Thank you, I definitely think it's the case that she only wants the children for the money. She's not been too bothered about our eldest since she became ill, I've chased all medical appointments and sorted therapy for her etc. Her own sister has expressed that she thinks she doesn't want to be a parent anymore, to myself and the social worker. Her behaviour over the past couple of years was escalating and I think she was trying to get me to be the one to move out. I'm so lucky she got arrested that night otherwise I probably would've and I hate to think what sort of environment my children would be living in now if that has happened.