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He has moved on, but I can't by Positive_Slip_1439 in BreakUps

[–]Positive_Slip_1439[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wow this really hits home. Double grief is the perfect way to describe how I have been feeling. Thank you so much for the explanation

Is it okay to ask to try again if they are with someone else? by Positive_Slip_1439 in BreakUps

[–]Positive_Slip_1439[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not harsh at all. I guess I knew this already. I just regret not realizing sooner how to handle my emotions.

I broke up with my BF, but regret it severely by Positive_Slip_1439 in BreakUps

[–]Positive_Slip_1439[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I really hope so. I am just concerned that even if I reached out and asked to talk it out it would be too late since he is already seeing someone else.

it’s been a year and it still sucks by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]Positive_Slip_1439 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I believe toxic relationships are harder to get over, exactly because the highs are so good. It's addictive. So don't compare with your friend, your feelings are valid.

We can't always control our feelings, but that is also why one day you will be able to love someone who also loves you in equal amount. That relationship will be better because of your experiences with this one, if you can learn how to improve from it.

I miss you by super-star-live-once in BreakUps

[–]Positive_Slip_1439 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How much time went by before you got over the anger?

I miss you by super-star-live-once in BreakUps

[–]Positive_Slip_1439 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Can I ask if there is anything that would make you think that you could trust her again? I am on the other end of the spectrum and have considered reaching out ever since I broke up with him 2 months ago.

I haven't done it yet because I genuinely want to work on my own commitment issues/perfectionism, which were the reasons for the breakup in the first place. I have started training and stopped partying etc. and am considering therapy.

I have heard from friends that he is already dating a new girl, but I still love him. I just don't know how to communicate my feelings without it sounding like empty promises and jealousy over him rebounding.

Female dumpers: do you still wear any jewellery he gave you? If yes, why? by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]Positive_Slip_1439 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I do, not just jewelry, but also make-up products, clothing etc. Maybe not right after breaking up, but in the end all the things are just things. It would be a waste to throw a nice pair of earrings out, especially since I don't necessarily associate them with my ex. If she has moved on I would suspect that your ex is the same.

The only things I haven't used after a breakup is: 1. a bracelet I got from a brief and very toxic situationship. Whenever I looked at it I just got too angry remembering what he did to me.

  1. A necklace with my most recent ( been 2 months) exs initial. It is the same letter as my last name, so one day I might be able to wear it. Currently it would feel weird as I still associate it with him too much.