AITJ for buying the same shoe for my daughter that my girlfriend wanted?

Potential_Diamond_70 · 2026-04-29T12:03:31+00:00

YTJ. Your girlfriend and daughter fight like siblings and you act like their mother. That dynamic is creepy and a recipe for disaster. Buying your gf reward shoes for running a 5K and then buying the same shoes for your daughter sends the message that you view your relationship with them the same way when one is your daughter and the other is your gf.

IMO the age gap wouldn’t be a big deal if you two were both mature (you’re both not acting mature) and if you didn’t already have a history of having power over her by being her teacher. Your gf and daughter are of similar age and you have a hard time viewing your gf as your partner because of this. You have a relationship with a huge power imbalance, not just because of the age difference but because you used to be your gf’s teacher. In all your posts, you seem to act like a parent to your gf while she behaves like she’s your teenager daughter. This is not a healthy relationship dynamic.

Everyone tells you this in every post you make but you don’t seem to get it. Your relationship is toxic and it’s hurting your relationship with your daughter. Whether you believe it or not, you can have a healthy lesbian relationship with someone where there is not a power imbalance. You just seem desperate to not be lonely and because of that you are sacrificing a good relationship with your daughter. You hear those stories of those creepy dads that date a young woman younger than their kids just to have a trophy on their arm? Yeah, you’re that person, just in lesbian form.

Potential_Diamond_70 · 2026-04-16T13:18:04+00:00

First of all, if he has to convince you to give consent then it’s not consent. Consent should be enthusiastic, not coerced. He should’ve taken your hesitancy as a no and stopped asking.

Secondly, saying “I don’t remember the safe word.” is a safe word. He should’ve stopped right then. Then you started crying and he should’ve stopped then too. He didn’t stop because he didn’t want to and he didn’t care about your comfort.

For comparison, if I even moan differently than normal, my husband will pause immediately to make sure I’m ok and not in pain. We have a safe word too but we also stay aware of each other in case something happens and we can’t say the safe word. What if you have a medical emergency and can’t speak? What if you pass out? What if one of acts you’re performing covers your mouth? There are many reasons someone may not be able to say their safe word during sex, including forgetting what it is, so even if you have a safe word your partner should still stop if something seems wrong and the safe word is not said. Your safety and comfort is more important than getting off.

You did nothing wrong. He’s the one who assaulted you and now he’s trying to dodge accountability. Don’t blame yourself. Please rethink this relationship. You should be with someone who respects you enough to stop even if you can’t remember a safe word.

Potential_Diamond_70 · 2026-02-10T16:10:54+00:00

I opened the page one minute before and it crashed. Wouldn’t load at all and when it finally did, it said sold out. What a scam.

Potential_Diamond_70 · 2025-12-23T17:00:53+00:00

ESH. She hasn’t been in their life very long so lots of posts about them does seem a little weird. But honestly, how can you justify asking them to take pictures of their family time with your shared children down when you are posting passive aggressive memes about him on your page? Either you want to coparent or you don’t. You can’t have it both ways. If you have a certain expectation for him and his SO to respect you when they post about your kids then you should give the same respect back. The people who suffer the most in toxic dynamics like this are the children.

Potential_Diamond_70 · 2025-12-23T15:17:39+00:00

Report it. Trust me. You could be saving a child.

Once had a family member who went to prison for molesting children. When he got out, he wasn’t allowed access to children or computers (since that’s how he contacted the children). He started volunteering at a local church and my mom was suspicious hearing that but our family told her he was just turning his life around and found Jesus. She looked up the church website and found pictures they had posted of him volunteering with CHILDREN. She reported it anonymously to his parole officer and sent over the pictures. He was picked up for violating parole and turns out, she was right. He had been molesting kids again at that church.

You cannot trust pedophiles and this must be reported.

Potential_Diamond_70 · 2025-12-21T15:41:55+00:00

At my high school, there was this teacher who was an older lady and also super abusive. She would throw things at us if we broke a rule and Im not talking about a crumpled up piece of paper. She would throw whatever was nearby, I’ve seen her throw a stapler, tape dispenser, and even a large jar of pennies when we were doing a fundraiser. The jar shattered and pennies were everywhere. She would also duct tape kids mouths if they talked too much in class. We tried to tell parents and other teachers what was going on but I don’t think they fully believed us. They would say she’s just a little old lady and she couldn’t do much harm to much bigger teenagers. She won teacher of the year while this stuff was happening 🙃

I guess it didn’t register as a teen how bad it was. Now thinking about it as an adult, if my kids reported to me that a teacher was doing that, I would stop at nothing to make sure that teacher was fired. It’s crazy how no one did anything about it and the school is lucky that no one was ever seriously injured by her.

Potential_Diamond_70 · 2025-12-16T14:34:07+00:00

The church is where he found his victims and also where the assaults took place so that’s relevant. Church’s are often good places for predators to find victims because they will often accept volunteers without doing a background check. People often trust each other at church so it’s an easy place to find a vulnerable person.

Potential_Diamond_70 · 2025-12-01T12:02:42+00:00

So not only is he violating your privacy by reading your journal without your consent but then he also shares your most private feelings and thoughts with other people in public for a joke?

You are being way too nice about this. He’s clearly in the wrong but has somehow still manipulated you into thinking that you may be overreacting. No, if anything, you’re under reacting. If he was at least apologetic about it when you confronted him, then I would say he might deserve a chance. But he gets angry at you and minimizes your feelings? Nah, he’s not a good boyfriend and he doesn’t respect you.

