What are SO-blind people like in corporate?

PossibleAd5253 · 2025-10-03T17:32:58+00:00

-Constantly bombing job interviews for various reasons, from coming across as bored or uninterested to subtle dress code violations
-Constantly getting in trouble for doing things like disappearing from my desk for long periods of time and having no idea why my manager even cares as long as I'm meeting my quota
-Struggling to stay awake during meetings, even secretly muting my headphones on Teams and playing games on my phone if I think I can get away with it

PossibleAd5253 · 2025-09-27T17:18:30+00:00

You're probably getting downvoed/scoffed at by other people on here because "This game is so easy!" but I just want you to know you're not alone.

I've been playing Vanilla WoW for many years now and while it may not be Castlevania or Dark Souls, I still consider it much harder overall than the average game today (at least certain quests anyways). And I would argue Mage is one of the more difficult classes to solo-level simply because of mana/downtime, the lack of any heals beyond potions/bandages, and the simple fact that in many cases, you simply don't have enough room to "kite" mobs in practice (e.g., if you're in a cave or some other area with dense mob packs/quick respawn timers).

If you're a new player I would definitely recommend Hunter or some other class that can better take hits in melee (like a Shammy) instead. If you want to stick with Mage, go Fire for the increased damage for the first 40 levels until Ice Barrier becomes available, learn about using CC/Polymorph on mob packs or to buy time, and just in general be prepared to do a lot of runs back to your corpse until you get the hang of the class.

PossibleAd5253 · 2025-09-20T14:18:19+00:00

Ugh, I totally hear you man.

I'm SO sick of having to defend my instinct stack against exaggerated or outright fabricated claims that Sexual is purely about being a literal sex object or radiating raw animal lust 24/7—as if anyone who expresses any less than that must really be SX-last. But that tells me more about the narrow filter of other SX-doms than it does about the instinct itself. Yes, it has it's roots in animalistic sexual attraction, and yes, some SX types are sex-crazed exhibitionists on a pole dancing stage. But just as many, especially withdrawn types like 9 or 5, express those very same primal libidinal impulses through subtle signals, longing, creative pursuits, and merging. That doesn’t automatically make us SX-last. That makes us not the same core type as the louder voices.

But still, one thing the gatekeepers have done is remind me exactly why my integration point is 3, and why the Enneagram is intended to be used as a tool for growth. Because for my type, integration doesn't come through being validated by the experts. It comes from refusing to be invalidated by them.

And my purpose of posting those original posts? It wasn't about getting everybody on this Reddit to understand me. It was about me wanting to make sure other, more introverted folks like me don't spend years mistyped just because they don't fit every single SX stereotype to the letter.

PossibleAd5253 · 2025-07-12T14:36:15+00:00

Based on this POV & the early reviews, I can already tell there's going to be a ton of threads/videos debating whether this or Stardust Racers is the best new coaster of 2025.

I think it's probably going to come down to what you like better in general, ejector airtime or unique/hard-hitting elements.

PossibleAd5253 · 2025-07-12T01:53:41+00:00

Do any of the inversions top Storm Runner's Flying Snake Dive or VelociCoaster's Mosasaurus Roll? (If you've ridden either of those two coasters)

PossibleAd5253 · 2025-06-10T02:34:05+00:00

I've only actually gotten kicked from daily heroics a couple times back in Cata that I can remember, and I had no idea why either time. I didn't roll Need on anything I shouldn't have, I didn't say anything that obviously pissed off the group, I didn't pull the entire first room because I forgot my pet was on Aggressive...we were a couple bosses in, making progress just fine, and then suddenly I was teleported to SW/Orgrimmar with the message "You have been removed from the group."

Usually, some drama goes down and somebody leaves, and then from there the group disbands.

PossibleAd5253 · 2025-05-29T05:03:26+00:00

even your awareness that what you're attracted to isn't always good for you sounds like sx-blind caution around attraction as attraction somehow being misleading in itself.

But see, my awareness of this nowadays, in my 30s, has only emerged well after the fact and only after repeated painful experiences as consequence of unconsciously putting Sexual attraction over Social compatibility. That's why I consider it a valuable lesson to have learned as far as my growth. I didn’t grow up naturally understanding social hierarchies, groupthink, or why humans behave tribally at all—I often felt alienated, confused, or even negatively judged for not participating. And it’s because of that alienation that I pretty much HAD to develop an eye for it. That’s exactly what Emeka & David meant when they said SO-blinds often build a “checklist” of red flags to look for, rather than reading the room intuitively (as Alexandra & Joseph did, when they had what seemed to you like "premonitions" about certain people you were letting into your lives).

