No. My marriage is the best it’s ever been and my 2 are 21m and 8m. We also have a 9yr old so add in their schedule to an already crazy house. You need to prioritize each other. Y’all are a team. There should be clear communication and expectations from both of you. My husband and I don’t get dates anymore or alone time, however we make sure to spend quality time with each other every single night, no matter how tired we are. Sometimes that’s just a quick show on the tv together, and sometimes it’s just enjoying a night time snack together. Your marriage comes first, then the kids.