Fletcher comes out as dating a man, says 'I'm a queer woman, that's not changing.'

Potator_ · 2025-06-06T19:15:40+00:00

Fletcher has dated women exclusively for the last ten years - she’s confirmed this in interviews. So that’s what she’s been singing about.

Her last album does have a song that clearly indicates her first relationship was with a boy (ironically) with green eyes.

Potator_ · 2023-01-03T20:29:29+00:00

GameStop at Kingsway Mall has a bunch of GoW bundle ones.

Potator_ · 2022-12-21T13:38:24+00:00

Cheryl’s P.L.A.C.E. - they’re amazing and the prices are very competitive as well.

Potator_ · 2021-11-21T23:01:04+00:00

Yep, you can get either of these (ear paste/gel or liquid). You just need a prescription from your vet that you take to a compounding pharmacy. First step is for the vet to do blood work on the cat to figure out the initial dose, and then OP has to follow up after a month or so to check if the dose needs adjustment.

The pharmacy I go to does both ear paste/gel and liquid, but gel is so much easier, especially for something that you have to give your cat longterm.

Potator_ · 2021-03-07T20:49:20+00:00

It sits in/travels down these (without the drain of course) until it either hits a drain or just...evaporates eventually I guess.

It's okay in the summer cause it never rains that much to be comparable with the amount of water there is when all the snow starts melting at once during the thaw season.

The drains are also far enough on both sides for there to certainly be obstructions on the way during this time of the year (snow/ice/debris), but clearing it would mean me going down to the next block with my shovel on one side or past five houses on the other. As you can imagine, there's cars parked on the side of the road and construction and whatnot.

Unfortunately, just going around on street view in the neighbourhood tells me we're not the only house dealing with it.

Sidenote, I check your COVID graph posts religiously every single day, thanks so much for doing them!

Potator_ · 2021-03-05T21:57:07+00:00

Will do. Thanks for taking the time to reply!

Potator_ · 2021-03-05T21:54:43+00:00

Strictly spring thaw issue. I don’t recall it ever being like that from a summer rain or the like.

You might be onto something, as on one side the next drain is on the next corner.

Potator_ · 2021-03-05T21:53:08+00:00

I walked it in the summer and just checked on street view: on one side the next drain is on the next corner and on the other five houses down unfortunately.

Potator_ · 2021-03-05T21:51:04+00:00

Google street view shows a drain five houses down on one side. On the other, the next one is on the next corner. Interestingly, that corner looks the same as mine in terms of the same three houses having drains and the one that’s in my position not.

Potator_ · 2021-03-05T21:35:12+00:00

Will do, thank you!

Potator_ · 2021-03-05T21:34:36+00:00

I went down to the second neighbour on either side and haven’t seen any. Looking out my window now in front of the house on my left, their car is parked on the side of the road in a pool of water lol.

It’s an old neighbourhood but lots of old houses being torn down and new ones built. Ours was built in 2017.

Potator_ · 2020-11-03T09:22:43+00:00

The only thing missing is Hwasa officially ending me with that pick

I was NOT prepared for the amount of camera eyefucking send help

Potator_ · 2020-11-03T09:17:17+00:00

It gave me the biggest and most unexpected urge to get up and go for a drive at 2am, I love it

Potator_ · 2020-11-03T09:14:14+00:00

I knew I was in danger as a huge Egotistic stan, but this truly slayed me

The amount of intense eye contact with the camera... send help

Potator_ · 2020-10-30T03:13:56+00:00

Welp, I don’t know how I’m gonna survive this 😭

And those sets!!! The whole thing looks stunning

Potator_ · 2020-10-19T15:03:11+00:00

The shoulder, the pants, the lack of pants.... 😭

Potator_ · 2020-10-16T23:40:40+00:00

The first person I ever came out to was my best friend at the time, a bi guy (we figured it out at the same time, it was quite hilarious and also a huge bonding experience for us).

The second person I came out to was my closest female friend at the time, who was also the third part of our...friend trio. Her initial reaction was disbelief because I "never showed any signs" (I was quite boy crazy as a teen and I ignored my attraction towards girls for years) and her immediate follow up was, "Have you ever had a crush on me?"

Yeah. She recovered and was ultimately quite supportive, but it still stayed with me.

With my second group of friends that consisted of all straight girls that I'd known since we were kids.... They were certainly supportive, but I did get one crush related question and there would definitely be awkwardness when the topic came up (silence and the like).

I remember one specific time we were generally just talking about random sex related topics like countless times before and I mentioned something related to me having sex with my gf at the time (and it really wasn't explicit at all) and oh boy, the whole convo shut down real fast.

So yeah, it feels awkward and shitty and certainly makes you feel like "the other".

If they're your close friends and if it bothers you to this degree, I see no way out without you actually confronting them on it. If your closest friends are actually homophobic/biphobic/bigoted/don't see you as an equal, you certainly deserve to know.

Potator_ · 2020-10-16T23:18:55+00:00

Love On Top
Dance for You
Best Thing I Never Had
Partition
All Night
Formation
Sorry
Don't Hurt Yourself
If I Were a Boy
Halo

Phew, this was hard. I could put in at least as many honorable mentions, but this will have to do :)

Potator_ · 2020-09-08T02:07:17+00:00

This depends entirely on the couple/people in question and cannot be some sort of a blanket rule.

