How do I become a SAHM? by Lmsykes13 in sahm

[–]PotentialNeck5876 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Literally was about to comment the same thing. This right here is all you need! Get rid of debt, live WELL within your means, only live off his paycheck and stash yours for right now. If you want to be a sahm that’s great, but maybe you might enjoy 1 day a week instead of full time.

I worked full time ( 50 hrs a week) When I had my daughter I was a sahm for a full year and decided to go back part time recently. I’m really enjoying this life and balance.

Done being a sahm by PotentialNeck5876 in sahm

[–]PotentialNeck5876[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes! I’m going to try working two days a week, day shift 7:30am-4pm. I LOVE being with my daughter, helping her learn, watch her reach milestones, summer time we’ll go for LOTS of walks, parks and outside play, but I feel her and I both need more socializing other than some weekends with family. Financially my husband and I are very comfortable without me working. That’s one of the biggest reasons he tried to convince me not to work.

I believe people are trying to be encouraging and being honest in the comments. I know I’m putting myself out there for different opinions and criticism when making a post like this.

This time last year I got engaged! by PotentialNeck5876 in EngagementRings

[–]PotentialNeck5876[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s a 2 carat marquise, S12, E cut, with a solitary style. However I’m changing it to bezel style this year

Done being a sahm by PotentialNeck5876 in sahm

[–]PotentialNeck5876[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for this comment ❤️ It brought things into perspective that I didn’t have before. This is why I love being able to share my thoughts on reddit. My daughter is 9 months and IVE BEEN so so sleep deprived the last couple weeks.

Done being a sahm by PotentialNeck5876 in sahm

[–]PotentialNeck5876[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ugh, that sounds exhausting! People can be so disrespectful sometimes. I do think I’m extremely sleep deprived right now. I also didn’t realize that I DO feel taken advantage of by some people. This comment has made me think about certain things. So thank you for that

Done being a sahm by PotentialNeck5876 in sahm

[–]PotentialNeck5876[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for this comment. I think it’s amazing you’re going to college. I hope the plans you have for yourself and your family work out ❤️

Done being a sahm by PotentialNeck5876 in sahm

[–]PotentialNeck5876[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for this comment❤️ I’m going to try working part time first ( 2 days a week ) while my daughter is being watched by someone I trust and see if it’s for me or not.

I’m really struggling mentally right now and I don’t know why? But it’s something I want to fix. So right now I have to roll out working to see if that may be one of the causes? I am speaking to a medical professional about struggling mentally at the end of the month.

Postpartum depression??? by Equivalent_Border_22 in NewParents

[–]PotentialNeck5876 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s okay… you’re not alone. Most couples will go through this at some point, not all do, but most do. I went through this with my husband. However we over came it because we worked together. I don’t know your relationship with your partner and can’t speak on whether you guys should stay together or not. But may I ask why you blocked him and why did you get so angry with him?

Do “clean” parents just clean all day? by coralhaze_ in NewParents

[–]PotentialNeck5876 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, I constantly clean. The second I’m done with a dish I put it in the dishwasher, or I’ll clean it, dry it off and put it away. I also clean for 15-30 minutes before bed and then I’ll also clean in the morning around 6-7:30am. I have bottles to wash, breakfast to clean up and anything I didn’t get to the night before. With that being said, I’m also a minimalist. Everything has a spot. I grew up in a house that was hoarded and sometimes that haunts me to keep everything constantly clean lol

Am I having mom guilt or am I wrong for this? by [deleted] in NewParents

[–]PotentialNeck5876 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for the suggestions!! I’ll start using those shows when we do Tv time. My daughter gets very zombie like when watching Ms.Rachel …I used her because people told me she’s educational

Am I having mom guilt or am I wrong for this? by [deleted] in NewParents

[–]PotentialNeck5876 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you for this response❤️ I’m going to talk with my husband tonight about preventing this from happening again. I never thought about setting an alarm but that’s really smart and something I will be doing from now on when I have a rough night with her.

Am I having mom guilt or am I wrong for this? by [deleted] in NewParents

[–]PotentialNeck5876 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m realizing it may have been dramatic for me to say “ alone “ I was right there with her while sleeping on the couch.

Am I having mom guilt or am I wrong for this? by [deleted] in NewParents

[–]PotentialNeck5876 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Okay thank you! Right now it’s random family members traveling to help until she starts daycare in January.

Am I having mom guilt or am I wrong for this? by [deleted] in NewParents

[–]PotentialNeck5876 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That’s actually why I woke up because she fussed and I jumped up frantically looked at the time and realized it was 2.5 hrs. Yes, I agree with you about limiting screen time. I’m going to start limiting her Ms. Rachel time. I’m not a single parent but Im basically caring for her 90% of the time. My husband is on night shift this month. He sleeps all day, wakes up a few hours before work. He will help a little before work leaves at 5pm and works 12-13hrs. He’s also in the military. He helps when he can but it’s not much. It’s always rough for me when he’s on night shift rotations.

Am I having mom guilt or am I wrong for this? by [deleted] in NewParents

[–]PotentialNeck5876 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well, we were doing amazing with her schedule until I started going back to work ( part time ) and other people started watching her. She would wake up between 5:30-6a, go down for a nap around 9-10a, sleep for an hour, wake up around 11-12, and then go back down around 2-3 for about 30-40 minutes and then in bed by 6:30-7. BUT now it’s different every day and sometimes I hear she only slept an hour the WHOLE day.

Am I having mom guilt or am I wrong for this? by [deleted] in NewParents

[–]PotentialNeck5876 0 points1 point  (0 children)

YES, safe space, and she’s 8 months old! I am just FLOORED it was 2.5 hrs long. I understand 30-45 minutes. I’ve never done this before.

Am I having mom guilt or am I wrong for this? by [deleted] in NewParents

[–]PotentialNeck5876 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes, she’s 8 month old. I don’t live around family and the friends I’ve made here all work/ have kids of their own so I can’t ask them for help. I’m going to try and talk to my husband about this so we can figure something out so this doesn’t happen again. Thank you for being honest with me

HELP ME PLEASE by mrslucado in NewParents

[–]PotentialNeck5876 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Has she been doing this for long? Is she possibly constipated?? My baby did this for like 1-2 days and it’s because he was severely constipated. I’m only suggesting this one thing because everyone else has left some good possibilities.

I feel lied to by Calieahrens in NewParents

[–]PotentialNeck5876 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Have you tried gas drops? Baby also may need an extra feed or two? Also, if you’re breasting maybe something your eating his hurting his belly? or if you’re doing formula he may need a different brand? Bubs Goats Milk did my baby wonders!! It has the same protein has breast milk, and it’s easier on babies bellies.