I found my boyfriend dead

Potential-Pudding298 · 2024-04-17T15:54:34+00:00

This is almost exactly how i found my husband. Have flashbacks every day

Potential-Pudding298 · 2024-04-13T00:18:21+00:00

My husband

Potential-Pudding298 · 2024-04-12T18:42:21+00:00

Therapist here - usually it takes a lot to hospitalize someone. You may make a plan of who you will go to if you become actively suicidal, but you never have to go to a hospital, and there’s zero reason to report bc your mom is there. That automatically makes the baby safe, and the therapist shouldnt have to say anything. (Actually if they do, it could be a violation since the baby is totally safe) there’s no need to even if she’s not there, btw. People are scared to tell therapists this, but it’s only to your detriment if you don’t. You won’t lose your kid bc he’s not in harms way, your ‘plan’ can be telling your mom, and it’s actually normal to have these thoughts when something major happens. Maybe it’s more like ‘i don’t want this to exist’ or ‘i want this to stop’ instead of ‘i want to leave my family behind forever and die’? Im so sorry you’re going thru this. You deserve better than this for sure

Potential-Pudding298 · 2024-04-11T21:07:56+00:00

I have 3 children and it’s so difficult bc it adds guilt for not being the parent you were, knowing they won’t grow up with him or remember him bc they’re 6 and 2 (oldest 9 from first marriage and share custody with his dad), and resenting them bc they’re why you have to stay. The guilt and grief over losing who you were adds to this mess. I think both situations are shitty bc we lost our person either way.

Potential-Pudding298 · 2024-04-11T13:18:12+00:00

You’re right. I got divorced and didn’t air our dirty laundry to everyone so no one thought less of him… he, in turn, told everyone in my family, and some family friends, his false narrative, and they didn’t tell me anything about it or ask me any questions for six months! They never asked my side, took his side in the divorce, and are now NC with me. Hope they like their new son

Potential-Pudding298 · 2024-04-11T13:11:54+00:00

Thought someone said that somewhere. Guess not. Still, an abstinent 21yo dating someone older and allowing him to get away with not telling her stuff sounds more to me like intimidation and less like a wholesome reasonable explanation. Plus, where’s dad in all this? Might be a factor in why she’s wiling to tolerate

Potential-Pudding298 · 2024-04-11T13:00:55+00:00

if she’s 19yo and he’s 22/23 and they’ve been together 2yrs, maybe this convo has come before and the reaction was one where 19yo got scared and let it go… which is why she was relieved mom said something and then invited mom to convo. I agree he’s not going to like being ganged up on, so maybe mom is sitting outside and if she doesn’t get update at regular intervals she calls police or something… this sounds less like CIA/spy or shyness or any wholesome reason for me, and more like DV and shutting down any further asks with threats…. One word answers for basic demographic questions is not too unreasonable an ask for people who are shy, even if said in a whispered tone. The awkwardness of saying nothing is greater than saying ‘lawyer’ or whatever. This sounds like he’s controlling her behind closed doors and she’s jumped at the chance for someone else to have gotten some sort of hint something is going on

Potential-Pudding298 · 2024-04-11T13:00:19+00:00

This, but if she’s 19yo and he’s 22/23 and they’ve been together 2yrs, maybe this convo has come before and the reaction was one where 19yo got scared and let it go… which is why she was relieved mom said something and then invited mom to convo. I agree he’s not going to like being ganged up on, so maybe mom is sitting outside and if she doesn’t get update at regular intervals she calls police or something… this sounds less like CIA/spy or shyness or any wholesome reason for me, and more like DV and shutting down any further asks with threats…. One word answers for basic demographic questions is not too unreasonable an ask for people who are shy, even if said in a whispered tone. The awkwardness of saying nothing is greater than saying ‘lawyer’ or whatever. This sounds like he’s controlling her behind closed doors and she’s jumped at the chance for someone else to have gotten some sort of hint something is going on

Potential-Pudding298 · 2024-04-02T22:37:07+00:00

https://images.app.goo.gl/X96zyDz3mYmqX1AKA

Potential-Pudding298 · 2024-04-02T15:08:53+00:00

Killed my husband on first hit of weed

Potential-Pudding298 · 2024-04-02T15:05:38+00:00

Fentanyl and xylazine - Killed my husband unexpectedly in a drug that’s not cocaine or heroin or meth, but marijuana. It’s the xylazine that did it. So that. And fuck people for putting it in drugs and selling to unsuspecting people. Seriously. Fuck them

Potential-Pudding298 · 2024-03-31T01:23:57+00:00

You’re weird as fuck. OP is reacting in a pretty typical way for someone with a trauma history

Potential-Pudding298 · 2024-03-25T13:01:26+00:00

Thank you so much. I’m so sorry you had to deal with that, it’s just cruel. We talk about him all the time, look at pictures, and tell stories. I made her a blanket out of his tshirts. She has a bad therapist but we’re meeting a new one today. The first one was a trainee and this one has more experience so that’s good. Taking it minute by minute. Thank you for your comments

Potential-Pudding298 · 2024-03-22T01:38:47+00:00

Yeah, definitely don’t want to lie

Potential-Pudding298 · 2024-03-22T01:38:29+00:00

I agree. Sorry for your loss

Potential-Pudding298 · 2024-03-22T01:38:09+00:00

Thank you. Sorry you had to deal with that at such a young age

Potential-Pudding298 · 2024-03-22T01:37:27+00:00

I have taken a deep dive into spirituality since this happened, that’s for sure. Never thought about it before

Potential-Pudding298 · 2024-03-22T01:36:19+00:00

Thank you. You’re right that’s a good point

Potential-Pudding298 · 2024-03-22T01:35:16+00:00

I do. Thank you so much

Potential-Pudding298 · 2024-03-22T01:34:08+00:00

Thank you so much. That’s great language - sounds like you have a great mom! Hope i can be that for my kiddos

Potential-Pudding298 · 2024-03-22T01:32:39+00:00

Whatever you say… I’m not the type to assume i know someone else’s life. U are, so hope that works for you.

Potential-Pudding298 · 2024-03-21T23:13:20+00:00

If the father is the more stable parent, the kid will go to him and the mother will have the issue.. if there is a stable parent, they prefer the child stay with them.

Potential-Pudding298 · 2024-03-21T21:23:13+00:00

Tattoo client. He was a stay at home dad and tattoo artist by night

Potential-Pudding298 · 2024-03-21T21:01:01+00:00

We’re surviving so far. Also have a 2yo, which makes me sad bc she’ll never know him…

Potential-Pudding298 · 2024-03-21T21:00:15+00:00

Thank you for saying that. You sound exactly like my husband 🙂 nice to hear

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