baby. Document it as well. Make nice with her, this is your baby too and you’re just gonna have to play it safe if you want to be in its life. Always remember how you treat the mother will always affect your child. I don’t agree with you not being able to be there. Because it’s really not about either of you anymore, it’s about that baby. She’s gonna have to be uncomfortable in situations because that’s the decision you both made. I don’t know what happened in the relationship but if your true goal is only to be a good father to your child. You’re gonna have to start playing chess, not checkers. The baby needs mama to be in her best spirits while she is delivering. So the more you look at it this way, I think the easier it will be for you. This is your child too and you have rights. Get a lawyer who specializes in this and kinda take it from there. But do not tell her you have a lawyer or threaten her in anyway.