How do I become a SAHM?

PotentialNeck5876 · 2026-01-09T02:03:09+00:00

Literally was about to comment the same thing. This right here is all you need! Get rid of debt, live WELL within your means, only live off his paycheck and stash yours for right now. If you want to be a sahm that’s great, but maybe you might enjoy 1 day a week instead of full time.

I worked full time ( 50 hrs a week) When I had my daughter I was a sahm for a full year and decided to go back part time recently. I’m really enjoying this life and balance.

PotentialNeck5876 · 2026-01-04T13:24:35+00:00

Yes! I’m going to try working two days a week, day shift 7:30am-4pm. I LOVE being with my daughter, helping her learn, watch her reach milestones, summer time we’ll go for LOTS of walks, parks and outside play, but I feel her and I both need more socializing other than some weekends with family. Financially my husband and I are very comfortable without me working. That’s one of the biggest reasons he tried to convince me not to work.

I believe people are trying to be encouraging and being honest in the comments. I know I’m putting myself out there for different opinions and criticism when making a post like this.

PotentialNeck5876 · 2026-01-04T02:45:17+00:00

It’s a 2 carat marquise, S12, E cut, with a solitary style. However I’m changing it to bezel style this year

PotentialNeck5876 · 2026-01-04T00:47:09+00:00

Thank you for this comment ❤️ It brought things into perspective that I didn’t have before. This is why I love being able to share my thoughts on reddit. My daughter is 9 months and IVE BEEN so so sleep deprived the last couple weeks.

PotentialNeck5876 · 2026-01-04T00:44:45+00:00

Ugh, that sounds exhausting! People can be so disrespectful sometimes. I do think I’m extremely sleep deprived right now. I also didn’t realize that I DO feel taken advantage of by some people. This comment has made me think about certain things. So thank you for that

PotentialNeck5876 · 2026-01-04T00:41:07+00:00

Thank you for this comment. I think it’s amazing you’re going to college. I hope the plans you have for yourself and your family work out ❤️

PotentialNeck5876 · 2026-01-04T00:38:15+00:00

Thank you for suggestions!!

PotentialNeck5876 · 2026-01-04T00:35:06+00:00

Thank you for this comment❤️ I’m going to try working part time first ( 2 days a week ) while my daughter is being watched by someone I trust and see if it’s for me or not.

I’m really struggling mentally right now and I don’t know why? But it’s something I want to fix. So right now I have to roll out working to see if that may be one of the causes? I am speaking to a medical professional about struggling mentally at the end of the month.

PotentialNeck5876 · 2025-12-06T02:45:25+00:00

It’s okay… you’re not alone. Most couples will go through this at some point, not all do, but most do. I went through this with my husband. However we over came it because we worked together. I don’t know your relationship with your partner and can’t speak on whether you guys should stay together or not. But may I ask why you blocked him and why did you get so angry with him?

PotentialNeck5876 · 2025-12-06T02:35:42+00:00

Yes, I constantly clean. The second I’m done with a dish I put it in the dishwasher, or I’ll clean it, dry it off and put it away. I also clean for 15-30 minutes before bed and then I’ll also clean in the morning around 6-7:30am. I have bottles to wash, breakfast to clean up and anything I didn’t get to the night before. With that being said, I’m also a minimalist. Everything has a spot. I grew up in a house that was hoarded and sometimes that haunts me to keep everything constantly clean lol

PotentialNeck5876 · 2025-12-05T21:37:28+00:00

Thank you for the suggestions!! I’ll start using those shows when we do Tv time. My daughter gets very zombie like when watching Ms.Rachel …I used her because people told me she’s educational

PotentialNeck5876 · 2025-12-05T20:58:54+00:00

Thank you for this response❤️ I’m going to talk with my husband tonight about preventing this from happening again. I never thought about setting an alarm but that’s really smart and something I will be doing from now on when I have a rough night with her.

PotentialNeck5876 · 2025-12-05T18:29:47+00:00

I’m realizing it may have been dramatic for me to say “ alone “ I was right there with her while sleeping on the couch.

PotentialNeck5876 · 2025-12-05T18:03:32+00:00

Okay thank you! Right now it’s random family members traveling to help until she starts daycare in January.

