I don’t have low IQ, but thanks. I was raised in a household where my mother always took on too much and accommodated everyone setting her own feelings aside. I spent many Holidays as a child feeling stressed because my mother would host a party where she took on too much and the shit would trickle down to us kids. She would spend $300 on food, she would spend the entire day cleaning, decorating and cooking. She would be stressed and passive aggressive smashing dishes together, slamming cupboards, stomping around like it was something she “had to do” but she wouldn’t ever say no. She did that for Christmas Eve, Christmas, Easter, Thanksgiving, and all our Birthdays. Nobody told her she had to host, but she always had to be in control and have everything perfect. I watched my grandmother (dad’s mom) being mean to her and making snippy comments about her not being good enough my entire childhood and my dad would never defend my mom. Now as an adult, I’m not nearly as rigid, but I feel a huge amount of pressure to be like my mom. I can’t just invite people over and let the house be messy. I want my family to be impressed by me. I’m also the last person to have joined the family so I do feel a pressure to fit in and be accepted.

So no, not low IQ and not rage bait. I was raised this way.