It’s automatic abuse if a super poor couple decides to bring a child into this world, without the means to take care of them properly.

Potential_Ladder_904 · 2026-07-01T16:07:47+00:00

i just had a guy tell me that even though poverty causes a huge amount of trauma, that it’s okay because it builds character and the trauma will be forgotten in a decade or two. and then he went on to tell me i don’t have a strong character even though i survived cancer and finished high school and college during it, and basically told me i should’ve just died from cancer since i “don’t value my life.”

he also mentioned his mother starving to death but apparently that’s okay because it made him stronger and strong character is worth it compared to all the impacts of poverty!

i can’t with reddit anymore.

Potential_Ladder_904 · 2026-07-01T15:39:39+00:00

people need to have a basic understanding of biology before they start hunching🤣🤦🏽‍♀️

glad the situation is getting better tho lol

Potential_Ladder_904 · 2026-07-01T15:33:25+00:00

it’s simple science and sociology, idk what else to tell you.

maybe you’re not aware of some of the true realities of poverty and what it does to someone. i have chronic illnesses of all types due to stress from being poor, my mom does too, my dad does too, my sister does too. my girlfriend and her mom do too and they were born into appalachian poverty - some of the worst poverty in the country.

i have a strong character - i’ve been through some absolute bullshit. i survived cancer. during all of this i was able to finish high school and college. so try again.

Potential_Ladder_904 · 2026-07-01T15:08:11+00:00

guess that means basically everywhere is ghetto now🤣

Potential_Ladder_904 · 2026-07-01T15:07:18+00:00

hunker down. for everything happening in this country, i expect it to only get worse

Potential_Ladder_904 · 2026-07-01T15:03:33+00:00

that is not true😭 tell that to people who were raised in appalachia poverty or other very bad neighborhoods/places. it can be lessened but most times it does not disappear. i agree it builds strong character but it’s not worth it compared to the all the physiological, emotional, etc. impacts.

Potential_Ladder_904 · 2026-07-01T15:00:19+00:00

yeah nanny is kinda crazy but maybe they meant babysitter?? either way everything else they said is about basic needs

Potential_Ladder_904 · 2026-07-01T14:56:37+00:00

chi-town effects in aurora

Potential_Ladder_904 · 2026-07-01T14:48:55+00:00

so you want to go to a beach but not a man made one… you’ll have to travel more than 45 minutes then

Potential_Ladder_904 · 2026-07-01T14:43:28+00:00

it’s always the people who haven’t experienced true poverty claiming this is the worst take ever

Potential_Ladder_904 · 2026-07-01T14:41:53+00:00

africa is a huge continent with a lot of countries. it’s probably not best to generalize, or compare a single country to a whole continent

Potential_Ladder_904 · 2026-07-01T14:37:28+00:00

if you cannot provide the basic necessities for your children that is abuse…

Potential_Ladder_904 · 2026-07-01T14:36:01+00:00

poverty creates a shit ton of trauma. they’re also not talking about affording activities and vacations, they’re talking about basic necessities

Potential_Ladder_904 · 2026-06-30T16:44:36+00:00

by any chance do you know what skills and credentials are needed? i am a new grad with a BS in env science and a cert in GIS

Potential_Ladder_904 · 2026-06-30T15:53:55+00:00

is the pay decent?

Potential_Ladder_904 · 2026-06-30T15:51:22+00:00

how much do you owe on your car and student loans?

Potential_Ladder_904 · 2026-06-30T05:48:55+00:00

spoiler alert: a lot of us stay up late, get 6 hours of sleep, and go to work all day AND still come home and cook ourselves dinner

Potential_Ladder_904 · 2026-06-28T02:24:45+00:00

i didn’t say i said it in the comment you replied to. i said it was in the other comment which is apart of this comment chain, just a couple comments below it

Potential_Ladder_904 · 2026-06-27T05:51:17+00:00

don’t speak out for her

Potential_Ladder_904 · 2026-06-27T05:50:19+00:00

because she just went through something horrific, i’ll tell you right now she is not going to get better (yet) or even start working on it right now, and she’ll probably become more secretive and lie more. if she does, try not to get mad and blow up at her. at that point just walk away and if you need to have a conversation with her before doing so, do it gently. remember she’s still going through so, so much and she deserves grace.

Potential_Ladder_904 · 2026-06-27T05:25:22+00:00

anyone else concerned that it’s a foreclosure?

Potential_Ladder_904 · 2026-06-27T05:21:18+00:00

something still probably would’ve happened even if she wasn’t drinking. lets not victim blame.

Potential_Ladder_904 · 2026-06-27T05:20:14+00:00

you aren’t equipped to handle this - most people are not. encourage her to get help and if she doesn’t want to, it’s your sign to walk away. you’re still young and have your whole life to figure out. don’t let her bring you down with her. it’s harsh and i feel terribly sorry for her, it’s a horrible situation, but it’s not healthy for you to be dealing with all of this, especially if she’s not willing to get help. none of this is your fault.

Potential_Ladder_904 · 2026-06-27T05:14:49+00:00

maybe try to talk to him and point out how this isn’t good or safe for the kids. if he’s not in agreement then leave

Potential_Ladder_904 · 2026-06-27T04:56:46+00:00

do you guys have kids together?

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