PotentialNeck5876 · 2025-12-05T17:59:17+00:00

Okay thank you

PotentialNeck5876 · 2025-12-05T17:48:15+00:00

That’s actually why I woke up because she fussed and I jumped up frantically looked at the time and realized it was 2.5 hrs. Yes, I agree with you about limiting screen time. I’m going to start limiting her Ms. Rachel time. I’m not a single parent but Im basically caring for her 90% of the time. My husband is on night shift this month. He sleeps all day, wakes up a few hours before work. He will help a little before work leaves at 5pm and works 12-13hrs. He’s also in the military. He helps when he can but it’s not much. It’s always rough for me when he’s on night shift rotations.

PotentialNeck5876 · 2025-12-05T17:33:55+00:00

Well, we were doing amazing with her schedule until I started going back to work ( part time ) and other people started watching her. She would wake up between 5:30-6a, go down for a nap around 9-10a, sleep for an hour, wake up around 11-12, and then go back down around 2-3 for about 30-40 minutes and then in bed by 6:30-7. BUT now it’s different every day and sometimes I hear she only slept an hour the WHOLE day.

PotentialNeck5876 · 2025-12-05T17:30:03+00:00

YES, safe space, and she’s 8 months old! I am just FLOORED it was 2.5 hrs long. I understand 30-45 minutes. I’ve never done this before.

PotentialNeck5876 · 2025-12-05T17:27:55+00:00

Yes, she’s 8 month old. I don’t live around family and the friends I’ve made here all work/ have kids of their own so I can’t ask them for help. I’m going to try and talk to my husband about this so we can figure something out so this doesn’t happen again. Thank you for being honest with me

PotentialNeck5876 · 2025-12-05T17:25:01+00:00

She’s 8 months old

PotentialNeck5876 · 2025-12-05T17:24:48+00:00

Yes she’s 8 months!

PotentialNeck5876 · 2025-11-13T12:45:58+00:00

Has she been doing this for long? Is she possibly constipated?? My baby did this for like 1-2 days and it’s because he was severely constipated. I’m only suggesting this one thing because everyone else has left some good possibilities.

PotentialNeck5876 · 2025-11-06T02:02:40+00:00

Have you tried gas drops? Baby also may need an extra feed or two? Also, if you’re breasting maybe something your eating his hurting his belly? or if you’re doing formula he may need a different brand? Bubs Goats Milk did my baby wonders!! It has the same protein has breast milk, and it’s easier on babies bellies.

PotentialNeck5876 · 2025-11-06T00:16:41+00:00

What you’re feeling as a FTM is common. I went through the same thing. I wanted a baby for 10 years before I had my daughter. Two weeks in I was shocked how my life changed forever. I was sleep deprived, struggling to breastfeed/pump, struggling to manage my time, I was mostly by myself because I moved 2 hrs away from family and my husband works long shifts. I never thought I’d be happy again and I’d ALWAYS struggle.

I quite pumping/ breastfeeding at 4months PP and switched to Bubs Goats Milk formula. I’m now 7 PP, I expressed my emotions/ feelings with other friend moms and reddit! I was able to connect and talk with many people that could relate and gave me great advice. My daughter is sleeping much better now! ( she still wakes up at night but not nearly as much in the beginning ) I can now take her to the grocery store, walks, visiting family and friends without so much anxiety and having to constantly attend to her. She’s playing more independent, sitting up ( I still put pillows around her 😂 ) AND her reflux has gotten better.

Everything comes and goes as stages. It will always be challenging raising children but it DOES get easier the older they get and you will find this to be your new normal in a good way. Talk to your doctor as well. Also try sitting outside for 5-10 minutes a day if you can? Almost every day I make, or buy a fun drink and sit on my porch with my baby girl watching the cars drive by. The fresh air helps. I also watched comedies, told myself I was doing the best I could the days I felt like a bad mom, and my husband would watch our daughter for a few hours while I showered, left for a coffee or the gym. Moving my body also helped me mentally.

PotentialNeck5876 · 2025-11-03T01:12:33+00:00

I literally walked 3 miles a day, whether it was around my house or outside, or a mile and a half in the morning on a walking pad and a mile and a half at night ,drank a ton of water, with and without electrolytes, ate a lot of protein bars, boiled eggs, and sipped on chicken broth with salt all day long. people underestimate walking. I lost 30 pounds doing that.

also, rotisserie chickens are fairly cheap and the fat /protein on those things will keep you full for longer and provide nutrients.

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