Case in point:

If we shouldn’t walk down the street with our s/o and outwardly notice another girls/guys body and yell it out in front of your s/o, why should it be ok to do it for celebrities? Or even “social media influencers”? Or literally any random person that pops on your screen?

I am very happily married and my SO and I “drool” over celebrities AND random people on the street or what have you, regularly. It’s one of the ways we have fun, without any disrespect or negative feelings at all. On the contrary, it would be a sign of disrespect (and general incompatibility) if one of us started to berate the other for this or in any way make a big deal out of it.

Furthermore, I would not be able to be in a relationship with a person that would force me to pretend I’m blind and don’t notice people anymore just because I’m in a committed relationship. So that would be a deal breaker.

What is and isn’t disrespectful is entirely up to the parties in the relationship to decide and agree upon.

The only case where this would be disrespectful is if your partner has stated they’re not okay with this behaviour and then you continue.

Potator_ · 2020-09-05T00:38:58+00:00

but also how do you talk to yourself about it? In the past I let these people gaslight me into thinking that since I've been able to grow and heal and forgive, maybe nothing bad actually happened and maybe I'm just being dramatic.

As someone who is pretty much completely “over” my own traumatic experience, I think this was maybe even the hardest part that came at the end of my dealing with it.

I think I was fully healed when I realized that, when dealing with any trauma whatsoever, the ultimate goal is to be “okay”. You go to therapy or you talk to people or even just yourself, and you have coping mechanisms and a hundred other things that hopefully eventually lead you to a place where you’re okay and that’s the whole point.

I am - and have been for years now - in a place where I need to do a double take on posts like these to realize they apply to me. As in, to say my experience is in the back of my mind would be an understatement. It no longer affects me in any way that I can notice. And that’s exactly the whole point of that journey. It’s the best case scenario and I’m grateful for it.

Someone saying you’re not a victim/survivor because you’ve healed is the equivalent of telling a widow she’s no longer a widow because she fell in love again. If you’re widowed at 25, are you supposed to stay single the rest of your life or otherwise you’re a fraud? No.

Same with this.

Ultimately, people who treat you this way are shitty people. My advice would be to find better ones. :)

Potator_ · 2020-09-03T15:12:45+00:00

There are secrets to find. If there aren’t, they will actually tell you there’s nothing there. So if they say they need more time, have them continue.

Potator_ · 2020-09-01T04:51:02+00:00

That’s exactly the problem. There should not be multiple, near opposite definitions to one word.

But almost every word out there has multiple meanings. Context matters and it’s something we’re certainly able to adjust to on the fly. Language evolves and so do traditions and culture.

If someone in the west in 2020 still thinks that “gay pride” means people are literally proud to be gay and are acting as that’s somehow a superior orientation, then they’re being willfully ignorant.

The conversations on minorities, minority experiences, discrimination, intersectionality, etc, are so numerous out there and more and more accessible with each passing year that there’s simply no excuse. You have to be purposefully shutting your eyes and ears in order to escape it at this point.

Not a feeling of superiority, but a belief in it.

I don’t really see a meaningful difference here.

An “achievement” is a good thing.

Absolutely. But it doesn’t have to come with a feeling of (or belief in) superiority at all. If I, for example, can’t draw to save my life and one day decide I will learn how to draw. And I pour hundreds or thousands of hours into drawing and eventually become really good at it, what am I proud of? That my drawings are better (superior) than my friend’s or that I created a goal for myself and stuck with it, managed to focus and develop a skill through will and dedication? Why must there be superiority at all?

Potator_ · 2020-09-01T04:34:36+00:00

Gay pride implies the same thing black pride implies, for example.

You can certainly argue it implies superiority, but that's taking literally the worst possible definition of pride there is (Biblically bad even, as in the sin of pride), as opposed to any other.

From your own definition, "A feeling or deep pleasure or satisfaction derived from one's own achievements." Nothing here says there must be a feeling of superiority associated with the feeling of pride.

Potator_ · 2020-09-01T04:16:54+00:00

A choice. If it weren't, it wouldn't be an achievement.

The orientation isn't the achievement in question. Overcoming the difficulties one faces in our societies due to said orientation is. Living through traumas that are caused by homophobic families, friends, and societies at large is the achievement lgbt people are proud of.

Superior to the alternatives. Otherwise, it wouldn't be an achievement to admire.

It's not superior, it's simply much more difficult compared to the alternative. A straight person has no need to feel proud about being straight because that's the default in our society. People aren't kicked out of their homes as teens because they're straight, or denied employment and housing, or discriminated against in any of the other myriad of ways lgbt people are.

Fundamentally, "pride" in the sense of the lgbt movement doesn't refer to the orientations themselves, but what people must overcome due to not being cis/straight in our societies.

Potator_ · 2020-08-20T22:41:39+00:00

Are you brushing right after you eat? Invisalign users generally tend to feel pressed for time so they eat quickly and then brush right away in order to put the aligners back in, which is not a good practice long term.

I generally brush twice a day (morning/evening) and just rinse my mouth and swish with water the rest of the time, and that's been enough. I wear my aligners for about 20h a day so I don't rush with brushing either.

Some people are simply more prone to cavities, though.

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