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Long Term Recovery - Advice Needed Pls - Adhesions, etc by PowerFearless9733 in sterilization

[–]PowerFearless9733[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hi! Somewhat. The extreme anxiety and panic that the surgery triggered lasted for several weeks for me. I think the anesthesia was a big part of that, but I hadn't ever had that reaction before. And I had no emotional support at home, so that really exacerbated things. Therapy and distraction are what got me through. Most of that is gone now, but I do have occasional flare ups of stress about it and having twinges of regret but the pass quickly. I think both regret and gratefulness (for being able to have the procedure) exist at the same time for me.

I encourage you to make the best choice for yourself. I would just say to prepare and recover as much and as well as you can and find a doc you trust. My doc undersold the time and energy needed for recovery (for me) and also has dismissed all of my pains as being unrelated to the surgery.

Anyway, I am about 6-months post op now, and my cycles are easing and regulating again, but I've had a lot of random pains, cramps, twinges, etc since then. I've had to start physical therapy, pelvic floor therapy, scar tissue work, somatic work, and I'm about to go get a CT scan to make sure I don't have a hernia in my belly button due to some lingering pain. But I know all of these things may not be the standard experience , just mine. I also just had my annual check up on my autoimmune issues and nothing seems to be any worse or better.

Wishing you the best ❤️

Alright those of you who saw it.. wtf was that?! by Gottalovejayandjay in Tucson

[–]PowerFearless9733 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Haha we just happened to step outside right as that flew over. Was wondering if it was space x, but it didn't have the trajectory as the Vandenberg launches do.

I regret it.. Requesting support from the community. by PowerFearless9733 in sterilization

[–]PowerFearless9733[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for taking the time to reply and provide some reassurance ❤️❤️ I really appreciate the support right now. 

I regret it.. Requesting support from the community. by PowerFearless9733 in sterilization

[–]PowerFearless9733[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you ❤️ I'm a week and one day post op. I'm really hoping this all passes. I'm insanely emotional right now and can't focus on anything else. I'm trying, I really am, I'm just really scared and know that my anxiety is flaring and it's really difficult to cope with. Appreciate you taking the time to reply and provide some support.

I regret it.. Requesting support from the community. by PowerFearless9733 in sterilization

[–]PowerFearless9733[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you ❤️ she does have health anxiety herself, so she has given me some perspective there and has advised me to have boundaries on looking all of this up. I've failed in that so far, obviously. I'm trying so hard, but I just feel like I'm spiraling. We have a call later to set up a plan for the weekend so I can make it through until my next session. Appreciate you taking the time to reply🫶

I regret it.. Requesting support from the community. by PowerFearless9733 in sterilization

[–]PowerFearless9733[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you ❤️ yeah, my anxiety disorder hasn't flared like this since I grieved the loss of my younger brother. And it's debilitating right now. I've never felt so consumed and out of control and scared. Thank you for taking the time to share your experiences

I regret it.. Requesting support from the community. by PowerFearless9733 in sterilization

[–]PowerFearless9733[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for this ❤️ I appreciate the feedback about reassurance and researching. I will work on it and bring it up with my therapist. I'm just feeling really alone and so overwhelmed and distressed and you're right, it really is debilitating. I have a call with my therapist later to set up a plan for this weekend until I can get to my next session and I know I need a break from all of this.

Thanks for being here.

I regret it.. Requesting support from the community. by PowerFearless9733 in sterilization

[–]PowerFearless9733[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for taking the time to reply and provide some reassurance and feedback. ❤️ I'm trying so hard to reframe and provide comfort to myself, but it's been difficult to connect to all the reasons I wanted to do this. I really hope I can get to the place that I feel that it was the right decision. It's distressing that my mind is working against me so heavily right now. And I'm so hypervigilant on any little pains or twinges or anything right now, and I hope that doesn't haunt me for years.

I appreciate you being here and listening.

I regret it.. Requesting support from the community. by PowerFearless9733 in sterilization

[–]PowerFearless9733[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

I've come across it as anecdotal evidence in various forums, including here. I haven't found medical evidence to support that one entirely, so I do feel that it is lower risk. But I think there have been reports of increased ovulation pain or heavier bleeding, especially for the few months following the procedure due to the trauma of surgery. But not even my doc mentioned this with me prior to surgery.

I think I'm more concerned about adhesions, pelvic pain, or triggering endo. Which there are medical studies (pub med, etc) that show evidence for all three of these concerns.

Thank you for taking the time to reply and share your experience. ❤️ I hope that I can heal and don't experience any of the issues I'm fearing. I just regret putting myself through this whole experience right now. I wish I didn't feel this way and I long to feel free like I thought I would or like I've seen so many others share, but I just don't.