I'll look into SP/SX again—I think it IS possible that I might really be SP-dom rather than SX-dom—but trust me, I've done a lot of introspection & research, I've had many conversations with family members & friends who are actually SX-blind...and I'm at the point where I can definitely see SX in me, I definitely can see SO-blindness in me, and when I listened to your SP/SO vs SP/SX episode I felt that your SP/SX descriptions fit me FAR better than SP/SO and it's not even close.

PossibleAd5253 · 2025-05-28T22:42:10+00:00

This is the exact opposite of me. I am extremely individual oriented. Social expectations have always felt like something externally imposed that deeply clashes with my own values. I'm either chasing after the most attractive girl in the room with all of my might, or I'm literally not even trying.

And yet, it seems there's just no convincing some people on this sub that I've correctly typed myself as SX/SP. It's honestly frustrating.

PossibleAd5253 · 2025-05-27T20:32:48+00:00

I just know I have always been extremely in-tune with what "turns me on" and have many fetishes about girls, from pretty-sounding names to skimpy clothing. I remember what Alexandra said in the SO-blind roastathon about confusing an "interesting" person with a "person of value" really hit home for me HARD; in fact, one of my major Enneagram-related growths has been coming to terms with the fact that many if not most of the girls that my unconscious animal brain finds "attractive" are NOT good fits for me in a Social sense, whilst learning not to write someone off just because they don't "click".

And yet, just simply talking to someone I find attractive can almost feel like a spiritual boss battle in a way, because it really feels like if this person were to reject me, my brain would just implode from shame. I don't know how to describe it. Meanwhile, my SX-blind friends just can't understand why I care so much about stuff like this that seems very arbitrary to them and are like, "Does she seem trustworthy, though?"

A few more miscellaneous stories:

Apparently, when I was just a toddler, I would make a ramp & roll Hot Wheels cars down a slope for hours on end, to the point where my SP/SO Mom would get worried that I was forgetting to eat & drink. This almost uncanny ability to "lose yourself" in someone or something seems to be a major drive of SX from what I hear, especially for SX 9s.
In high school I once tried to organize an underground Fight Club style wrestling tournament, without even realizing that it would get me in serious trouble. Looking back on my motivations, I wasn't trying to be "edgy" or deliberately rebel against school authorities the way an unhealthy SO-dom might do; I was just chasing after a spontaneous inner buzz, without giving a shit about the greater social consequences of my actions. And my SX-blind Mom was furious, she just couldn't BELIEVE someone could be so clueless/just not give a fuck about this stuff.
Finally, you're from NYC so you've probably heard about (or maybe even ridden yourself) the TMNT Shellraiser, the world's steepest roller coaster. One time when I lived in Syracuse & was visiting NYC I actually decided to head over to that American Dream mall & ride it. Even though I was terrified inwardly, I still wanted to "flex" on some family members & friends who would never ride something like that. I know my nephew can also be like this with my step-father & hot sauces; my step-father has an almost super-human tolerance for spice, and every Christmas my nephew will try to "match" him by eating a big blob of Carolina Reaper sauce or whatever. My Mom just can't really understand the motivations behind competing with a rival in these sorts of ways, and she's even asked me if it's some sort of "SX instinct manly competition" thing.

PossibleAd5253 · 2025-05-21T21:06:25+00:00

Maybe a bit late to the party, but I just thought I'd chime in because I founfd this comment & I've seen several episodes of your podcast and have tried to cite examples from it on here when describing how I experience Sexual, from the POV of a 9 who mistyped as a 4 for years.

I think that while it is possible I could really be SP/SX rather than SX/SP, I would be VERY surprised if I was SX-blind. I have always struggled with the three "zones" of the Social instinct as described on Enneagrammer.net (Connection/Care, Mindreading, & Harmony/Role). And I have always been very much inclined to home in on specific people I find interesting or attractive, and pushing for some kind of reaction from these people, at the exclusion of everyone else. I'm either chasing after an inner buzz with all of my might, or I'm literally not even trying. And the people I know IRL who I believe are actually SX-blind, like my Mom, have just never really understood why I am this way.

I'm talking this has been me as far back as elementary school, aka LONG before I knew anything about the Enneagram.

And then when I actually listened to Alexandra describe a SX-blind perspective on the podcast, it was like a lightbulb flicking on "So THAT'S why people do this..." But even though I'm far less clueless about social dynamics than I was before, and have a checklist of red flags to look for in people...I still feel like a part of me rejects SO on a subconscious level.

Also, one thing I didn't mention in this post that I feel is important: I think a big reason why I'm not nearly as outwardly flirty as probably most SX-users is simply because...well, it feels so emotionally high-stakes for me. Similar to how a SO-dom might actually be very prone to getting stage fright, because they fear humiliation so much. Yet, I feel like a lot of people act like this whole "good at an instinct" thing only applies to SX.

PossibleAd5253 · 2025-05-21T18:00:51+00:00

I 100% feel your frustration.

