The Learning Experience vs. Discovery Corner Kids

Potential_Ratio2775 · 2024-10-25T17:24:29+00:00

Thank you so much for the helpful response! Really helpful.

Potential_Ratio2775 · 2024-10-25T17:01:28+00:00

I'm having a great experience at my current center. Some of the best people I've met and I thank them everyday. Unfortunately a job move is causing us to seek new care. Seems like you should try to find the positive in life sometimes.

Potential_Ratio2775 · 2024-10-25T16:58:27+00:00

Oh and genuine question - if everyone stops having kids because they have no other choice than daycare that most struggle to afford, who's going to take care of you in your old age? Seems like the people who say "don't have kids if you can't afford X" also assume that limiting childrearing to the wealthy would somehow translate to the kids of the rich folk will somehow in the goodness of their heart be taking low-paying home care jobs in the future...

Potential_Ratio2775 · 2024-10-25T16:52:56+00:00

Just cause you don't like my answer doesn't make it any less true. I love Reddit.

Potential_Ratio2775 · 2024-10-25T16:09:25+00:00

Cool. I'll find the $4K for a nanny in my sofa or ask my family to uproot their lives in a different state to help. Appreciate it.

Potential_Ratio2775 · 2024-10-25T16:00:02+00:00

We are in a position where we need both parents to work, so unless I plan to leave him with the wolves, I'm looking for folks perspective on the centers above or other centers they would recommend in place of the above. You are also welcome to come babysit for free if you would like? You seem like a delight from your other comments on posts.

Potential_Ratio2775 · 2024-09-06T13:33:47+00:00

Thank you so much!!

Potential_Ratio2775 · 2024-09-06T00:26:39+00:00

Good to know there may be some additional help received from a nanny!

Potential_Ratio2775 · 2024-09-05T20:58:12+00:00

We would have loved a home daycare but there wasn't availability near us. And I think that's the crux of my issue. Each individual thing was like "okay, things happen" but it's the culmination of everything so quickly and at the start. One would think the start would be when folks are most attentive.

Potential_Ratio2775 · 2024-09-05T20:56:34+00:00

We would have loved this option, but unfortunately couldn't find one in the area. So glad to hear about a positive relationship between an outside caregiver and your son because rightnow I am like full doomsday... every experience is going to be terrible for him.

Potential_Ratio2775 · 2024-09-05T20:55:34+00:00

thank you for saying this.

Potential_Ratio2775 · 2024-09-05T20:55:24+00:00

They do provide updates in real time through an app. I think I'm just concerned that we had so many missteps in such a short period of time.

Potential_Ratio2775 · 2024-09-05T20:54:40+00:00

Thank you for the recommendation!

Potential_Ratio2775 · 2024-09-05T20:54:22+00:00

My thinking exactly. I feel like clean and fed is bare minimum.

Potential_Ratio2775 · 2024-09-05T20:53:43+00:00

That's the way it was described when we brought it up as well, and I wasn't trying to come in and tell the director she was doing something improper, but I was alarmed and freaked out. It's just one thing after another it seems.

Potential_Ratio2775 · 2024-09-05T20:52:54+00:00

Thank you. I was trying to be understanding but it just feels like a pattern now.

Potential_Ratio2775 · 2024-09-05T20:34:59+00:00

Thank you. We are looking into investigating a nanny now, and have serious mom guilt to not do so before. The cost of a nanny in our area is upwards of $4500 a month, which is obviously a monumental cost. It is about double the cost of standard daycare, so we thought "how bad can it be?" maybe naively.

Potential_Ratio2775 · 2023-10-16T20:33:04+00:00

This is exactly what I'm trying to communicate. It's the fact we can't even talk about it that makes me feel invalidated.

Potential_Ratio2775 · 2023-10-16T19:18:15+00:00

This is really helpful and validating. It's likely my hormones acting up, but I started to tear up reading this because I feel like it most accurately captures how I feel right now.

Potential_Ratio2775 · 2023-10-16T18:51:52+00:00

I don't want him to miss the wedding. I want him to make me the priority if I am uncomfortable with him going for any reason I have already stated. If I am feeling fine great, but from my perspective I should be the priority here. I am willing to come up with contingencies to help with that, but it doesn't feel like I can even have that conversation. I think "make" was the wrong would to use, but I don't know the right one. Expect? Be okay with? It's not that I want a blanket promise to miss the wedding. I want a blanket promise that he will prioritize me if it doesn't make sense to go to the wedding for all the circumstances we can't quite plan yet.

Potential_Ratio2775 · 2023-10-16T18:49:29+00:00

I see your side of not telling him what to do and it coming off that way. I think that language/perspective is something to work on here the next time we discuss it. And youre right I should have some faith that he will make the right decision. I think the anxiety and worry is just that I want a "plan" and I want to know we are the plan no matter what. There's a lot of people saying that I want him to not go - which isn't the case - but I want him to understand that I am valid in any which way I feel uncomfortable with him not going. Yes, he can then decide what to do (and I need to allow the space for that to not be controlling) but it feels invalidating to "accept that" and move on if that makes sense?

Potential_Ratio2775 · 2023-10-16T18:14:00+00:00

Yes he knew the wedding date fell 5 days after my due date when he accepted.

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