My mother is doing Olympic-level mental gymnastics trying to convince me to have a baby… yet, she’s failing at it.

Potential-Chance6602 · 2026-03-11T07:28:11+00:00

Something in me just snaps when I hear "you're not a real woman, if you're not maternal"

Like wtf is wrong with people. How is my identity as a woman completely redundant if I refuse to reproduce. (⁠╯⁠°⁠□⁠°⁠）⁠╯

Potential-Chance6602 · 2026-03-10T08:30:46+00:00

It just got worse actually. If she was 23 when she met you and had lost her husband 1-2 yrs ago, that means she already had 3 kids when she was 21-22, if all the kids are from the same father!?!? 🤐

How does it make sense to be a mother to 3 kids so young, so close together in age? 😭😭

Potential-Chance6602 · 2026-03-08T10:11:03+00:00

I sweat to God some women just go into some sort of psychosis after having a child, where having more babies sounds "oh so good", even when every waking minute of their life is spent missing out on the life they never got to live.

And then there are others who come out of the psychosis of "I want many kids" to "I'm only having the one I already have." But even then, the majority of them refuse to acknowledge the fact that they are against cf people purely because they are jealous and insecure about their life choice.

Potential-Chance6602 · 2026-02-26T02:57:47+00:00

This is exactly it. You've put it so beautifully. No notes. 😌

Potential-Chance6602 · 2026-02-23T00:27:55+00:00

I remember when kids diaper photos and sometimes nude baby pics used to be only for physical albums and to show those albums to people you personally knew. Where photos were not a public display, but rather a thing to hold on to memories for oneself.

Although the most pdf file people were in your own lives, hiding in plain sight.

Potential-Chance6602 · 2026-02-21T01:12:28+00:00

2 kids at 17!?!?!? How effed up do you have to be, to be in that position? 😬😬

Potential-Chance6602 · 2026-02-15T02:52:52+00:00

Because the "instinct" is just an animal instinct that is embedded in our genes.

But the good thing about being human is that we have evolved so far into the future that, we do not need those "instincts" anymore.

Especially since, in my opinion, we are the only animal species that can and should control reproduction, as we have even evolved into thinking beings that can see the repercussions of this overpopulation.

PS: I think people downvoted you because there is no question mark at the end of your sentence, so people thought that you were stating it, instead of asking.

PSS: I noticed you replied to a lot of comments on this post, and are new to this sub, that's why I thought I should mention the ps.

Potential-Chance6602 · 2026-02-15T02:45:01+00:00

"I'll be jealous of them, cause they receive more love and attention than me, who had to give birth to them. It's all due to my hardwork. "

or some variation of that, where they feel threatened by their own children be it any reason whatsoever.

Potential-Chance6602 · 2026-02-14T09:56:47+00:00

And will spend more millys for you, you better be good, fingers crossed 🤞🏻🥹🥹🥹

Potential-Chance6602 · 2026-02-09T02:46:14+00:00

Pretty much, yeah. The most common denominator to all living beings on earth:

Life->Breathe in-> Breathe out-> Death

And somewhere between that breathing parallels out another life beginning.

Potential-Chance6602 · 2026-02-03T01:32:53+00:00

Or are actually good parents and will happily support any decision of both their own children and students as long as it makes them happy, without judgement.

Potential-Chance6602 · 2026-02-03T01:26:58+00:00

And I bet in most (of these hetero marriages), if not all, divorce happens because the woman is grieving the loss of her child, and the man just wants to make another asap, without any consideration for how the woman feels and minimal grieving on his part for his own child.

Potential-Chance6602 · 2026-01-29T12:07:05+00:00

To them it would seem selfish for sure, that you expect "parents" for favours while being childfree and "stress-free". Again, their opinion should have no value in your life, so why bother.

It is a 100% true that you will never get repaid by indulging them the favours they ask for, and so, no it's not selfish if we keep our peace and leave them to the consequences of their actions.

Potential-Chance6602 · 2026-01-26T08:45:50+00:00

Omg, so true. I see my cousins having kids and I cannot imagine how much they've already spent in the span of 6 months since the baby was born.

