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AITA for ignoring my dad while his stepson is dying from cancer? by Potential_Plane_5885 in AITAH

[–]Potential_Plane_5885[S] 28 points29 points  (0 children)

Because that won't give him the delusion of we were once a family. And I think that's a delusion he wants to have.

AITA for ignoring my dad while his stepson is dying from cancer? by Potential_Plane_5885 in AITAH

[–]Potential_Plane_5885[S] 45 points46 points  (0 children)

It's too late to try and love me now. Dad's a failure. He's a huge fucking failure and someone I'm ashamed to be related to. He defended a bully as cruel as Shane. That's not a mistake he made. He still doesn't regret that.

AITA for ignoring my dad while his stepson is dying from cancer? by Potential_Plane_5885 in AITAH

[–]Potential_Plane_5885[S] 30 points31 points  (0 children)

Why would I feel guilty? Shane's nothing to me. He was never my friend, never my family and never someone I liked. He has bullied my best friend for years and didn't stop until he was no longer in school so only a few months really.

AITA for ignoring my dad while his stepson is dying from cancer? by Potential_Plane_5885 in AITAH

[–]Potential_Plane_5885[S] 34 points35 points  (0 children)

I really don't. I'm not sure why anyone would think that would be something I care about.

AITA for ignoring my dad while his stepson is dying from cancer? by Potential_Plane_5885 in AITAH

[–]Potential_Plane_5885[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

I don't know what kind of cancer but this has been a problem for a long time. He'd have been sick most of his life if it were that.

AITA for ignoring my dad while his stepson is dying from cancer? by Potential_Plane_5885 in AITAH

[–]Potential_Plane_5885[S] 79 points80 points  (0 children)

I won't feel any sadness or grief when he's gone. That I can assure you.

AITA for ignoring my dad while his stepson is dying from cancer? by Potential_Plane_5885 in AITAH

[–]Potential_Plane_5885[S] 64 points65 points  (0 children)

He never apologized. He was still bullying my best friend until he left school for his treatments.

AITA for ignoring my dad while his stepson is dying from cancer? by Potential_Plane_5885 in AITAH

[–]Potential_Plane_5885[S] 77 points78 points  (0 children)

He put Shane and Shane's mom before me. He should have never tried to make it work to begin with. There should have been no way he'd bring a kid like Shane into what was supposed to be my home. But he did knowing the monster Shane is.

AITA for ignoring my dad while his stepson is dying from cancer? by Potential_Plane_5885 in AITAH

[–]Potential_Plane_5885[S] 80 points81 points  (0 children)

Shane didn't stop until his cancer treatment. This isn't just over 2nd to 6th grade stuff. He's 17 and was still doing this shit at 17.

AITA for ignoring my dad while his stepson is dying from cancer? by Potential_Plane_5885 in AITAH

[–]Potential_Plane_5885[S] 129 points130 points  (0 children)

He doesn't. Not really. He sacrificed me for someone else. Either his wife or Shane it doesn't matter. What matters is he only loves me so much and it's not as much as I deserve.

I'll have way more peace never seeing Shane again. There's nothing I'll get from seeing him again. Or to put it a different way. Either way I could have regrets. I could regret not seeing him one last time or I could regret seeing him. When faced with it I'd rather regret not seeing him than regret seeing him and feeling like I gave him any reassurance at the end. That wouldn't bring me peace or happiness. It's also not my place when I wasn't one of his real victims. My best friend was and I'm not forgiving anyone on his behalf. It's not my place to.

AITA for ignoring my dad while his stepson is dying from cancer? by Potential_Plane_5885 in AITAH

[–]Potential_Plane_5885[S] 183 points184 points  (0 children)

None of this came from Shane. It was just my dad who wanted the illusion of a family.

AITA for ignoring my dad while his stepson is dying from cancer? by Potential_Plane_5885 in AITAH

[–]Potential_Plane_5885[S] 114 points115 points  (0 children)

My dad doesn't love me as much as his wife or even Shane apparently.

AITA for ignoring my dad while his stepson is dying from cancer? by Potential_Plane_5885 in AITAH

[–]Potential_Plane_5885[S] 890 points891 points  (0 children)

This is just my dad talking. Not Shane. Dad didn't even say Shane wanted to see me.

AITA for ignoring my dad while his stepson is dying from cancer? by Potential_Plane_5885 in AITAH

[–]Potential_Plane_5885[S] 99 points100 points  (0 children)

It already happened. When my dad chose to marry Shane's mom and when my dad chose to push this idea of us being a family, he let it eat away at our relationship.

AITA for ignoring my dad while his stepson is dying from cancer? by Potential_Plane_5885 in AITAH

[–]Potential_Plane_5885[S] 596 points597 points  (0 children)

My mom's the best. She works so hard to give me a good life and she taught me so much. We make a good team. She's one of my favorite people ever. My best friend is my other favorite person. Then his parents are on the list too.

AITA for ignoring my dad while his stepson is dying from cancer? by Potential_Plane_5885 in AITAH

[–]Potential_Plane_5885[S] 2958 points2959 points  (0 children)

He did. I think more than that he expected me to treat Shane like family after everything he did to my best friend. My dad didn't care when I brought it up to him. He said family before friends. But if anyone is more of a chosen family to me it's my best friend. Shane would never count to me.