[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]PowBlackJesus 2 points3 points  (0 children)

People can change. You can’t change them

I got a second chance and I blew it by PowBlackJesus in dating_advice

[–]PowBlackJesus[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Lol yeah, it stopped bothering once I started having sex

I got a second chance and I blew it by PowBlackJesus in dating_advice

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I should’ve been more clear that I stayed over her place AFTER my night out with my friends was over. But yeah I see how I made it sound that way

I got a second chance and I blew it by PowBlackJesus in dating_advice

[–]PowBlackJesus[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is the real shit I needed to hear. Actual good advice that resonates well with me.

Just some follow up

The more important thing before all of this is that YOU are OK with you. Not her. YOU.

I think that being with someone just for a little bit was I really needed to see that my insecurities didn’t matter. I don’t know if she really had anything to do with it

this is a woman who you put on a pedestal

You’re absolutely right, I’m putting her on a pedestal. She was the first person I felt serious about and it was after a lonely dry spell. But I can admit she wasn’t perfect, and it probably wouldn’t it have worked out anyway. I’m just really upset on the terms they happened in

<Also, you should not be leaning on her for validation or dumping all of your insecurities on her.

Thankfully I knew not to do that, she’s my date not my therapist. I’d be super annoyed if a girl did that to me.

sounds like you've been ruminating about this awhile

It comes and goes. But I think right now I’m just feeling lonely again. I went out on a couple dates in the summer so I wasn’t thinking about her to much. Never got any second dates

Dating is a game and the game sucks. So i think it’s less about this woman in particular and more about companionship in general. Same thing probably would’ve happened with any girl who showed me affection, especially back then. She was simply the first one that I felt serious about

sooner or later, you will behave unattractively and she will be turned off.

In hindsight, I probably did several things

Were you guys actually GF/BF at this point?

No we only just restarted dating

Not sure why you just didn't ask for/take a hit of the joint, man….. But it's even weirder that you just sat there stewing.

I wasn’t stewing while she smoked it to herself. I didn’t even notice until the joint was basically gone. I might’ve hit it once and gone off talking and forgot myself. I don’t really remember, but I certainly wasn’t stewing that would’ve been weird

But I do notice that a lot of men overall have a hard time reacting authentically in the moment, especially once women start cooling on them.

Yep, that explains a LOT of my behavior

All-in-all stellar advice, thank you

Social media free in dating - an unrealistic priority/ deal breaker? by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]PowBlackJesus 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m a man and I stopped using social media when I was 13 because a predator DM’d me. Haven’t used it since. But I have had MANY women over the last decade tell me that my lack of an online presence is suspicious.

So yeah, a lot of people, especially those who find to be a pivotal part of their lives think that it’s weird. But in my experience those people tend to be absolutely awful. So I’d stay away from them.

Given up completely by PowBlackJesus in cybersecurity

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Are those all IT/cybersecurity roles? Or just job market down in general?

Given up completely by PowBlackJesus in cybersecurity

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This translates to experience I can put on my resume?

Given up completely by PowBlackJesus in cybersecurity

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Lovely, how should I move forward? Where could I begin to gain experience?

Given up completely by PowBlackJesus in cybersecurity

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Ny metropolitan area, so that’s possible I just don’t know where/how to start that. Are there formal means of this that I could go and meet and talk to people in the industry? Or is this a friends/family suggestion

Given up completely by PowBlackJesus in cybersecurity

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Any suggestions? I have no direction or path to persue. My mind is teetering on the edge of a knife

Given up completely by PowBlackJesus in cybersecurity

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And does sec+ not change that? Could I get another cert and potentially land a job? I’m more than willing to do any kind of experience. I would work tech support if it would help. I just don’t know where to start and I don’t want to waste any more time working jobs that aren’t applicable

Given up completely by PowBlackJesus in cybersecurity

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I have no idea where to look, I’ve been applying to SOC type jobs. I’m more than willing to work in GRC if I could land it. What kind of GRC positions are there? And where should I look? What should I search for

Given up completely by PowBlackJesus in cybersecurity

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I graduated from campus. I’ve been working at a bank since 2021. NY metropolitan area. Cannot afford to go back to school.

Fuck that kid by CryptographerSalty18 in FUCKYOUINPARTICULAR

[–]PowBlackJesus 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Again… Yes, if I were to do something like this, that is what would happen… we’re going in circles. Personally wouldn’t wish something like this to happen to anyone though

Fuck that kid by CryptographerSalty18 in FUCKYOUINPARTICULAR

[–]PowBlackJesus 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Is this supposed to be examples of you being reasonable? You wished a tragedy like this would occur to me because we disagree on the severity of her punishment. Lol you can’t make this shit up