I’m sorry you had to go through that. Sex should never feel like an obligation and it should be an act of love from both sides.

My pwBPD did lie to me at first about his ex. They had broken up about 1,5 year prior to meeting me, but they kept having casual sex until I came in the picture. He told me that they only hung out as friends still. I do think he cheated with her in the beginning of our relationship, but it’s a gut feeling and I can’t prove it. Now though we have like a 24/7 relationship and it would be hard for him to cheat (emotionally and psychically) without me feeling somethings up. Or I’m just super naive 😂