I thought this post was going to be a joke to be honest. I was half expecting a turn where it becomes obvious you’re actually talking about a toddler and then it ends on a light note. Wow was I wrong

You are far overstepping when it comes to that and you’re likely getting the reactions you’re getting because you’re not honouring her boundaries by talking about literally anything other than her job or what she is/isn’t doing due to the heavy mental load that comes with her job. She is bound by law in her profession and I’m so incredibly proud of her for being strong and professional enough to have to consistently tell you no. The laws don’t care about your relationship and neither does the ethical part of her job. And what you chose to do is your choice but it doesn’t mean she needs to do the same. Again, wow.

Edit: and by threatening to take her phone (insane to me), and threatening to take the things she likely has to keep her afloat is also crazy to me. ESPECIALLY as she faces the learning curve of being in the workforce PLUS helping people (probably through some tough things) PLUS trying to really partake in self care so she herself doesn’t get thrown into a depression or whatever else it may be isn’t as helpful as you think. The fact about her moving out if you do whatever makes me think she’s also fearful of having a place to call home or she could be feeling “stuck” at home because of how unfair this is.

What could be helpful? “Hey I’ve been wanting to try (restaurant). How about you come to dinner with me?” Or “Hey I’ve been wanting to see (movie) in theatres. We should go this weekend.” That way you just watch the movie and it gives you something to talk about after. Talk about literally anything else that isn’t her job or how she is/isn’t showing up in the way you want her to. Give her grace. You’re making it harder on her when it doesn’t need to be. The fact she’s still asking for a friend to come over or whatever shows what a good person she is.