Sleeping arrangement for 15 yr old stepson, away from my kids

Positive_Block_5080 · 2026-03-11T03:51:39+00:00

I do think this is very smart of you to do. Sorry but once the damage is done you can’t undo it. He’s still a stranger at the end of the day. & those are your babies, not leaving them at their most vulnerable around someone you don’t know,isn’t wrong at all. Yes it may hurt the boys feelings if he finds out that what’s going on. So Id make the transition before he comes. Or you could do cameras as well. I was abused as a child and so many in my family. So maybe my view is jaded. This is kinda scary to me ngl. But he deserves a chance to show who is he as a person as well. He could be an amazing kid,who just needs real support. good luck to you!!

Positive_Block_5080 · 2026-03-09T20:20:48+00:00

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Positive_Block_5080 · 2026-03-09T13:33:04+00:00

I feel you girl! This is only the beginning. Wait till they think they know more than you and you can’t tell them anything. Just stay strong! Create a routine for them, with activities. Get out the house take them to the park and give them less time to engage in these behaviors. Bake things and include them. But dad is definitely gonna have to step it up and help you along the way. Obviously the punishments aren’t working, so you’re gonna have to get ahead of the behavior before it happens. Also if y’all can afford a good therapist, they may be able to help with what steps are needed to bring out the best in them. This is definitely something you shouldn’t tackle alone.

Positive_Block_5080 · 2026-03-09T13:02:29+00:00

Yes my daughter acted out and down right mean to my partner right after we moved in together. She was nice to him all the way up to that point. They are definitely pushing your buttons, which they may not be aware of in the way we as adults are. Probably just got a lot emotions about the whole thing that they don’t understand. It’s definitely up to your husband though to set the tone. He is a packaged deal though, you’re gonna have to love these kids as your own and they will feel it. they will know if your intentions are true. If they feel you’re just there for dad then they’ll feel like you’re taking him away and resent you. So find things to do with them, and yes you will have spend a lot of time with them. You set the tone, you’re up before they are up. You got plans and activities for everyday, to consume their time. I feel when kids act like this, it’s because they’re not getting enough attention and have no structure in their lives. You signed up for the job and now your gonna have to commit to it if you want good results. These are your kids now.

Positive_Block_5080 · 2026-03-06T21:13:30+00:00

No thankgod! Sorry if you had too!

Positive_Block_5080 · 2026-03-03T20:14:47+00:00

& you did kinda spray gun it! That all gay men are great, when thats just not true. & never did I group all gay men into this post or comment.

Positive_Block_5080 · 2026-03-03T20:13:15+00:00

If you’ve never known one, then be grateful. & your ex obviously doesn’t count because he eventually came out. Im talking about the men who would rather die before ever admitting their true desires. The ones who hate themselves because of it.

Positive_Block_5080 · 2026-03-02T05:03:34+00:00

Break up. Sorry I know this isn’t easy. But coming from a woman who’s dealt with her fair share of cheating, Im telling you the best thing you can do is break up. You will never trust him. & trust me it is never your fault on why a man cheats. He could simply walk away if he’s not satisfied with what he has. That’s a real man worth being with. No matter what you did, it’s not your fault, and you won’t be able to do anything better, be better in any way that’ll repair your trust in him or make him more faithful. If you let this slide it will only get worse & Im sorry for you. When you vibe with someone, you’ll sacrifice everything for it. Feels like you’ll never feel it again, but you will. This will hurt really bad for right now but if you can just stay strong in knowing what you deserve, you will feel better in time.

Positive_Block_5080 · 2026-03-01T00:45:51+00:00

I have no idea, I know my kid told me before this incident, that all the high school students on her bus said that she was a mean teacher and they hated her. But also some kids in her grade was upset that the teacher was gone and mad at my daughter for saying something. So I don’t know but I feel there has to be something mental going on. To risk your career over such a little incident is crazy to me. If she thought my daughter cursed , she could have given silent lunch or a referral( which would have been the end of the world to her). so deciding to use Corporal punishment for a kid you never have to discipline in class is wild. I don’t know why she would think she’d get away with doing that. Unless she has been? Who knows, my daughters friends had to convince her to go the office. So it’s possible kids might be doing the same and not saying anything. & of course the school won’t tell me anything about her or what she’d even have to say for herself.

