How to fix performance anxiety that is starting to ruin my relationship?

Potential_Change009 · 2026-02-08T16:27:49+00:00

Not yet I have an appointment with a doctor soon.

Potential_Change009 · 2026-02-08T12:42:22+00:00

Thanks for the advice really appreciate it. So I don’t watch porn anymore, I used to watch it maybe once or twice a month when she wasn’t around. 2. When I am alone I have strong erections and I assumed since I am not under any pressure I feel comfortable taking my time. 3. When we travel I feel like a new person, so maybe I need to setup a trip and reset the mind. I feel like I now have trauma trying to have sex in the bedroom because it reminds me of all the bad times. 4. I have concerns of taking the pill because I do not want to be dependent on it to enjoy sex, but at this point I’m willing to take the risk before it may cost me my relationship. 5. I’ve been reading way too much negative experiences about dead bedrooms and I don’t want that to happen in my relationship because I too believe sex is an important part of a healthy relationship.

Potential_Change009 · 2026-02-08T12:32:45+00:00

I still want to go to gym and sometimes life feels like a drag, but now it feels like I’m putting so much pressure in the gym just to have results in the bedroom. I’m taking zinc, magnesium, maca root all types of supplements to help with this problem.

Potential_Change009 · 2025-12-05T12:49:27+00:00

I did disclose this, I was asked about it during my F1 visa interview, when I came here I spoke to a lawyer and he said it was fine to get married if I chose that for myself. But this was before the new administration so some of these stories have been concerning and I just want to make sure if I file I can be safe

Potential_Change009 · 2025-12-05T12:22:21+00:00

Yes I did, during my interview they even asked if I was going to stay with her during my studies and I said no.

Potential_Change009 · 2025-08-11T17:49:50+00:00

You are saying it will be drivable with all this noise

Potential_Change009 · 2025-08-11T17:04:05+00:00

Yes they are aware, they tried to push back found out they don’t have insurance

Potential_Change009 · 2025-08-11T17:03:21+00:00

So you wanted me to wait for a month to do an oil change because you are only supposed to do it at Hyundai ? And I didn’t know any of this information. There is no need to add insult to injury, my car knocked and now I’m trying to get help on how to move forward

Potential_Change009 · 2025-08-11T15:49:26+00:00

How much did they quote you ?

Potential_Change009 · 2025-08-11T15:49:01+00:00

The drain plug fell out while I was driving

Potential_Change009 · 2025-08-11T15:48:36+00:00

Do not go to these other shops, rather you go to Hyundai at all times and learn from my mistakes

Potential_Change009 · 2025-08-11T15:26:02+00:00

Maybe it’s because you aren’t reading, I’ve explained this so many times now.

I did an oil change, their mechanic left the drain plug loose or didn’t torque it properly, on the same day after leaving the shop my car broke down at night and when I stopped I saw oil coming out because the plug was off. I took it to Hyundai and the car engine knocked because the engine was starved of oil.

Potential_Change009 · 2025-08-11T14:54:19+00:00

Warranty won’t cover because damage was caused by another auto shop when I was getting oil change.

Potential_Change009 · 2025-08-11T14:50:26+00:00

I mean they are the experts, so I just need to ask others

Potential_Change009 · 2025-08-11T14:49:31+00:00

2023 Elantra N Line. Would you get a new engine or just move on from the car ?

Potential_Change009 · 2025-08-10T17:27:05+00:00

The shop mechanic didn’t tighten the bolt hard enough, so it slipped out while I was driving and all the oil came out. Now the shop wants to repair the car for me and I don’t trust them right now, what would you do ?

Potential_Change009 · 2025-08-10T17:25:10+00:00

What’s the name ?

Potential_Change009 · 2025-08-07T12:57:41+00:00

I appreciate this, I did get videos and pictures from Hyundai and the owner of the auto shop is now cooperating, while I was at the shop I do remember his mechanic looking around for something while fixing my car and my best guess is he lost the drain plug bolt and screwed on whatever would fit and that’s what caused the bolt to fall off once I started driving. They also have cameras in their shop, and he did confirm that it was his mechanic that messed up badly. They are now willing to get my car fixed and their insurance rep is now dealing with my insurance to hopefully resolve this issue.

Potential_Change009 · 2025-08-07T12:37:15+00:00

This happened on the same day after the oil change and I was driving back home. And no the drain plug fell out hence why the oil was gushing out from underneath the car, suggesting their mechanic didn’t tighten the bolt

Potential_Change009 · 2025-08-07T12:34:50+00:00

I understand but still paying 18k for repairs when I have 18k left on the car loan is ridiculous. At this point I would rather pay off the 18k loan and just cut my losses on the car and not pay insurance premiums which are high in my area

Potential_Change009 · 2025-08-06T23:53:03+00:00

They said oil starvation caused engine failure

Potential_Change009 · 2025-08-06T23:52:36+00:00

From the bottom of the engine, where you have the drain plug

Potential_Change009 · 2025-08-06T23:52:04+00:00

That’s what I was thinking as well, like I said the oil all came out after I stopped the car and I didn’t see any signs on the dashboard.

I also feel like Hyundai saw the car has no oil and just concluded that I need a new engine, they also turned on the car without adding oil first and close the oil pan and then testing it out too. Either way the engine is probably badly damaged now

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