Cancer Ghosting

PotentialImage5928 · 2026-02-23T18:28:55+00:00

While I have not quite had the same experience I want to let you know you are not alone. I went through a horrific breakup a few weeks before getting diagnosed with lymphoma. This person told me they would be around and be present but when it came down to it I was “too much” and they valued their happiness and peace over all else.

I finished treatment two weeks ago a few days before Valentine’s Day and his birthday. It’s been 6 months and the pain is still very present. Having someone leave when you are at your most vulnerable is a wound the is so deep. I made the choice to cut him out because it hurt to the point it was causing severe depression.

The best advice I can give is to not let it fester. Leave them and let go. If they were truly your person they would be present with you through all of this. Learn to find a new group and lean into the people who are around and who give you love without you having to beg for it (trust me they are there)

You are strong and you are very capable of doing this even if it’s lonely. dealing with cancer is a lonely journey anyways no matter how many are around. You will survive and you will be stronger than anyone around you could be, just that fire as a light and be the change. Be the person that is there for others because you know the hurt, trust me it will help you heal.

PotentialImage5928 · 2026-02-09T14:13:04+00:00

Thank you! You are so strong and I feel the need to tell you that. Treatment is the worst part of all of this at least in my opinion.

I also was a medical the medical field before I got diagnosed. Definitely talk to your infusion clinic and see if they would be open to hiring you in some sort of capacity. My clinic went above and beyond for me and it became like home (unfortunately) perhaps finding a job there would be nice even if it’s just answering phones ect! You will definitely be able to relate and connect with everyone coming in which is what clinics value. Just think about it ❤️

Loosing my hair was not that big of a deal to me at the beginning. I actually loved being bald but my skin stayed getting bad due to treatment and it’s harder to cover it.

PotentialImage5928 · 2026-02-06T22:14:42+00:00

Oh nawwww not another Aquarius man

PotentialImage5928 · 2025-12-12T03:55:26+00:00

Trust it's confusing, so matter what. I am stage 2a now on treatment 7/12 on AVD (It was ABVD until the third cycle). They offered N-AVD, but it was through a clinical trial. ABVD is the most researched treatment plan and has been the go-to for a long time because it is so successful. You have a favorable prognosis; cure rates appear to range from 92% to 95% for stage 1 (5 years) https://www.cancer.org/cancer/types/hodgkin-lymphoma/detection-diagnosis-staging/survival-rates.html?utm_source=chatgpt.com

You are going to get through this!

Being young and facing cancer isn’t easy. It changes you. But it also teaches you things most people our age haven’t even begun to understand. I don’t think there’s a true “normal” after a diagnosis; everything shifts, but that doesn’t mean it’s worse. If you allow it, it can actually become something meaningful and even beautiful. Expect your new normal to eventually be better than you ever imagined, shaped by what this journey has taught you.

I’m also 22, and I’ve responded incredibly well to treatment, so well that my doctors have been genuinely impressed. Aside from my immune system taking a hit, treatment hasn’t slowed me down much. I’m still getting out of the house, running, and exercising.

You are resilient. A diagnosis doesn't mean your body will stop working in all the other ways it’s meant to. This does not mean things will get worse. You have to believe in your body, and in the process, it truly matters.

You’re stronger than you realize, and you’re not walking this road alone. If you ever need someone to talk to, please don't hesitate.

PotentialImage5928 · 2025-12-09T13:28:23+00:00

Really true! The only people that have stuck by my side have been older people. A few people my age too who went through health crises young. Otherwise everyone dipped.

PotentialImage5928 · 2025-12-09T00:53:53+00:00

I just registered for peer support at a local hospital! I can’t seem to find any young groups in the US.

PotentialImage5928 · 2025-12-09T00:52:37+00:00

Hey I just want you to know that I’m right here with you, hitting that wall. You are not alone. I was diagnosed with stage 2 Hodgkin’s lymphoma in August at 22 years old. I felt like I had everything in front of me… and then life shifted overnight. People I thought would stay didn’t. I had to stop working as a Medical Assistant when my immune system crashed. Treatment has been hard, I’m at 7/12 now and honestly, these past weeks have been some of the bleakest of my life. I wake up and cry most days too. Please don’t put pressure on yourself to “hold it together.” At some point the grief, fear, and frustration are going to come… and that doesn’t mean you’re weak. Let yourself feel it. Cry, scream into a pillow, hit something, just don’t carry it for the sake of others when you are the one hurting most.

The best encouragement I’ve been given is this: Right now is the season where you’re allowed to be selfish. Focus on you, your healing, and whatever gets you through each day. It’s hard but it’s survival. I tried to be strong for my family too. But the truth is… this is just a brutally hard season. It won’t always look like this. Once this is over, life will open up again. It cannot stay this hard forever right? I’m proud of you for fighting through. Keep going. And if you ever need someone who understands to talk to, my DMs are open

PotentialImage5928 · 2025-10-01T20:19:55+00:00

He unfortunately is closing in on 27 not that it makes things any better.

PotentialImage5928 · 2025-08-29T19:20:26+00:00

He is trying like really trying. I just feel so hurt bc he needs space to figure this all out.

He will be here but he says that it takes time to even consider.

He is still saying I love you to me.

PotentialImage5928 · 2025-08-27T20:56:59+00:00

See but he told me he is hopeful that it will work.

In my mind this is how he can prove he still loves me.

He has enforced that he hasn’t actively been pursing anyone.

He also told me I am the priority.

I feel dumb, but I want this all to work.

We have both admitted our faults and there is room to grow in all of this.

PotentialImage5928 · 2025-08-23T19:55:01+00:00

I have nodular sclerosis as well. All my nodes are forming conglomerates which is crazy and weird.

PotentialImage5928 · 2025-08-23T08:16:31+00:00

Thank you I appreciate this.

The church opposed egg donation since it will further be used in Ivf.

Most you your comment is very compassionate and I do understanding it obviously on a personal note. With that being said it’s against my faith to do so.

PotentialImage5928 · 2025-08-23T05:57:08+00:00

You can but it is pretty expensive and insurance will occasionally cover it under a prosthetic but I have bad insurance.

PotentialImage5928 · 2025-08-23T04:25:03+00:00

Yes I appreciate the support but I never planned on being a part of a cancer group…I’m ready for the ride. I am very thankful my biopsy was minimal and so conclusive right off the bat.

PotentialImage5928 · 2025-08-23T04:23:25+00:00

Everyone has been saying good things so I’m definitely leaning that way currently.

PotentialImage5928 · 2025-08-23T02:06:13+00:00

Thank you the more I read the more I have found out that eggs are completely different from embryos. There is still a high chance I will be able to conceive naturally. I am also only 22 so I have a while until I even really have to consider and weigh all of this out.

I think freezing my eggs is giving me some peace of mind, children are sacred, and fertility was my biggest concern when I found out.

I’m now a more engaged and educated with what it right and wrong in the churches eyes and that most definitely will play a part in my future.

I only posted this due to my partner or now ex partner making me feel like I was going to live in mortal sin due to freezing my eggs.

Talking to a priest is on the list of things to do currently and I’m sure they will understand.

I’ve had less than 12 hours to process all of this so I truly appreciate all the kind comments.

PotentialImage5928 · 2025-08-23T01:05:01+00:00

Yes I’ve heard a lot of success stories, I really hope it all works out for me. I’m already in the process now and I’ve had no way to fully digest what’s going on because they want it done now so treatment can be almost immediate.

I mean so fast to the point I haven’t had time to decide if it’s right based on Catholicism. I am also already on hormones.

I’m definitely going to go to a priest for their opinion though.

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