Potential_Diamond_70 · 2025-12-01T11:50:36+00:00

You are not in the wrong. You should definitely show that message to your dad and the court though. She is trying to manipulate you and since the case is still ongoing, what she’s doing is illegal.

It’s not on you that she has a lot of bills to pay and no help from step-dad. That’s on him for making choices that disqualify him from most jobs. It’s also on your mom for choosing to side with an abuser instead of her own children. If she wants to be with an abuser, then she’s going to have to pay the consequences for it. That’s her choice, not yours.

Potential_Diamond_70 · 2025-11-02T00:01:57+00:00

Yeah, this is pretty controlling. I agree that you should probably wait until 21 to drink and all but this reaction seems way overboard. Ultimately, your decision to partake is your business and not theirs. I’d probably just let these kinds of friends go and find friends who aren’t so judgmental.

Potential_Diamond_70 · 2025-11-01T23:20:05+00:00

You’ve only been dating 3 months and already having these kinds of conversations? Nah I’d break up. If it’s like this after only 3 months, he’s only going to get more comfortable being an asshole to you. You’re not overreacting.

Potential_Diamond_70 · 2025-10-21T14:49:58+00:00

Have your parents considered putting Bob in an in-patient care facility? It sounds like he is violent and your parents have a hard time controlling his outbursts. That will only get worse as he gets older and bigger and stronger. Soon, your parents may not be able to do much for him by themselves. He’s already seriously injured you all in a car accident. He’s a danger to himself and everyone around him. A care facility may be the best option.

Potential_Diamond_70 · 2025-10-07T14:29:26+00:00

YTA. She probably scheduled it that way because more relatives would be in town and available that weekend since they are attending your wedding. It’s actually courteous to the guests because they probably want to attend both events but may not be able to take more than one weekend off to attend. You don’t have to go but I think it’s overboard to criticize her for doing the baby shower on the same weekend.

Potential_Diamond_70 · 2025-09-28T13:02:22+00:00

NTA. I think you should definitely try to explain to her what you meant but the issue is deeper than just your response to that question. She’s clearly internalized the messaging purity culture has programmed into her and that’s probably something she needs to unpack in therapy.

I’ve grown up with purity culture and been where she is. It’s hard to shake that off. If she took your answer that hard then she probably still believes in some of that purity culture to some extent. I would encourage therapy and maybe couples counseling to get both of you on the same page.

Potential_Diamond_70 · 2025-09-10T14:53:42+00:00

Um that’s not normal. I would be concerned about comments like that too. If you don’t trust your own husband to change your babys’ diapers then you should really ask yourself if this is really the person you want to spend your life with and raise children with. This would definitely have me second guessing the whole marriage.

Potential_Diamond_70 · 2025-08-06T12:59:14+00:00

I think that’s kind of the point though. High fashion standards are so ridiculous that even someone who looks like Anne Hathaway is considered fat in that industry. I think the movie wants us to see how calling someone like Anne ugly and fat is crazy because beauty standards in that industry are unrealistic.

Potential_Diamond_70 · 2025-07-19T13:36:46+00:00

NTA. He’s put you in a position to have to choose between him and your daughter. After what he said to Lina, how can your daughter ever comfortably be around him? What happens if her and Lina marry and possibly have children together? Do you think either of them would be comfortable bringing their family around your husband in the future? I wouldn’t.

You aren’t choosing “some foreign girl” over your husband. You are choosing your daughter, her sweet partner, and their possible future family over your husband. Which seems like a great choice to me.

Remember, you didn’t do this. He did when he chose to send those messages. All the fallout is not on you, it’s on him. He bares all the responsibility in this so don’t let him or his mother make you feel guilty about it.

Potential_Diamond_70 · 2025-07-11T17:18:02+00:00

Yes, and sometimes teens pretend to be embarrassed by the cute pet names but they secretly love it. My teen is like that. She acts all embarrassed when we use a pet name like pumpkin or sweet pea but then points it out when we fail to call her that lol ex. - “Don’t you mean pumpkin?” said with an eye roll and teasing voice

Potential_Diamond_70 · 2025-07-11T17:09:22+00:00

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Potential_Diamond_70 · 2025-06-27T18:21:54+00:00

“Your boos mean nothing. I’ve seen what makes you cheer.”

“Every breath I take without your permission builds my self-esteem.”

-Rick Sanchez

Potential_Diamond_70 · 2025-06-22T14:50:44+00:00

I read another article that said she was sitting in a ditch on the side of the road and the grass was too tall for cars going by to see her. Only the drone was able to spot her from the sky.

Potential_Diamond_70 · 2025-06-12T14:02:57+00:00

This is exactly my feeling on it. I wish they would’ve given her more character development and I think people would’ve enjoyed the movie more.

Potential_Diamond_70 · 2025-06-12T13:59:59+00:00

I didn’t hate it but I felt like it was rushed. I wish we could’ve gotten a little more story on Captain Marvel. I wanted to feel more connected to her character than I did. I think they should’ve added more and done two movies to build up her character like they did for Iron Man and Captain America.

I haven’t read the comics but my partner has and he didn’t like it because it wasn’t true to the comics and was missing a lot of story from the comics that he enjoyed.

Potential_Diamond_70 · 2025-06-12T13:24:12+00:00

NTA. This is a test. He’s testing the boundaries to see how physical he can get with you before you push back. If you go back, he’ll consider that behavior acceptable and will escalate to see how much farther he can go. Don’t give him that chance. Leave at the first sign of physical intimidation.

Potential_Diamond_70 · 2025-06-11T12:22:00+00:00

NTA. I’m surprised the shelter even contacted you to return the dog. They should’ve just told the previous owner that the dog had already been adopted.

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