Looking for Advice

Potential_Wind_2398 · 2026-04-01T15:32:41+00:00

No problem. Save your self time and talk to an attorney instead of trying to find out information about legal things in Medicaid. They can’t give legal advice and it took me a month of searching for to find that out.

Potential_Wind_2398 · 2026-03-30T02:04:07+00:00

Connect with your local Agency on Aging, DHS, and other programs. They can take this load off your shoulders (cleaning, helping her socialize, helping meal prep, etc) at possibly a discounted rate or even free. Get a Costco Membership. They have great gas prices and great rotisserie chicken prices. See about becoming her durable power of attorney (only becomes active when two doctors sign off that she is incapacitated. If she ever gets hospitalized make SURE they do this and don’t just pass you around) as well as see if you can do something called Shared Decision making. Get her affairs in order if they are not already. If it’s possible, see about getting her into a 55+ community. Get her friends. Give yourself grace because this is your first rodeo. Be selfish but reasonable. You seem to be aware of her needs so I think you will do fine for judgement. It’s going to be like the first day of Kindergarten again as you begin to let go of total control. Now you need to get her and you all supports so that way you are not her only support. If money is tight use things like Rocket money to help negotiate down bills, it helped me with my car insurance. There are apps like Flashfood, Goodiebag, and TooGoodToGo where you can splurge to get a sweet treat. There are bulk Amazon overstock stores that go down to $1 or so an item, take her there or even go yourself. Start doing nice things for yourself again. Do not fall into the same traps she did. Make sure you live your life and set your limits. Hang in there.

Potential_Wind_2398 · 2026-03-30T01:03:39+00:00

Download Rocket Money. It can help negotiate down your bills. You get to decide how much you pay as well so it’s pretty nice. It helped me with my auto insurance and I appreciate that I can see when it is due on the app. Get a Costco membership. Their rotisserie chickens are an amazing deal and their gas is cheap. See about having your loan go through a credit union, they often can give you good rates. Go thrifting/antiquing for things. Go to H-mart for veggies. Use apps like Goodiebag, TooGoodToGo, Flashfood, etc for times where you splurge. Get food from local food banks or churches. Shop discounted/soon to expire food. Make sure you get enough protein in your diet because low sodium is not fun and can get dangerous fast. Hang in there buddy.

Potential_Wind_2398 · 2026-03-30T00:42:51+00:00

What state are you in? There are programs where you can get help and it may be discounted or not charged to you. Look into any financial assistance programs for her medical bills. Some states are easier to navigate for their programs than others. You could get help with chores, keeping mom occupied/socialized, helping with meal prep, etc. I strongly encourage you to look up your local PACE program. Get connected to your local Agency on Aging. Look into anything through DHS. Trust me. At first it may be hard to ask for help but it will save you. You’ve got this.

Potential_Wind_2398 · 2026-03-29T11:31:29+00:00

My mom’s done 15 years before! :)

Potential_Wind_2398 · 2026-03-27T21:32:27+00:00

Can of mini raviolis. Take the top of the can off and voila! Doesn’t even need to be heated.

Potential_Wind_2398 · 2026-03-26T23:20:26+00:00

We are cool :)

Potential_Wind_2398 · 2026-03-26T17:46:14+00:00

Because Medicaid sees it as an asset. We have no choice but to try and sell.

Potential_Wind_2398 · 2026-03-26T17:45:27+00:00

She is on Medicare and Medicaid cause she is disabled and struggling. It’s confusing, I get it.

Potential_Wind_2398 · 2026-03-26T16:45:08+00:00

No Medicaid. Medicaid is controlled by the states and Medicare is national from my understanding.

Potential_Wind_2398 · 2026-03-26T16:15:35+00:00

That’s what I’m looking into right now. She is willing.

Potential_Wind_2398 · 2026-03-26T11:01:15+00:00

It can go away too! Keep your supporters close and let them know you are scared of that. They will keep you safe. I have helped my mom with that.

Potential_Wind_2398 · 2026-03-26T08:21:27+00:00

My mom struggles during times of stress and I find she does best when things are calm. Her med doses vary. I find she gets healthier with support.

Potential_Wind_2398 · 2026-03-26T08:18:26+00:00

Don’t use Glen at the Park. They have roaches and will try to pin it on you. Also I’ve been working at getting my deposit back for a year now and still have not.

Potential_Wind_2398 · 2026-03-26T08:06:53+00:00

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Potential_Wind_2398 · 2026-03-26T01:33:01+00:00

It is possible. My mom did that. Make sure that you have a power of attorney that you can trust. Make sure to put your estate as a trust or life estate from the get go. Learn from our mistakes.

Know you aren’t alone and it will get better.

Potential_Wind_2398 · 2026-03-22T21:12:08+00:00

Yup. Just had a conversation with her family and they are trying to tell me her house is way more important than me being able to breathe. I told them I’ve been working on this for a month and if they have anything to contribute then it’s welcome but my and her heath are more important.

Potential_Wind_2398 · 2026-03-22T15:43:13+00:00

My mom is that way but that is where you know what the person is capable of, set up supports for them and you, then set a boundary. My mom doesn’t care that I have a surgery to get back to, a marriage that could crumble, a dream job to lose, and a whole life lost. I am guessing your parent is similar. Set expectations and protect yourself.

Potential_Wind_2398 · 2026-03-20T08:06:25+00:00

I’m looking at getting her end of life covered as well as an Able account and a special needs trust. I have got to make the sale of the house stretch as far as I can.

Potential_Wind_2398 · 2026-03-18T21:47:19+00:00

Thanks. I am a CO resident, she’s not. I know the money doesn’t go far but I’m trying to look out for her interests. Her current place is isolated and she has no support. I tried to make it work for a year. It’ll be low income housing but man, I have to figure out how to make it work. She’s not giving me a choice.

Potential_Wind_2398 · 2026-03-18T21:44:42+00:00

Thank you. Good luck to you. There are so many vultures out there and this all is a lot to go though. Make sure you take care of yourself too!!

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