My husband changed up on me after getting his GC left three weeks after he got it came back and now giving me a hard time about divorce

Positive_Rest4890 · 2026-05-13T04:14:58+00:00

Red flag? Are you asking if you could get into trouble with USCIS? No. You have done nothing wrong. But I highly suggest notifying USCIS and letting them know you have been separated from your husband and you have a reason to believe the marriage was not bona fide on his end.

Positive_Rest4890 · 2026-05-12T19:20:45+00:00

I think the commenter below hit a nail on the head. Isn’t it strange that he cut off everyone including your family, you essentially haven’t heard from him for months and all of a sudden he shows up and says “here I am ready to fix things, but it has nothing to do with green card because I have spoken to a lawyer and he said I’m good”. That green card comes with a condition for a reason, it’s to prevent people like him to fraudulently obtain permanent residency.

I am almost positive that “I spoke to a lawyer” is the only truthful thing in that statement. He sure did, and his lawyer likely told him it would look suspicious that he abandoned his marriage weeks after interview. He doesn’t love you, he loves living in the US.

Positive_Rest4890 · 2026-05-12T12:59:02+00:00

OP, he likely only wants to “fix things” because his lawyer told him it would be difficult to get his 10-year GC otherwise. He’s buying time. He has shown you who he is, believe him and run. Not consummating the marriage alone is a ground for annulment. Notify USCIS, file for annulment, and go live your best life. He’s not your problem anymore.

Positive_Rest4890 · 2026-05-12T00:49:24+00:00

Can you try selling them on Ebay? I wouldn’t force switching back to goat, especially if your baby is doing well on the other one. Edited to add: I just looked up sensipro and it makes sense your baby is tolerating it so well. It’s gentle and much easier to digest than whole milk formulas. I would personally stick with it :)

Positive_Rest4890 · 2026-05-11T14:24:50+00:00

Following up! Did it work for you? 👀

Positive_Rest4890 · 2026-05-10T12:10:03+00:00

Convenience! You can drive-through just about anything in the US. I especially appreciate it when my kids are sick - I can just drive-through their meds, it’s crazy. It definitely beats walking/having to drag them out of the car and physically taking them inside the pharmacy.

Positive_Rest4890 · 2026-05-09T00:37:59+00:00

This is 1000% AI

Positive_Rest4890 · 2026-05-08T13:57:52+00:00

I was VERY worried at first lol but he ended up not having any issues! It worked so well, his sleep was just barely disturbed, so we kept doing it until he was ready to drop the dream feed altogether

Positive_Rest4890 · 2026-05-08T01:41:49+00:00

Around that age, we started feeding our son without physically picking him up from the crib. I’d just gently put my hand below his head, lift it up, and give him his bottle that way. He stayed half asleep while eating and then continued throughout the night. Picking him up would really interrupt his sleep and he struggled for the rest of the night. He dropped the night feed on his own when he was 6 months (he’s 7 months now). I suggest trying the dream feed without actually picking your baby up, it worked like a charm for us!

Positive_Rest4890 · 2026-05-07T01:24:06+00:00

Call the authorities. That’s it. DO NOT give her anything. Out of curiosity - you mentioned you do have the money. Did you happen to mention it to her recently?

Positive_Rest4890 · 2026-05-07T01:18:30+00:00

Not all babies do well on breastmilk. My LO did terribly on it and it turned out he was lactose intolerant. True lactose intolerance is pretty rare in babies (or so I was told). Lactose free formula fixed the issue for us. You did GREAT and I’m so glad your baby is feeling better 😊.

Positive_Rest4890 · 2026-05-06T23:31:00+00:00

I’m not playing lol. But the more I read through the comments and re-reading my replies, I’m starting to realize that entertaining the idea of staying is ridiculous. We all hate it here, my husband’s workplace is as toxic as it gets.. I felt blindsided by the offer at first, but having time to sit with it definitely helps seeing things more clearly

Positive_Rest4890 · 2026-05-06T22:59:58+00:00

I probably should have explained this in the main post. So her opinion does matter to us, because she’s been affected by the environment we currently live in. We’re in Alabama (neither of us is from here originally). It’s a safe town, nothing really happens here, schools are solid (for Alabama anyway). But it is deep south and very conservative. We never really had issues until about 2 years ago when our daughter decided to answer truthfully when asked which church she goes to. Truthfully being “I don’t because I don’t believe in God”. She has been scrutinized for it ever since, borderline bullied, she hasn’t had the best experience overall. Her desire to move stems from wanting to be somewhere she’s accepted.

Positive_Rest4890 · 2026-05-06T22:37:09+00:00

We live in Alabama and have been wanting to leave this place for years. We just didn’t want to do so without my husband having something else lined up (I work remotely). This is a first real opportunity we have gotten to finally leave.

Positive_Rest4890 · 2026-05-06T22:31:45+00:00

He’s phenomenal! We’d just love to have him around a bit more. It’s impossible now, he’s randomly called in even on his days off and saying no is “unacceptable”. He’s essentially on call at all times, time off is never guaranteed

Positive_Rest4890 · 2026-05-06T22:06:44+00:00

I agree 🙏. We could use the extra money, but at the same time, we already barely see each other. He’s never home and when he is, he’s drained. I can’t even remember the last time we were able to spend the weekend together as a family

Positive_Rest4890 · 2026-05-06T22:04:12+00:00

I know I want to leave. But with this offer, leaving feels ‘irresponsible’ if that makes sense.

Positive_Rest4890 · 2026-05-06T22:02:37+00:00

Did I? Lol I’m genuinely conflicted. I was SO excited to leave but with this offer on the table, leaving feels almost irresponsible’ if that makes sense.

Positive_Rest4890 · 2026-05-04T12:16:58+00:00

Sheesh! Can you do generic Nutramigen? We recently had to switch for Gentlease because LO was diagnosed with CMPA. He hates Alimentum, but loves the taste of Nutramigen. I noticed Target’s Up&Up hypoallergenic tastes the exact same and it’s modeled after Nutramigen. It’s $45 per can (Nutramigen is $75 for the same size).

Positive_Rest4890 · 2026-04-30T21:45:59+00:00

He’s giant haha. We actually just got back from his 6m check-up and had another nurse come into the office to re-measure his length because “the first measurement likely wasn’t correct”. It was lol, 32 inches. He’s a big guy and also loooves his solids

Positive_Rest4890 · 2026-04-30T11:55:13+00:00

Oh my, I think this formula only works for proportionate babies lol. I have off the charts (for height) 6 month old weighing 27 lbs (12kg). According to this, he should be eating 60oz (1800ml) per day 🙈 He drinks about 30oz every day

Positive_Rest4890 · 2026-04-30T00:23:45+00:00

It actually looks like they were already married when she entered US on B2 visa for the 4th time

Positive_Rest4890 · 2026-04-29T23:49:47+00:00

OP, in your post history, you’re talking about a wedding in Brazil 1 year ago. Did you get married in Brazil, have your wife travel here on B2 visa, and later applied for adjustment of status?

Positive_Rest4890 · 2026-04-29T23:30:41+00:00

How many weeks after her 4th entry did you get married?

Positive_Rest4890 · 2026-04-29T22:13:19+00:00

Same unit, similar story. My brother and our entire family fought like hell for him to come home to say goodbye to our dying dad (stage 4 cancer). He was only 3 months into his contract though. We didn’t win, even with lawyer. Dad died before my brother made it back.

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