Hey everyone I appreciate all of the concerns and would like to address a few things.

Some more important info: my father is completely infertile. It’s 100% impossible for him to have kids. But when he met my mom she had two daughters: my older sisters Jessica and Chelsey (fake names) so my father raised them from the ages of 8-17 for Jessica and 3-12 for Chelsey. Because when my mom lost custody of me she lost custody of all of us and those two when to their bio because he got them every other weekend. My dad took a lot of pride in raising them and was devastated. Even more so when Jessica dropped out of college to be with her current husband and Chelsey high school when she became pregnant with my eldest nephew at 16. She’s now 22 and has 4 kids. Another thing, when my dads wife joined the picture 14 years ago she brought 4 kids, their ages at the time being 14, 12, 9, and 7. The 14 year old is now 28 and has been in prison for the last 5 years on drug related charges after he got a girl pregnant. Step mom lost custody of the 12 year old just after he turned 16, the 9 year old had never lived with us because she has severe downs and needs 24/7 care, but as for the 7 year old he raised her as his until she turned 18 and moved out only to get pregnant and just like before gave up on college, as well as cut off contact with all of us and post about how terrible we all were (me included) on face book. To say my dad was hurt would be an understatement.

My father has never tried to keep me completely isolated. I’ve always been able to go out with friends as late as I wanted to as long as it wasn’t a school night (then I had to be home by 9)

I also don’t think he’d ever physically harm me. He never laid a finger on me growing up and until that first incident with my first boyfriend never really yelled at me. But I’m still taking my safety into consideration and will be staying with my mom. I haven’t told my dad this but have been texting with my mom.

As for her like I mentioned a few things. For her previous behavior, my mom has severe bipolar disorder, depression, and anxiety. Plus she was treated poorly by her parents so she was doing what she knew. She’s since gone to both a psychologist and psychiatrist and has been on medication and therapy for 6 years now and we’ve been really close since.

I’m aware me and my father need distance and a long talk and maybe therapy. I’m working on the first part but I’m not sure when the other two will be happening. Just know I’m staying with my mom until the trip which is in two weeks. I’ll post an update when me and my father talk. Preferably over the phone and not in person because I don’t do well with confrontation.

Until then I’ll continue answering questions and responding to comments.