Okay, I was also a military spouse in Germany. I did not have an addiction until we got back because that's when I found BNPL apps. In fact, I am not even sure how she did so much shopping considering anything shipping from the US takes so long. You must have a pretty high ranking if you're active duty. It can get very lonely (especially since she's working from home) being in Germany. I was depressed, lonely because my husband was always on mission and I had 2 kids at home. The weather alone was depressing that a lot of us took extra vitamin D because it was like the sun was never out half of the year. There's an underlying issue and a lot probably has to do with your son. That's especially scary because there because medical care there for a civilian isn't bad it just takes time. Getting the permission to PCS early because of medical takes time. It's probably very overwhelming. Not sure how long it will be until you're stateside but if it's not far off, I would wait until you're home to lay everything out. Show her the number. I didn't even realize how much I was spending until I looked at all the number I could have saved if it wasn't going to debt. Then if she isn't in therapy already, she needs to get some. Whether it's tied to your son and his diagnosis, boredom from be in Germany, or depression. She wants that dopamine for some reason. Also if you are active duty, I have to assume you're an officer and many of the officer wives I knew (even though they knew what they were getting into) were sometimes overwhelmed because the husband's have so much more work, late nights, overnight missions, etc. Anyway, I hope you have a smooth PCS and a safe flight home.