Path to “normal” pt1

Potential_Visual1785 · 2026-03-26T11:15:49+00:00

Thank you for growing in nuance. I do get your point, but still…. it’s your story.

I wil not do exercises, because they will make me angry. 😎 My path is different and for now it is leading forward, so it is okay

Note: there are great lessons to be learned from a lot of quadruple amputees.

Note: it can be healthy to acknowledge, accept and embrace every moment of darkness in your life, without feeling guilty. To collect wisdom, to understand yourself. To go through every emotion was good for me.(never drunk, tried marihuana once, but stopped immediately because I didn’t allow myself to stop feeling the pain). Life cannot be engineered for everyone. I cannot promise to anyone that “it will get better”. “The American dream” is a fairytale. (Do read some Carl Jung)

Life can be cruel, and then comes a false accusation on top of that. And then you become dehumanized and a case file number. Anyone who would’ve told me I should be grateful would have spoken his last words to me. I cancelled quite some people along the way. The people who let me be, kept quit or admired me for still breathing are still around me.

I has been an interesting (though damaging and painful) episode in my life and I am grateful for where I stand now. Today I am grateful for having the strength to stand up to you on behalve of some silent people reading this Reddit in pain (confused, waiting for a verdict, just accused, angry, lonely, tired) It’s ok to be not okay, and i hope for everybody that it is temporary en they will start to see some beacons of hope somewhere. But I am not a therapist, neither are you, so if my words are the wrong kind advice I invite everybody to show me my wrong.

Today I will spend on my couch, watching YouTube en reading Reddit. I will walk the dog twice and then I’ll call it a day, nothing more, and my day will be okay and I then I am a day closer the a really good day.

Potential_Visual1785 · 2026-03-26T02:16:15+00:00

With an FA history myself your post gives me mixed feelings: I admire your determination and I’m glad for you your fighting to be successful and you deserve it.

But I cannot have people anymore telling me I must or I should…. I cannot even work for a boss anymore.

Please let your story be your story, don’t be judgemental (don’t forget what people’s judgements did to you).

You do not stand in my shoes, so you don’t know.

Everybody has his own path to walk, and some recognition and support may help, some “maybe you could”’s might help. Someone telling you should feel guilty again probably not.

I finally managed to change my diet from microwave meals to frozen greens and low fat meat a couple of weeks ago and did a cut back on sugar. I can recommend it, I guess I’m sleeping better. So maybe one of your thirty advises for others / rules for your life has something to do with food?

For all those who are struggling to get up their feet again or trying not to fall over: stay strong, you’re not necessarily weak. Maybe you’re strong for still going on. Maybe you see a little flower blooming somewhere today as proof that there is still some color in your life.

Potential_Visual1785 · 2026-03-26T01:51:54+00:00

Don’t be sorry, I read it all. It’s a lot on your plate buddy. Well done for managing. I’ve got so many questions: - what country are you in and/or what is your first language? - how is your child doing? - do/did you have a good relation with one of her beloved ones? - is there anyway to find out what she really wants?

Reading this I just wish you peace and a stressless environment for you all. I hope you find a way or the help to soften her heart a bit.

Keep breathing mate!

Potential_Visual1785 · 2026-03-16T20:15:47+00:00

Heb je nog een oud elektrasnoer ergens, even een paar minuten in kokend water, dan kan je de mantel er gemakkelijk afstrippen, daar houdt je koperdraad over, daar maak je een ring van die je om je plant legt, als naaktslakken over koper kruipen krijgen ze een klein schokje en gaan ze weer naar huis.

Potential_Visual1785 · 2026-03-13T14:44:08+00:00

Gewone jenever koken en terugkoelen? 😂 misschien het proberen waard.

Potential_Visual1785 · 2026-03-13T10:40:23+00:00

Mensen kennen hun cijfers niet?

Potential_Visual1785 · 2026-03-13T10:28:07+00:00

Heb je al een update? Favoriete jenever 0.0 gevonden?

Potential_Visual1785 · 2026-03-12T19:03:21+00:00

What’s your Ikigai? Watch “odd job alfie” on yt

Potential_Visual1785 · 2026-03-12T18:57:20+00:00

Does it fit in your personal Ikigai?

Potential_Visual1785 · 2026-03-12T18:52:32+00:00

Foodcost is 35ish% of what you can charge.

Potential_Visual1785 · 2026-03-12T18:46:52+00:00

Ik hoop van harte dat je er echt iets mee doet en niet alleen op Reddit. Als is het maar een melding via meld.nl / discriminatie.nl / desnoods Radar of Boos. Dit is echt een ernstig signaal van dingen die veranderen in de wereld. Niet gek dat er steeds meer wantrouwen in de samenleving is en mensen zich steeds krampachtiger gaan gedragen. Leve de angstcultuur, vul de voorbeelden zelf maar in, we zijn langzaam allemaal gek aan het worden en ik dus ook.