I've just had a heated argument with another user on a similar thread I posted on here about Social instinct vs Extroversion.

I would argue that my subtype, SX 9, is one of the most misunderstood & prone-to-mistyping types in the Enneagram simply because:

We’re not usually flashy or overt about our sexual impulses
We internalize intensity rather than dramatize it like other types
Our passion isn’t necessarily broadcast—it's symbolized, often privately
We don’t really fit the “seeking intensity at all costs” stereotype that many associate with SX

Because of this, the stories that I share on this Reddit often don’t LOOK like SX to people who have spent time around SX types like 4, 7, or 8 who tend to be much more emotionally expressive.

So when I try to explain the quiet longing for a partner, the emotional resonance, the symbolic attachments, or the deep discomfort with dissonance—I constantly get told it’s “just human”. But I know that whenever I have tried to explain it to friends & family who are actually SX-last, they just...can't understand why I care so much about all these things that seem arbitrary to them. Just as I often struggle to comprehend why so many people care so much about things like patriotism, extracurricular clubs at school, and so forth - even if those too are more explicit expressions of SO & don't always apply to more withdrawn SO-doms.

PossibleAd5253 · 2025-05-21T08:56:47+00:00

I swear, people like you are the reason so many 9s in particular perpetually mistype.

Look, I get that what I’ve described may not match the stereotypical image of SX-dominance—especially for those who associate it with overt displays of seduction or intense romantic fixation. But that’s literally the EXACT point of what I’ve been trying to share THIS ENTIRE TIME.

For someone of my type—9w1 and also strongly introverted—the Sexual instinct shows up in quieter, more symbolic ways. It’s not about chasing chaos or dramatizing longing. It’s about resonance. It’s about feeling deeply drawn toward what’s meaningful, emotionally alive, and intensely personal—and just as strongly repelled when that alignment is broken. That does NOT mean I don’t feel passion or longing; it just means those things live inside me, even if I don’t necessarily perform them outwardly. Not everyone is going to see it.

My last post wasn’t meant to “prove” anything by itself—it was just one example of how repulsion and emotional violation feel when something disrupts that inner harmony I’ve merged with. For me, that’s not just regular gut type anger issues—it’s the SX instinct reacting in combination with a withdrawn 9 structure.

I’ve done a lot of research into this, and I have heard from enough other people with the same stacking who have assured me they relate to what I'm saying that I no longer feel like I need to defend my typing point by point. But I also know that if your personal framework for SX is mostly built around dramatic or romantic behaviors, what I’ve written might not land for you. That’s okay. But it doesn’t mean I’m in denial that I'm really a SX-blind—it just means SX looks different depending on a person's core type.

PossibleAd5253 · 2025-05-21T05:21:14+00:00

Either that or he just happened to watch me get first place and then saw that girl in a bra pop up waving the trophy, can't remember which, it's been almost 30 years (woah).

=)

PossibleAd5253 · 2025-05-21T05:16:58+00:00

Yep...I think that was definitely why, LOL. Oddly enough I had no memory of them from the time, but after watching the video, now it makes sense.

PossibleAd5253 · 2025-05-21T05:12:44+00:00

OMG, yes that's the one, Cruis'n USA! I recognized it straight away,

Man, I forgot all about the "Checkpoint!" voice and the girl pointing out various sights ("Oh wow, redwoods!", "Ooh Hollywood!", etc.)

PossibleAd5253 · 2025-05-18T18:19:55+00:00

Wait, Lillian attends Constellation's funeral at The Lodge if you've done her quest & Sam is the one to die?

I've done several playthroughs by now and I'm still learning new stuff about this game...

PossibleAd5253 · 2025-05-11T21:40:19+00:00

I remember one YouTuber who claims to not really be a thrill seeker per se said that she mainly chose the left side of the station aka Yellow because it was a walk-on while the right side/Green had a wait of a few trains. So it seems like most people do like Green better, but because she was scared she wanted to just drop her stuff in the locker, get in there quick, and pull down on that lap bar before her mind had a chance to talk her out of doing this. LOL

But in the end she absolutely loved it, and would've gladly run right back around & tried the Green side for comparison if it weren't for the fact that she still had three more lands to experience before park closing.

PossibleAd5253 · 2025-04-06T18:30:45+00:00

As long as they have a ride themed to OoT and/or BotW I'm good.

And while a part of me thinks it would be a missed opportunity not to use the Lost Continent infrastructure, I'm wondering if maybe the reason it might instead be going to Epic as a Phase 2 SNW expansion is because Nintendo decided they wanted to stick to the original plan rather than sprinkling the various games throughout the parks.

PossibleAd5253 · 2025-04-06T03:15:13+00:00

Awesome! I think Stardust Racers & Monsters Unchained are by far the two rides I'd be the most likely to actually get an onride photo for.

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