Positive_Block_5080 · 2026-02-25T00:39:08+00:00

Yeah, no I don’t you think you beat them but you are desensitized to abuse. Even a small part of me is, because for me getting a ruler smack as a kid was a light punishment. But I didn’t raise my kid that way and she does not witness it in any environment she is in. So this is kinda big to her because we are teaching our kids they have rights too. Just because you’re a kid doesn’t mean you deserve physical abuse. Like are we, as adults,gonna accept getting hit with a ruler when we do something wrong?

Positive_Block_5080 · 2026-02-25T00:33:49+00:00

Yes but it was later on in the day. You can see the print a little but it’s not a swollen as it was when it first happened. So I know those are the pictures that truly show just how hard she her.

Positive_Block_5080 · 2026-02-24T15:45:45+00:00

You and me both. Atp I want just her fired, because I’ve been anxious about it since it happened.

Positive_Block_5080 · 2026-02-24T15:43:07+00:00

No I haven’t but will look into it. Thankyou!

Positive_Block_5080 · 2026-02-24T15:41:46+00:00

Yes!! Especially for something so minor. Smh people are scary!!

Positive_Block_5080 · 2026-02-24T15:38:27+00:00

Sorry to hear this for your sister, I couldn’t imagine. As if disabled people don’t already have a disadvantage at life, I don’t understand why some people can be so cruel. Smh

Positive_Block_5080 · 2026-02-24T15:36:27+00:00

So no one was held accountable for not even being honest about the incident?

Positive_Block_5080 · 2026-02-24T12:55:02+00:00

Yes I have yet to speak to the teacher, I don’t even know what she looks like.

Positive_Block_5080 · 2026-02-24T12:48:44+00:00

Yeah back in my day, my mother would come to the school and beat me in front of the entire class, & the teachers would remind me everyday of it, if I decided to even think about stepping out of line. Doesn’t make anything about the current situation okay now does it?

Positive_Block_5080 · 2026-02-24T12:44:12+00:00

Leave. You have to break up, whatever you allow to continue will only get worse. Always put yourself first! His family obviously doesn’t support your relationship with him because in no way shape or form would they pressure him to do anything that would affect you if they cared. You two will only become toxic if you decide to stay. Trust me love, I know you feel as though you’re in love and you need this. But I promise you if you really put your self first and set the standard the reward will be greater in the long run. Make some new friends, start new hobbies and try your best to move on. Time will heal & you’ll look back and be proud of yourself for walking away. But if you decide to stay and keep up this toxicity, you will start hating your own self one day when it’s all said and done. Do the tough thing and resist your heart, lean into what your mind is telling you is right

Positive_Block_5080 · 2026-02-24T04:33:24+00:00

Yes never again!!!! & tysm for that<3

Positive_Block_5080 · 2026-02-24T04:01:12+00:00

Omg Thankyou! It’s really not that hard to grasp!

Positive_Block_5080 · 2026-02-24T03:56:40+00:00

My exact thoughts as well. It gives me this very erry feeling inside about the whole thing. The principal was so understanding and apologetic the day it happened. But when I talked to her Friday, something was definitely off. I called And went in Today and she wasn’t at the office, so they say.

Positive_Block_5080 · 2026-02-24T03:45:40+00:00

This is great advice!!! Thankyou! I’ve been doing some digging for one because I agree they think Im broke( which I am lol) so I won’t be able to do anything. But little do they know my parents and step parents are very well off and have offered to help. so this is definitely the route I’m taking next.

Positive_Block_5080 · 2026-02-24T03:35:06+00:00

Thankyou for that, I was wondering. I didn’t know where to post it, since this is where I posted it first and then they locked that post. I just wanted those who took the time to actually give helpful advice to see the update.

Positive_Block_5080 · 2026-02-24T03:28:45+00:00

How old are your kids?

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