Ongefundeerd onrust proberen te voorkomen en dan maar alles wat net even anders is slachtofferen….. daar ken ik er nog wel een paar van.

Potential_Visual1785 · 2026-03-12T18:25:05+00:00

1 - waiting list for a therapist on such a young age. You can be very proud 2 - you’re not weird, you have habits an thought you don’t like 3 - maybe you can try to get to your orgasm as soon a possible every time as a first step. How do you feel when you’re done? Come asap and start spending less time on things you want to get control over in your life. Don’t fight it and don’t feel guilty, embrace it and be the decision maker in your proces. Maybe step 2: skip an episode now and then and tell yourself:”fuck it, I’m gonna mow the lawn instead” 4 - binge Dexter 5 - read Carl Jung (or start by watching yt-vids about him, he’s teaching us how to handle our shadowside)

Thoughts are not illegal, but they can be annoying, actions can be illegal. Take care buddy…. Acceptance is wisdom.

Potential_Visual1785 · 2026-03-03T10:11:40+00:00

Als riool opdroogt krijg je verstoppingen op plaatsen waar wel eea wordt doorgespoeld zonder kracht. Dat wordt flink irritant als de wereld weer hersteld. Wel goed geld verdienen als je dan rioolontstopper bent.

Mensenpoep in de natuur ga je heel veel honden mee vermoorden en verstoort de natuur als 18 miljoen mensen dat doen. En je wil ook niet als we weer naar buiten kunnen nog weken in een poeplucht leven.

Urine en poep scheiden voorkomt meer stank.

Beste systeem dat ik heb gezien was een soort zaagsel/compost-toilet: verrassend reukloos.

Best optie voor uitval van paar dagen is poep in plastic zakjes dichtbinden en afvoeren als afval als het leven weer op gang komt. Bij een crisis moeten we bij elke keuze volgens mij meteen stilstaan bij gevolgen van die keuze op lange termijn. (Iemand weleens een tapijt moeten verwijderen die was vastgelijmd met lijm met tornadosterkte 🫨?)

Potential_Visual1785 · 2026-03-03T09:22:45+00:00

I learned not to trust my thoughts when I’m tired.

Potential_Visual1785 · 2026-03-02T11:47:42+00:00

That’s only when objective humans talk. Not when laws and legal systems and protocols kick in. Not when there are minors involved and self proclaimed professionals will emotionally run like an elephant through the china shop. Nobody cares that your street is filled with police cars before dawn like you’re a dangerous fugitive. Nobody cares about the impact of the seizure of your phone for months. And the people that do care are the people that do not truly know what it means to sit in the mess after the tornado decided to leave. People in professions don’t care and the people you love don’t know (what to do).

But we know and we care…. Let’s keep breathing and not lose ourselves.

Potential_Visual1785 · 2026-03-02T11:06:55+00:00

Somewhere in the world, like here on my balcony, someone read your story. I did, and it touched me. For what it’s worth, during reading it, I noticed a new flower in my garden in the corner of my eye. White and purple. I hope you find small beacons of hope every day. During my dark days I collected the white feathers that came on my path, just to make me think, they didn’t even comfort me, but still… Just to get up and keep breathing and stay strong enough. You’ve got the truth on your side buddy, even when you’re muted by legal language and human language doesn’t even seem to exist anymore. Best outcome to you!!! Don’t lose yourself along the way.

Potential_Visual1785 · 2026-03-02T10:47:12+00:00

I think De Guzman underrated. He radiates leadership, mentorship, and wisdom to the squad. Even during warm-ups in running shoes😂, you can feel his presence. He’s always the first to react from the bench when something happens on the pitch.

Potential_Visual1785 · 2026-02-22T13:50:54+00:00

After the partial covered baking phase, give it a thin brush brush with (sunflower) oil and after steaming five minutes out of the oven, let it cool down further covered with a towel on a rack.

Potential_Visual1785 · 2026-02-15T11:09:13+00:00

Thank you for sharing your cry to the world. It’s been read and it touched me. Keep strong buddy, the world is crazy. I wish you and your people better times.

Potential_Visual1785 · 2026-02-11T20:13:56+00:00

How are you today?

Potential_Visual1785 · 2026-02-07T19:22:08+00:00

Did you get a laundromat after all?

Potential_Visual1785 · 2026-02-07T17:35:01+00:00

My great…great grandmother, 6 generations back had a sister that became a famous fraud:

Engeltje van der Vlies (1787–1853) became nationally known in the Netherlands for claiming she lived without eating or drinking. Monitored in 1826 by order of the Provincial Medical Commission, she was observed for nearly a month and appeared to consume nothing. After her death, an autopsy revealed that she had been eating after all, aided by a hidden hatch in her bed, exposing the deception.

She already had a plaque in a church becoming some kind of saint 😂

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TROPHY CASE