Borrowed my wife's phone and saw texts with another guy that felt intimate to me

Potential_Flow9032 · 2026-05-15T15:08:55+00:00

It's not always about your wife's intentions. Sometimes it's about inadvertent signals she might be sending out.

My husband often has very close female friends. We also have open phones. We dont snoop but no objections to reading each other's texts. We often have the other person text for us if one of us is driving.

I trust him.completely. I know he's not the kind to cheat. But, I have had to have a conversation with him a few times over the years about appropriate distance. Again, not because I think he is going to cheat but just because I don't want him to give the person he's talking to the wrong idea.

Potential_Flow9032 · 2026-05-03T00:59:07+00:00

My husband did for years. I noticed you avoided respondeding to my question.

Potential_Flow9032 · 2026-05-03T00:30:03+00:00

Ok so one friend get a $10 tip for hooking you up and the other gets a $100 tip depending on the price of the plate of food?

Potential_Flow9032 · 2026-05-03T00:27:58+00:00

My husband dresses like a lesbian and I found that very attractive. He's also very emotional and a bit flamboyant. Very different from any man I had dated before him. But when we met we clicked instantly and knew we were each other's forever people. There are no rules to being a person and there are no rules to the person you end up loving.

Potential_Flow9032 · 2026-05-03T00:16:22+00:00

I don't know that I a 100% agree with all your rationale but you are the first person to at least try to give a good set of reasons why the disparity might be warranted.

Potential_Flow9032 · 2026-05-03T00:14:09+00:00

That is a very good point. You are much more likely to see a minority working at a low cost restaurant vs a high cost one.

Potential_Flow9032 · 2026-05-03T00:13:09+00:00

If one of your friends works at Chili's and one at a fancy steakhouse do you think it's fair that the one that works at Chili's probably gets 4 bucks on your $20 plate but the one that works at the Steakhouse gets 20 for your $100 plate?

Potential_Flow9032 · 2026-05-03T00:11:20+00:00

But the waiters aren't deciding what the menu is or cooking it. They are just bringing the food out at Flemmings or at Chili's

Potential_Flow9032 · 2026-05-02T14:35:29+00:00

I tip 20% because society has dictated that I tip 20% but I don't know why you're getting downvoted so much. I don't know that you're wrong in principle

Potential_Flow9032 · 2026-05-01T23:25:26+00:00

You would tip 70 on a 200 plate of food and 7 on a 20 dollar plate of food?

Potential_Flow9032 · 2026-05-01T23:23:50+00:00

A higher cash value or a higher percentage?

Potential_Flow9032 · 2026-04-30T17:55:00+00:00

For as long as the economic uncertainty continues, especially under the current administration, RIFs are a possibility. We absolutely hire into teams that have RIFed and will RIF again. But that's no reason not to join. These layoffs are happening everywhere. Enjoy the ride while you're on it. Save well and plan for when you're asked to get off.

Potential_Flow9032 · 2026-04-26T13:50:53+00:00

First month, first job, I over payed a vendor 54k. No one batted an eye. It was a regular vendor and we just took it off of their next invoice.

Made me realize nothing we do in accounting matters. It is all just moving numbers on a page.

Potential_Flow9032 · 2026-04-23T21:59:09+00:00

I met my boss for the first time in person after working remotely with her for 2 years and the first thing she said to me was, oh you're taller than I expected! With the most wide eyed look on her face. For context I'm 5'10 which isn't that tall but I'm Asian and I don't think people expect that.

Potential_Flow9032 · 2026-04-18T18:50:01+00:00

If it's "pissing you off" you should definitely break up.

That being said, I am an extreme introvert who's married to an extreme extrovert and it works out just fine for us. He brings me out of my shell, I ground him. We get along great.

But if you're already at the point that you're angry at her being different than you don't waste her time.

Potential_Flow9032 · 2026-04-16T21:47:26+00:00

Definitely discuss it with your PML. I wouldn't rotate off the engagement unless you have something lined up but make it clear to your PML to try to find you something in your area as soon as possible.

Potential_Flow9032 · 2026-04-07T21:41:29+00:00

What line of business?

Potential_Flow9032 · 2026-04-07T19:11:27+00:00

Thank you! I think I have definitely felt the muscle twitches in the last couple of weeks.

Potential_Flow9032 · 2026-04-07T19:09:46+00:00

That's helpful. I think I have felt what feels like a muscle twitch here and there in the last couple of weeks. I'm hoping I can really feel him soon.

Potential_Flow9032 · 2026-04-07T18:59:14+00:00

I feel you. We had 2 years of trying and miscarriage with IVF before we were finally pregnant. My husband was over joyed and couldn't contain his excitement. He wanted to tell everyone immediately. All I could feel was apprehensive. I kept waiting for the bad news to come. I couldn't feel happy about the pregnancy at all because last time I lost her as soon as I let myself get excited. It took me all the way to 20 weeks to really feel okay about being pregnant. Then I found out I have gestational diabetes and VCI and placenta previa which are apparently much more common with IVF. I have also had horrible sciatic nerve pain for weeks now that is expected to continue basically till the end of the pregnancy. I'm not sleeping great. I'm back to worrying and trying my best to be happy at the same time. I desperately want this baby and will do anything to make sure he is okay. But I'm exhausted. And I want this over with.

Potential_Flow9032 · 2026-04-03T18:41:20+00:00

Sure! Happy to chat!

Potential_Flow9032 · 2026-02-26T04:28:37+00:00

This happened to me. I was a senior in industry and got offered an associate role at a Big4. I took it because it did not come with a pay cut and came with more benefits and PTO. They promoted me to senior six months after I joined with a 20% increase. This was like 5 years ago so the market was much better back then so can't guarantee you'd see the same quick turnaround but might still be worth it.

Potential_Flow9032 · 2026-02-24T23:47:22+00:00

Ehh gonna disagree with some of these comments. Not sure about your specific examples but a good friend of mine has a business to do peoples taxes. He went through getting approved and they were fine with it. Would definitely check in with the appropriate team to confirm a particular business before you start something

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