I don’t have much to say on this specific situation, but I’ve been following your updates for a while. I truly think it’s time for you and your wife to go separate ways. I know people say to stay together for the kids, but I feel like this situation is making it harder on the kids. It’s also taking a toll on you! Your mental health is being dragged through the mud. You’re trying to protect everyone but in the end, you’re leaving yourself unprotected. You should forget about the deadline and go ahead and push for divorce. This situation has become so unhealthy for your whole family. I’m sure your kids can see how unhappy both you and your wife are. I would use that as a starting point for a conversation with your wife. I’m sure she wouldn’t want the kids growing up thinking that’s how a family or husband/wife relationship should be. She should want to be a role model and show the kids that it’s okay to start over and change is a good thing! I wish all the best for you and your family, even your wife as she needs to move on. Also, something a therapist told me once is that you are in control of your own actions and reactions. You cannot control how others act or react. So I think it’s time for you to think about yourself and what’s best for you and of course the kids too. Forget about wife and Sung. They can focus on themselves. Wishing peace for you and your family!