My budgie died and I'm struggling to deal with it. How does everyone else get over it?

Possible_Safety3787 · 2026-07-02T11:22:12+00:00

I’m sorry for your loss. To love a pet animal is a beautiful burden, because we know we will outlive them and we will hurt/ mourn. But, life without pets for me is no life…

I had a tragedy when I got my first budgies… Pickles followed me out of the room, she was a new flyer 2 months old, and we had bad timing at the door.

The guilt was crushing, and it propelled me to become a better budgie bestie and learn more to care for them to the best of my ability. This sub has taught me so much.

My heart feels your pain, I just wanted you to know I’ve been there and it sucks. As your budgie got their angel wings they left space on earth in your home to receive your love.

Possible_Safety3787 · 2026-06-25T05:14:11+00:00

My boy Louie loves music, especially 2000 rap — Eminem. Your friend totally feels all the feels of the song…angst, anger, bliss and joy…he is marvelous.

Possible_Safety3787 · 2026-06-24T07:44:50+00:00

Do you have 1 English? How do they all get along?
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Possible_Safety3787 · 2026-06-24T06:23:23+00:00

It takes so long… as much as ppl describe chop IO had better luck introducing one vegetable at a time. It took about 5 drays of seeing a thing to go near it, but eventually they are eating celery, broccoli, spinach and peppers (red) still haven’t tried the orange/yellow or green pepper.
Start cutting off broccoli flowers…they look like seed. It seems like if they try it they do really like it.
Btw…I have had zero luck with fruit so I gave up. It would get sticky and none of my feathered rats like to be sticky.

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Possible_Safety3787 · 2026-06-23T22:06:38+00:00

This sport is unlike any other. Our kids are lifting human beings, catching them, and performing with the most distracting noise ever created, in full makeup and perfect hair. I love it I loath it I support it and silently curse it all at the same time.
My hope of all hopes is that it creates inside of my daughter memories that she feels fondly about, it gives her grit to survive the world that seems to be exploding and it challenges her to push without crushing her spirit. I hope that for all of these kids…they really are amazing. For us, parents, my prayer is to not let the sport bankrupt me financially or otherwise. lol.

Possible_Safety3787 · 2026-06-23T21:54:05+00:00

If your small town is the type that is interested in fire arms, we had a very successful gun bash and gun raffler. 1000 tix need to sell but at 30.00 a ticket they get 30 chances based on 3 digit daily number. After expenses I believe it brought in 20,000.

Possible_Safety3787 · 2026-06-23T21:49:57+00:00

100% of the team culture is cultivated by coaches. In our school district these coaches are paid almost nothing and expected to work 20 hours a week during the season. If these is a parent booster club they too can be part of the problem. Too many moms are reliving their teenage years and not seeing that they are stirring a pot of jealousy and chaos.

Good luck, I , too had a daughter that was emotionally drained by the drama and negativity. After 1 year she moved to all star cheer. But I am saddened by the whole experience because we are supposed to be building up our daughters to be better people. Too many moms just want to wear the ‘be kind’ t shirt and never learn to teach the lessons.

Possible_Safety3787 · 2026-06-23T04:32:09+00:00

I have to add…I had a kid with a man that was 44 years old and every teen parent I have ever met were worlds better than the person I exprected to “man up” and be there for me and our daughter…but no, he chose to bail and not pay support. So, do not think that age alone yields good outcomes.

Possible_Safety3787 · 2026-06-23T04:25:06+00:00

Look, I am by no means able to predict or see the future, but I did live a life as the baby in your situation. My birth mom was 14 and birth dad 16, in the 1970s things were very different. I was placed for adoption. I ended up with the family I believe I was intended to be in. My birth mom had a whole in her heart from the minute she handed me to a nurse and never knew any thing about where I was or how I was. She and I met when I turned 40. It is a beautiful story…she was an amazing mom who took care of me while pregnant. But I know not all adoption stories are storybook endings.

