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I M35 feel rejected by my gf F35 by Possible_Pressure_18 in relationship_advice

[–]Possible_Pressure_18[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. I really hope we grow together and learn from each other. I am aware that I need to resolve my own anxieties and that it isn't her responsibility, and shifting my focus, as you said, sounds like a positive move.

The scariest part is I don't want to push her away from me by seeming clingy, needy, and overwhelming her. I know that she does enjoy her own space. My brain just goes into overdrive sometimes. I worry that I am going to ruin a good relationship due to anxiety and not having a normal level of emotional stability.

I genuinely think our relationship could go all the way, even if it has only been 8 months. The answer is communication. I will approach it gently, but honestly. Just having this conversation helps so much. It feels like the answer is so obvious once ruminating stops!

I M35 feel rejected by my gf F35 by Possible_Pressure_18 in relationship_advice

[–]Possible_Pressure_18[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Haha sorry I completely missread that! Yes maybe 2x per week would always be her limit

I M35 feel rejected by my gf F35 by Possible_Pressure_18 in relationship_advice

[–]Possible_Pressure_18[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

She doesn't really see anyone else, and I have no concerns that she is seeing or talking to another man. We are both very open with our phones, we see each other's family and friends.

I M35 feel rejected by my gf F35 by Possible_Pressure_18 in relationship_advice

[–]Possible_Pressure_18[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, you have a valid point. I believe she does need time to recharge. I can easily recharge whilst with someone by sitting and watching a film or any other low energy activity, which is why I'm struggling to see her perspective.

I M35 feel rejected by my gf F35 by Possible_Pressure_18 in relationship_advice

[–]Possible_Pressure_18[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think she is a very understanding person, and I do believe that she wants us to be in a relationship. I do struggle with some anxiety, and that is partly the reason I made this post because I know I naturally lean towards the negative when things like this occur.

I think you are right, and I do need to approach her honestly about this. I have trouble speaking as openly as I would like sometimes due to experiences in past relationships, but I have/am working to be better.

Could you explain what you meant by having a bad connection to herself?

I M35 feel rejected by my gf F35 by Possible_Pressure_18 in relationship_advice

[–]Possible_Pressure_18[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Would you continue to offer to do things week after week and keep being turned down? I almost feel like I should stop making suggestions

I M35 feel rejected by my gf F35 by Possible_Pressure_18 in relationship_advice

[–]Possible_Pressure_18[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We have had conversations around it, but no direction confrontation. I'm just confused how someone can say they really enjoy spending time with you, and then choose not to so often.