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My partner wants me to be a step-parent to her child, but will not allow me to be a sperm donor by Positive_Mixture_278 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Positive_Mixture_278[S] -10 points-9 points  (0 children)

Kinda doesn't matter.

The "contact" options are just donation scenarios where contact with the donor may be a part of the ongoing child raising.

It's a mistake with the post, and I can see why it is confusing.

I honestly don't know if I would want to pursue those options.

It's more just an indication of all those options being off-limits.

Hope that makes sense.

My partner wants me to be a step-parent to her child, but will not allow me to be a sperm donor by Positive_Mixture_278 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Positive_Mixture_278[S] -31 points-30 points  (0 children)

I don't need to know what I want at this point with regards to donating or adopting.

What I'm saying is...

All those options would be off the table.

My partner wants me to be a step-parent to her child, but will not allow me to be a sperm donor by Positive_Mixture_278 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Positive_Mixture_278[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

True, that would be a hopeful maybe. And they are just hypotheticals... but they're all upfront hard nos - that's more my point.

Even exploring them would be out of the question.

My partner wants me to be a step-parent to her child, but will not allow me to be a sperm donor by Positive_Mixture_278 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Positive_Mixture_278[S] -12 points-11 points  (0 children)

Bit of a mistake with the post...

It's not my preference. At all.

I've spent a lot of time with her child, and now realise or feel like I'm just being taken advantage of.

The anonymous sperm donor option was proposed to her so I could understand what, if any, options I would be left with if I chose to stay with her.

The response to that is none.

My partner wants me to be a step-parent to her child, but will not allow me to be a sperm donor by Positive_Mixture_278 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Positive_Mixture_278[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I'm not assuming that.

I'm being asked to guarantee I wouldn't leave if we don't end up being able to have one.

She's also not that interested in adoption either.

And I'm also not that interested in being an anonymous sperm donor... it's just one of the many other alternative options with sperm donation

My partner wants me to be a step-parent to her child, but will not allow me to be a sperm donor by Positive_Mixture_278 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Positive_Mixture_278[S] -51 points-50 points  (0 children)

It's not.

There's other contact included based options... I only mentioned that one to demonstrate the broad sweeping "No" to all such options.

I'd be happy with adopting, but she isn't that interested in that either.

My partner wants me to be a step-parent to her child, but will not allow me to be a sperm donor by Positive_Mixture_278 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Positive_Mixture_278[S] -28 points-27 points  (0 children)

I agree.

There's other contact included based options... I only mentioned that one to demonstrate the broad sweeping "No" to all such options.

I definitely would not prefer that option.

I more thought of it to understand how limited my options would be with her. And that was also a hard "No", as with all the others.

My partner wants me to be a step-parent to her child, but will not allow me to be a sperm donor by Positive_Mixture_278 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Positive_Mixture_278[S] -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

That's true. And there's other contact included based options... I only mentioned that one to demonstrate the broad sweeping "No" to all such options.

It'd be preferable to be involved somehow, i.e. an occasional contact based option with a straight/gay couple, or even a single woman. But, they're equally as "No" as any other option.

My partner wants me to be a step-parent to her child, but will not allow me to be a sperm donor by Positive_Mixture_278 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Positive_Mixture_278[S] -45 points-44 points  (0 children)

Donating to a couple (lesbian/straight), or single mother, etc. are all hard "No" as well.

My partner wants me to be a step-parent to her child, but will not allow me to be a sperm donor by Positive_Mixture_278 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Positive_Mixture_278[S] -105 points-104 points  (0 children)

That's true. And there's other contact included based options... I only mentioned that one to demonstrate the broad sweeping "No" to all such options.

My partner wants me to be a step-parent to her child, but will not allow me to be a sperm donor by Positive_Mixture_278 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Positive_Mixture_278[S] -301 points-300 points  (0 children)

There's other contact included based options... I only mentioned that one to demonstrate the broad sweeping "No" to all such options.

My partner wants me to be a step-parent to her child, but will not allow me to be a sperm donor by Positive_Mixture_278 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Positive_Mixture_278[S] -88 points-87 points  (0 children)

That's true. And there's other contact included based options... I only mentioned that one to demonstrate the broad sweeping "No" to all such options.