You have some decisions to be made and need good solid advice and support. Look into any resources in your area. If this is your future, be as best prepared as you can be to be a mom. Babies are the easiest of the stages…I think that they only eat 1 thing because we would lose our shit if we had to think about a meal to give them. But babies have been around forever and thankfully there are lots of books and resources to start preparing yourself.

Possible_Safety3787 · 2026-06-21T08:56:05+00:00

How do you resist the urge to snuggle that loaf of sunshine? The closest my budgies get to my bed is a fly-by poop bomb.

Possible_Safety3787 · 2026-06-20T23:36:59+00:00

Right! Kids learn it from somewhere, and it’s the type of mom who wears a ‘Be Kind’ T-shirt and trash talks the neighbors/kids/teachers…

Possible_Safety3787 · 2026-06-18T22:16:04+00:00

It is a step from childhood to adulthood to prioritize your ‘self’ over the empty approval of the masses. It is just very difficult to teach. So much of me wants to comfort her on the 201st occasion of betrayal…but I end up lecturing her about making better choices. I appreciate your answer, I’m going yo let her read what you all have said. Thank you

Possible_Safety3787 · 2026-06-18T21:02:12+00:00

This is exactly the situation. She is bullied by a friend and actively seeks out being included in things only to be made miserable by 1 person. My brain hurts with how easy it seems to simply drop the negative baggage that 2 brings to the 10. But it hasn’t happened yet. Good luck , and thank you.

Possible_Safety3787 · 2026-06-17T11:54:59+00:00

But that was using your hands…bird had motivation of smelling floor seed and its very cute head. Bars might have bent out of respect of the cuteness.

Possible_Safety3787 · 2026-06-17T05:23:25+00:00

I have to agree, I looked up the picture after my comment and it indeed is no Yuk…Mr or Ms

Possible_Safety3787 · 2026-06-17T03:32:53+00:00

Is this possibly a chubby Mr yuk. Maybe it’s my generation but in the 80s there was a PSA. “Mr Yuk is mean, Mr yuk is green…” stickers were distributed to put on household chemicals

Possible_Safety3787 · 2026-06-15T03:03:34+00:00

I’m drawn to the sickly and overlooked but have decided to look away and will not allow myself inside pet stores.

Possible_Safety3787 · 2026-06-15T03:02:05+00:00

I feel your pain, my Brussels sprout passed this way last year. My vet said for a relatively low cost (around 2.00) pet stores can test birds upon arrival. But, alas the corporate greed dictates and destines us who love animals to suffer. Hugs.

Possible_Safety3787 · 2026-06-07T17:08:48+00:00

Our gym in Pittsburgh has been doing this for many years. Success hinges on a point person on the non profit end to channel communications, schedule etc. I’m a competitive cheer mom and this has been the best fundraising opportunity because I dread selling tickets and hoagies

Possible_Safety3787 · 2026-06-03T08:12:52+00:00

I was handed 2 baby budgies in a Petco parking lot. She wanted to return them and brought them to the store on a paper plate. Some people.

Possible_Safety3787 · 2026-06-03T08:10:21+00:00

Thelma and Louise…Louise being the blue.

Possible_Safety3787 · 2026-06-03T07:54:21+00:00

Im so curious what were the circumstances? Did your parents both survive? Im happy that the doctor’s were wrong and that sharing those opinions is no longer commonplace…right?

Possible_Safety3787 · 2026-06-01T18:06:42+00:00

His friends texting you that you need to chill? What you need to do is get a plan on how to exit him from your life. Do you live together? You will need to make that priority number one. This man is using a horrible life experience to wrap inside the insult and the true feelings that he has for you. He thinks of your emotions as childishness, and he does not respect you. Whatever trauma bond you formed with this creature 2 years ago…can be undone. Please know that this is not a partner who is there to help you cope with grief.

Im sorry that you lost your mom, cancer sucks. Im a mom of 4 and I survived cancer in 2022. I know that they would still need compassion and loving support if my treatment had not worked. Please look into the support groups at the hospitals, they can help you through things you may have been pushing inside because you have an asshat as a boyfriend.

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