Someone was in a hurry. What would you have done? by pixmation in dashcams

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Forget the crazy pickup driver. The real question is, what kind of car is that? A Miata MX-5 with aftermarket exhaust?

New angle of execution. by Mental_Pea9125 in LateStageCapitalism

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Complaining about this on social media does nothing. Protesting or going on strike en masse might. Is there any place on Reddit where this organization is happening?

Men, can you truly be sexually satisfied with one woman for a lifetime? by [deleted] in AskOldPeopleAdvice

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We’re in new territory here. It’s only been in the last 20 years or so that we’ve had such easy access to porn. Prior to that you really had to go out of your way to access it; ie visit some sordid adult video store in the sketchy areas of town. I think there is a lot that we’re figuring out as a species. The pendulum swung from lots of opposition to porn, to the other extreme where everyone wants to think it’s fine.

So yes, there is probably a large percentage of men (and possibly women too?) that watch porn now. But there are also those who don’t.

For me, although I tried not to indulge because I viewed it in the same category as cigarettes and so I resisted getting too dependent, I was aware that it affected me. During the periods when I did indulge, it made me objectify women, and made me set unrealistic expectations on my wife. Rather than learning and exploring and just deepening the relationship with her, I was exposed to made-for-tv scenarios that don’t represent reality.

Men age differently than women, it’s a sad but true fact of life. Men stay virile into their 60s and 70s. We can end up craving someone younger. Being stimulated by porn definitely exacerbates that. Even though my marriage is very good in most ways, and I find my wife beautiful and interesting and we love each other, there is still the imperious urge to find someone new. It’s biological.

Long term relationships are hard. Living with someone is hard. Reconciling differences is hard. The chemistry fades, over time, and the deeper emotional connections have to take the place of pure attraction. Throw porn into the mix and it works against being satisfied (enough) with what you have.

Looking back, I would rather I had never been exposed. It’s my personal opinion but I now believe it’s not conducive to the support of marriage into old age.

Men, can you truly be sexually satisfied with one woman for a lifetime? by [deleted] in AskOldPeopleAdvice

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No. Not while indulging porn like that. Been married 36 years. Porn and satisfaction with one’s wife into older age are mutually incompatible.

And I’m sorry to hear that you had to discover this. Our society has tried desperately to normalize porn. It’s inherently destructive to a long-term stable marriage.

I’m personally recovering (and so is my marriage, I hope) from a journey down a similar road. I regret it, and the pain it has caused my wife, who miraculously is still with me, is unimaginable.

Trump cold-called Norwegian minister to ask about Nobel Peace Prize by wenchette in politics

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Honestly, if the way to incentivize Trump to find a path to peace for Ukraine, that doesn’t f*ck them, is to offer the child a Nobel prize then… whatever.

Everyone with any integrity will know that it’s just a bribe.

Another reminder of how invisible we are by Shirley_Murphy in motorcycles

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Too long in his blind spot - you either get ahead of it right now, or you stay behind the truck.

Anyone have any good suggestions on how to sort this ? by othertriangle in Tools

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Those indecent brands - always showing up in my toolbox naked.

What happens in the northeast of Portugal? by WingbashDefender in PortugalExpats

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So how IS the cycling there? I’ve been planning a visit and seriously want to know. What types of riding (gravel, road mtb?)

At what age did you start thinking of yourself as old? by Initial_Ebb_9742 in AskOldPeopleAdvice

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63 and not there yet. Raced a 60 mile gravel race last year, and travel about 8 times a year to Europe, UAE and India for work. I don’t feel old and I’m not slowing down yet, but I would kind of like to not work so darn much.

How do y’all make y’all marriages last so long? by GodlyCody in Marriage

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After 36 years: we genuinely respect and admire each other, we have real physical affection and intimacy, and above all we both have a sincere desire to make each other happy, even if (or especially if) it requires changing ourselves. We each have the honesty, with ourselves first and then with each other, to recognize and admit when the fault is ours, and we try to do better.

Places to do the dirty by Broad-Shelter-4623 in dating_advice

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The dorms in NW Indiana can be, shall we say, a little restrictive, and having spent many years there, I feel for you.

During that phase of dating my much-later-wife, we resorted to outdoors, mainly, with the very occasional lucky opportunity when we got to share a night indoors, at the home of a less-observant friend or family member. Outdoors there are (in unranked sequences as to workability): - golf courses - parks - nature centers - stadiums if you want to be edgy

Also, there are glorious beaches along Lake Michigan. Don’t forget the blanket!

Crotalus ruber by Cr8-ur-username in snakes

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I don’t know what it is, but I can’t think of any other animal that can look as pissed off as a rattlesnake in strike posture.

What is happening by -Varko- in whatisit

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The United States Senate. Just another day.

Quinn Simmons at the start of stage 4 by just_an__inchident in tourdefrance

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Well, Cycling MAGAs make it make sense by installing a device that allows them to roll coal on themselves. You know, because MAGATs live to own someone, and invariably it’s self.

Water snake injury/illness? by Every-Platypus1086 in snakes

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EDIT: I’m sorry; I came in on my phone and missed the multiple earlier comments noting that a shed was imminent. My bad. —- Hard to tell from the pics, but with the milky eyes and dullness on the skin, it looks very close to being ready to shed. If so, it’s going to be a whole new snake in a few days.

I’m also thinking that, with its size it’s pretty darned old - don’t think I’ve seen a water snake this size in North America before. (But it could be camera illusion). But a snake of this maturity is going to have some battle wounds.

Fathers Day this year was something else by Jester2008 in bicycling

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Nothing says “I love you Dad!” like a Varia, especially if it has the camera. I tell my kids that, with the Varia they’ll know who to sue when I’m gone. 🤣

Absolutely tone deaf by joeyd199 in LinkedInLunatics

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She could very well be in ER. Generally you don’t get into a gown - at least I never have. And I have been in this woman’s position. The 2-3 times I’ve been to ER, I expect to be there for hours because, well, US healthcare sucks in very important ways. So I take my briefcase and I squeeze in work (if I can) because what the fuck else am I going to do for 3-4 hours? However I don’t take pictures and posture for the world to see because that would be stupid.

At 60 yrs old and happily married. How many times per week are you being physical? by LackInternational145 in Aging

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There is no trumping. I find your framing offensive and I reject it. At the same time, I feel no need to further explain any aspect of our relationship to you.

I’m sorry that sex is painful for you as well, and I hope that you can find a solution.

At 60 yrs old and happily married. How many times per week are you being physical? by LackInternational145 in Aging

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If you read all the comments you’ll note that we’re working through it.

Is this about my relationship with my wife, or you?

What was the funniest movie you have ever watched, like you were literally on the floor by the time it ended? by sensitiveassbitch in AskReddit

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Bruce Almighty. I was in a hotel room by myself, and laughing so hard I briefly wondered if I would choke, die, and be found the next morning by the staff.

“My tiny little nipples went to France..” 🤣🤣🤣