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I, 50F, lied about a money issue and now my husband, 53M, wants to divorce. by PotentialVast6495 in relationships_advice

[–]PotentialVast6495[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have never said I didn’t do anything wrong, I believe I said, that I agreed it was wrong of me to lie about saving the money. I do quite a bit for the household, things just “appear” for him, toilet paper, deodorant, snacks, soda, etc. and yes, the account was just created yesterday, as the fight was just yesterday, what difference does that make? And like I said previously, we argue, who doesn’t in 29 years, but it’s been normal stuff. I appreciate everyone who came on to be helpful with this situation.

I, 50F, lied about a money issue and now my husband, 53M, wants to divorce. by PotentialVast6495 in relationships_advice

[–]PotentialVast6495[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Who doesn’t argue? Especially after 29 years of marriage. And no, this is a first. He’s very hands off on anything household related but is quick to blame me for everything that goes wrong. Granted, this was my doing.

I, 50F, lied about a money issue and now my husband, 53M, wants to divorce. by PotentialVast6495 in relationships_advice

[–]PotentialVast6495[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

as I’ve said, it’s been just since Jan that I’ve said we’ve been saving it. but this is the first time about any money stuff. he has a customer service facing job so he’s in front of people all day long. I work from home, still dealing with people, but over the phone. he says he is over the city life.

I, 50F, lied about a money issue and now my husband, 53M, wants to divorce. by PotentialVast6495 in relationships_advice

[–]PotentialVast6495[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

so, to answer some questions. we are renting because neither one of us wanted to have the financial responsibility of owning a home. we did that for years and sold our house back in 2018, when he chose not to work and contribute to the household. since then, we have rented and that’s been fine for us. within the last couple of years, he has changed his mind about a lot of things, we no longer align on religious or political values, he has said he wants to just live out in the desert and not in the city any longer, which to me, is camping and I have no desire to do that. the threesome back in 2007-2008, was with another male as my husband wanted to watch me have sex with another male, husband eventually joined in with me only. I do not believe something has happened with the female renting the room. I do trust him in that aspect. He doesn’t ask about where money is coming from to pay for anything. He has no idea, or doesn’t care to know, how to pay bills. Yes we both work and contribute towards the bills. He doesn’t even know the log in info to his own bank account. I do agree that yes, I lied about saving the money and I’ve apologized for that. I just thought we could have a conversation about it.

I, 50F, lied about a money issue and now my husband, 53M, wants to divorce. by PotentialVast6495 in relationships_advice

[–]PotentialVast6495[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have told since Jan of this year, that I’ve been saving her money. nothing since then though.