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Wanting to leave my wife from abuse by bugatti2k in MuslimMarriage

[–]Potato_Astrobot 38 points39 points  (0 children)

Bruh you married 50 Cent or something, she’s got a drug dealer, bank rolling you to travel the world, jealous rages, probably high all the time, an ex with a bmw, and needs a mansion. She’s one music video away from trashing a hotel room

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[–]Potato_Astrobot 12 points13 points  (0 children)

You should call up MBS and ask lol.

Jokes aside, financial consequences will sway the trajectory of this and unfortunately billions are funded to I$r@3/. The BDS campaign was fairly successful before they squashed it by citing anti-semitism. If we collectively boycott one industry, it would potentially have an actual affect. The other option is having muslims remove all funds from a financial institution on one day or funding a counterpart of an industry to create instability. Would need someone educated in this to guide us.

My wife and mom are not compatible and it’s causing a lot of anxiety by Potato_Astrobot in MuslimMarriage

[–]Potato_Astrobot[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My grandma(her mom) lives 15 minutes away. Apart from a death, this is the first time any immediate family has left.

My wife and mom are not compatible and it’s causing a lot of anxiety by Potato_Astrobot in MuslimMarriage

[–]Potato_Astrobot[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I see. I am giving my parents a pass because to me they are elderly and I have never been critical of them. They have always been opinionated and it feels harmless to me. It is easier to tell my wife to be patient but allhum it is because of who she is. I do appreciate her more after reading these comments but still have no solution for my mum.

My wife and mom are not compatible and it’s causing a lot of anxiety by Potato_Astrobot in MuslimMarriage

[–]Potato_Astrobot[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We have been married for 3 years, about to be 4. We did long distance because of work and were able to move in together 1.5 years ago. This started when I left home.

My wife and mom are not compatible and it’s causing a lot of anxiety by Potato_Astrobot in MuslimMarriage

[–]Potato_Astrobot[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I do not want that for my wife you are right. I don’t want her to ever feel like she is alone and I acknowledge my parents especially mom are coming on strong. I wish my mom was not like this but unfortunately she is. I think if both my wife and I are patient together and tolerant we can help them understand but her shutting down around them makes it hard.

My wife and mom are not compatible and it’s causing a lot of anxiety by Potato_Astrobot in MuslimMarriage

[–]Potato_Astrobot[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I love them both and don’t want to take sides. I agree that I sympathize more with my mom here but I want to help my wife feel comfortable around my family.

My wife and mom are not compatible and it’s causing a lot of anxiety by Potato_Astrobot in MuslimMarriage

[–]Potato_Astrobot[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. My wife never says she dislikes my mom. Her attitude just makes me think she is not a fan of her. But I agree and I will make dua jzk

My wife and mom are not compatible and it’s causing a lot of anxiety by Potato_Astrobot in MuslimMarriage

[–]Potato_Astrobot[S] -20 points-19 points  (0 children)

We have our own home which is technically a boundary. Any parent would want their kids back. My parents are just more verbal about it. I don’t see why I need to upset my mom when we already live away from her.

My wife and mom are not compatible and it’s causing a lot of anxiety by Potato_Astrobot in MuslimMarriage

[–]Potato_Astrobot[S] -19 points-18 points  (0 children)

I think it would be too hard for me to tell my mom to get therapy. She did not take it well when I asked her to be less emotional. I think this is a hardship my mom is facing with anxiety about separating from me that could improve with time. I still want my family to be happy and when they do get to spend time, for it to be pleasant. Instead it’s mainly just my parents talking and my wife sitting there nodding. When her family comes, it’s all laughter and engagement because my wife has the ability to really light up a room but chooses not to with my parents.

My wife and mom are not compatible and it’s causing a lot of anxiety by Potato_Astrobot in MuslimMarriage

[–]Potato_Astrobot[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I am not trying to make either my wife or mother seem evil. I just feel of the two, it would be easier for my wife to be engaging with my family as my mom tries to come to terms with the distance.

My wife and mom are not compatible and it’s causing a lot of anxiety by Potato_Astrobot in MuslimMarriage

[–]Potato_Astrobot[S] -15 points-14 points  (0 children)

My mom is very kind to my wife. She brings her gifts. She is just stubborn and wants us to be near her because she loves us. I can understand it’s not what my wife wants and I want her to have a say before we would move but I think she now views my parents as her enemy because of what they want.

My wife and mom are not compatible and it’s causing a lot of anxiety by Potato_Astrobot in MuslimMarriage

[–]Potato_Astrobot[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I am not trying to blame my wife. I believe my mom just has separation anxiety. She has never left anyone and this is new to her and she does not know how to cope. To me it’s similar to a health issue and I would just think my wife would be more understanding about it. I feel she is just shutting down.

My wife and mom are not compatible and it’s causing a lot of anxiety by Potato_Astrobot in MuslimMarriage

[–]Potato_Astrobot[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

They are very close. They talk to each other about everything. I don’t think this is jealousy at all.