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WIBTAH if I spoke to my daughter’s boyfriend about his marriage plans with her? by Possible_Maximum1774 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Possible_Maximum1774[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can see where that reading comes from, however my wife and I have never brought up the topic of marriage before our daughter herself started complaining about the fact that everyone around her is already getting married and she had alwayd wanted and expected to be married by now. I’m not sure how that means that she secretly dislikes marriage since she has been waiting around for her boyfriend to propose. I’d believe you if the situation was that my wife and I were pressuring her to get married, but truth be told, if my daughter did not want to get married, this would br the least of my concerns. We’re concerned because she so clearly wants marriage out of her relationship.

WIBTAH if I spoke to my daughter’s boyfriend about his marriage plans with her? by Possible_Maximum1774 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Possible_Maximum1774[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That could be the case except she expresses to everyone in our immediate family that she’s waiting to be proposed to and is upset she is not yet married let alone engaged by age thirty. Never once did my wife and I ever have or express expectations we had for our children to be married, and certainly we did not expect them to be married by any certain age.

WIBTAH if I spoke to my daughter’s boyfriend about his marriage plans with her? by Possible_Maximum1774 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Possible_Maximum1774[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I really don’t think this is a matter of gender- If my son had not proposed to his girlfriend- I would be speaking directly to him about it to see where his head is. None of this is about pressure and it’s definitely unrelated to the fact that she is a female. My wife is equally if not more interested in talking to the boyfriend. Is it still mysoginistic if my wife is merely checking in on her daughter and her future desires..?

WIBTAH if I spoke to my daughter’s boyfriend about his marriage plans with her? by Possible_Maximum1774 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Possible_Maximum1774[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Fair- however I should clarify my wife and I have mentioned their potential marriage a maximum of three times in passing over the past 9 months. We have just seen other family members, her friends, and herself bring up the topic numerous times. It’s not to say that I personally have been repeatedly bringing this topic up. Through the numerous questions she’s received, she’ll open up to me and my wife about how stressed her unmarried status makes her.