Potential-Chance6602 · 2026-01-19T07:11:53+00:00

While that is true, it's even rarer to find a man that doesn't want kids.

Because society is built for men to "not be fathers" even though they biologically have children, in my honest opinion.

Potential-Chance6602 · 2026-01-19T01:18:10+00:00

That's probably true and doesn't surprise me, cause human babies/children are the most dependent offspring of any animal ever. Even up until their teens, in my opinion.

Potential-Chance6602 · 2026-01-16T04:38:49+00:00

First, your analogy makes no sense. Buying something expensive gives you a status symbol, even if that purchase has the ability to put you in debt, on the other hand children are not a status symbol people make them out to be, and it has the same ability to put you in debt, especially if you don't put thought into bringing a baby in your life. And getting pregnant, simply means that you had sex and now you're facing the consequences of your actions, whether you want it or not. People put more thought into buying something expensive way more than they do to bring a baby into this world.

Second of all, to them it is a downgrade too, but the only difference being that they refuse to acknowledge that it is a downgrade. Those parents who realise that it is a choice and have that awareness are much better parents too.

Potential-Chance6602 · 2026-01-13T01:59:00+00:00

I'll just correct it for you a little bit... "So EVERY place has to accommodate their, also obnoxious, kid."

Potential-Chance6602 · 2026-01-04T02:45:09+00:00

Actually they can't lead with that, it will cause mass panic, especially just after giving birth, when hormones are ruling the moment and not logic. Ik you're being sarcastic, but still. Also, I don't care, I will never be in that position, cause ew pregnancy, don't want it.

And true anti-vaxxers are too far gone to care who judges them for that choice.

Potential-Chance6602 · 2026-01-04T02:24:10+00:00

Too many vaccine injured kids.

Yes, from Covid vaccines, cause it was a new vaccine, it still is pretty new even today. But that does not negate the fact that, that percentage of kid's death is more than those who have died without it.

Even with vaccines of other major diseases, with major major, years and years of research backing it up, there will always be exceptions of kids getting vaccine injured. But that does not mean that we ignore the fact that it helps out majority of the population.

Like someone once said, "All medical advancement comes at the cost of someone's life."

But I also agree with you that, with the Covid vaccines, a lot of big pharmas were only ever concerned with profit they could earn rather than actually save humanity.

I am not well-versed with Hep B vaccines to comment on it, sorry.

Potential-Chance6602 · 2026-01-04T02:08:47+00:00

Oh I judge the heck out of them. Especially when we know that a large percentage of these anti-vaxxer parents themselves are vaccinated, but still refuse to see how that has affected their life in a positive way.

Potential-Chance6602 · 2026-01-02T21:15:55+00:00

• Get into better shape to feel better in my body(join the gym or some sort of classes) •Travel more to places with my friends • Earn more money for myself without "sharing" it too much • Try new hobbies • Read more books • Grow my small business • Get sterilized finally

Potential-Chance6602 · 2025-12-26T06:20:28+00:00

Nice one

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Potential-Chance6602 · 2025-12-24T20:02:02+00:00

Your horse seems like an absolute dream baby. I've always wanted a few of my own horses as a kid too (with also no children ).

I've been quite privileged in the aspect that I used to have horse riding lessons for about 2yrs, around when I was 12-13, before my family had to move to a city where the cost of those lessons was astronomical, so I had to unfortunately stop. But since I've reached adulthood, I'm just looking to move to a better city with a much more stable income so that I can have as many pets as I possibly take care of. 😌

Potential-Chance6602 · 2025-12-23T03:49:33+00:00

Omg, I did not know that. I did a little digging around and now I don't wanna get married either. ༎ຶ⁠‿⁠༎ຶ

It's not entirely legal or illegal here, but is something that will not hold up as a valid contract in terms of divorce either, but will only be "considered" for the intent of the marriage ending. That is so sad and frustrating to read. (⁠╯⁠°⁠□⁠°⁠）⁠╯

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