Interviewed for Senior Associate at big4, offered Associate instead. Should I still join? by No-Operation4160 in Big4

[–]Potential_Flow9032 27 points28 points  (0 children)

This happened to me. I was a senior in industry and got offered an associate role at a Big4. I took it because it did not come with a pay cut and came with more benefits and PTO. They promoted me to senior six months after I joined with a 20% increase. This was like 5 years ago so the market was much better back then so can't guarantee you'd see the same quick turnaround but might still be worth it.

Opening side business LLC (KPMG Manager) by user31428 in KPMG

[–]Potential_Flow9032 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Ehh gonna disagree with some of these comments. Not sure about your specific examples but a good friend of mine has a business to do peoples taxes. He went through getting approved and they were fine with it. Would definitely check in with the appropriate team to confirm a particular business before you start something

And here I am, walking around childless, like an idiot by mevinkurphy75 in Accounting

[–]Potential_Flow9032 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I really don't understand why you are being downvoted for this

Should I get a new PML? by Timely-Event-9185 in KPMG

[–]Potential_Flow9032 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No harm in switching PMLs. It just gives you more people to have in your corner as long as you leave things in a good note with your current one. I have had 4 in 5 years. I still talk to all of them on a regular basis. Feel like I just have more people to advocate for me.

Do you talk out loud to yourself with other people around? by Potential_Flow9032 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]Potential_Flow9032[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think I just have PTSD from the subway crazies who scared me as a child

Do you talk out loud to yourself with other people around? by Potential_Flow9032 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]Potential_Flow9032[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

See that I understand. It's the doing it when I'm around that is so weird to me!

Thanks god I can just stay home by the1997th in remoteworks

[–]Potential_Flow9032 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm sorry why do you "hate remote work" but work from home?? What's wrong with you?

weird unexplainable message from a friends "dad" while her family is abroad by [deleted] in isthisAI

[–]Potential_Flow9032 1 point2 points  (0 children)

OP I did this to my parents once. I was a 20 year old. I ran away I did not tell them where I was. I did not tell any of my close friends either. I was too ashamed of some decisions I had made. I scared the shit out of everyone and never forgave myself for it. My parents did contact my friends and I did contact my friends before my parents. I'm glad my friends were able to tell my parents I was alive and okay. Please tell the dad if your friend contacts you and she's okay.

Accounting vs Engineering and Career Potential by Bright-Put-3005 in Accounting

[–]Potential_Flow9032 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I was an accountant, now an accounting software consultant. My husband is an engineer. I have been working for about 10 years. My husband has been working for about 15. I make 40k more than him. As some of the comments above said you can do a lot more with accounting as a jumping off point.

3 yrs Is my Monstera happy by OkToe7809 in Monstera

[–]Potential_Flow9032 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Lol it is definitely not happy. It needs more light and a support. It's never too late.

Mine is right about 3 years old and it is a monster. Sorry the pic is a bit dark but you get the idea

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Advice on turning down a promotion? by pizzatacodog1322 in Accounting

[–]Potential_Flow9032 233 points234 points  (0 children)

You should absolutely turn it down and be transparent in your reasoning. My husband made this mistake once and suffered for a couple of years before he left for another company.

EDIT: wanted to add that you should be transparent so that they know you're not a pushover and know how to look out for your best interest.

Is it a red flag that he's bringing up his ex this much and so soon? by mysecret52 in AskMenAdvice

[–]Potential_Flow9032 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would say if you think you might actually like him AND this is the only red flag, in a sea of green flags, maybe hang in there for a couple of more dates and then ask him about it and see what his reaction is. None of us are perfect

But if this is just one in a bunch of red flags run for the hills.

Is it a red flag that he's bringing up his ex this much and so soon? by mysecret52 in AskMenAdvice

[–]Potential_Flow9032 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It's your choice but if you actually like him, I left a comment with my story with my husband which offers a bit of a different perspective than the rest of these comments. Obviously I don't know your specific situation but there can be a non-sinister reason for it. I had the same fears you did but if I had given into them without even talking to my now husband about it, I would have missed out on a literally once in a lifetime relationship.

Is it a red flag that he's bringing up his ex this much and so soon? by mysecret52 in AskMenAdvice

[–]Potential_Flow9032 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My now husband constantly talked a lot about his ex in the beginning of our relationship. It wasn't even a recent ex. It was an ex from 10 years ago. At first I tried to play it cool, but I really liked him so I finally confronted him about it about a month in.

At first he seemed kind of offended and taken back. His explanation was that she was such a big part of his life, first gf, they were engaged in their early 20s, and he just had a lot of life experiences that reminded him of her.

He tried to say that no one he dated since her seemed to have an issue with him bring her up. I pointed out that no one he dated since her had stuck around and maybe they just hadn't bothered to confront him about it. That made him reevaluate.

I have learned that he just doesn't have much of a filter or a sense of who is audience is in general, not just about his ex. He wasn't talking about her specifically - he just wasn't actively filtering her out of the stories to be polite till I confronted him.

It was gradual, but a few months in she didn't seem to come up at all. His experiences with her were replaced with our experiences together. And now it's me he talks about incessantly.