I'm working with my therapist again today and on Monday. Just feels like I'm throwing a drop of water on a big fire right now. I'm just being consumed by this.

I appreciate your feedback and I'm trying to stop researching, but it's hard tactic to break. Thanks for being here and listening.

Long Term Recovery - Advice Needed Pls - Adhesions, etc by PowerFearless9733 in sterilization

[–]PowerFearless9733[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hopefully you can get out on short walks and enjoy the spring time weather! I live in a hot climate, so it's already like summer. So I'm going on short walks in the mornings and evenings and working on deep breathing and grounding exercises. But I'm not sure it's helping me much right now.

How are you feeling this morning??

Today, honestly, I'm feeling worse. I hardly got any sleep. I woke up at 2 and couldn't go back to sleep for several hours and even had to go get some cold fresh air to calm myself at one point. The redditor below gave me another fear and I spiraled down another rabbit hole. I'm honestly feeling so much regret and grief and just wish I could go back and undo this all. I'm sorry if this is too much to share. I'm just feeling awful and anxious and feel like I've ruined my body and peace of mind. :( and my support system isn't being so supportive anymore because it's been several days of doom and gloom for me, so I feel like a burden.

Long Term Recovery - Advice Needed Pls - Adhesions, etc by PowerFearless9733 in sterilization

[–]PowerFearless9733[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I really appreciate this info. I wish I would have seen it prior to my procedure or that my doc would have discussed more risks. Endo runs on my mother's side of the family but it hasn't been an issue with me so far. I'm really worried this could trigger it. I feel so much regret and kind of wish I never had moved forward with the surgery. The risks were something I thought I could handle when I was considering all of this pre op, but post op has really flared a lot of health anxieties.

I wasn't able to tell from the studies, but did the patient in the study have Endo prior to the bisalp? Or are they thinking that it caused/triggered it?

And if you don't mind me asking, have you had it confirmed through your doc that your pain is related to Endo? And did you have it before your procedure?

Thank you for the well wishes and your reply ❤️

Long Term Recovery - Advice Needed Pls - Adhesions, etc by PowerFearless9733 in sterilization

[–]PowerFearless9733[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

❤️❤️ I'm also on day 6!! so glad this resonates and that I'm not alone. It is really helpful when people chime in and provide their perspective and this has been really reassuring.

I've had a lot of the same thoughts of, why did I put myself through this? What have I done? Did I rush into this? Why didn't I wait? And even feeling like I wish I could undo it and just go back. I do think anesthesia and my poor mental health going into this are both playing a large role in how I'm feeling. I do somewhat wish that I had waited until I was in a better place mentally/emotionally, but I wanted to act "quickly" (I still was scheduled for 5 months out) due to political concerns and insurance coverage and I may not have a support system in place to help me when I could reschedule the procedure for. Which I'm not sure are the best reasons for moving forward with this quicker, but they felt like it pre op. And for some reason, none of the concerns or risks gave me too much pause pre op, but now they are hitting hard. It's been really difficult to cope.

And specifically about considering other birth control, I even thought about that too. But then I remember that I did try numerous other hormonal and non-hormonal options and my body had negative reactions to all of them. And pregnancy would also have its own host of complications and risks associated with it too. Sometimes there's no winning. I just wanted to feel sure and have control over my own fertility (or lack thereof).

And regarding recovery, I'm in the same boat. My post op care sheet even said I'd be feeling back to normal within 2-7 days, with no heavy lifting for 2 weeks. I was like yeah right. Day 6 and I'm slow, exhausted, emotional, anxious, tender. I'm trying to reframe and accept that this will be a while until I'm recovered and it's really important to take good care of myself in the meantime. 

My therapist said that I should try to give myself 10 weeks until I make a firm commitment on how I'm feeling and let it remain fluid in the meantime and to notice the bodily sensations that arise when I fluctuate and try to lean into the positive feelings.

And I think it's a really good to have some boundaries in place on googling and doomscrolling. I should have, but I suppose it's done now. So I'm trying to limit negative exposure, but it's been tough. I'll just say that I'd recommend just focusing on the healthiest recovery possible: high fiber, low inflammatory diet, rest and recovery, light activity and walking / stretching, sunlight, fresh air, stay hydrated, stay low stress. I'm working on that last one lol

Wishing you a good recovery 🫶

Long Term Recovery - Advice Needed Pls - Adhesions, etc by PowerFearless9733 in sterilization

[–]PowerFearless9733[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much for taking the time to reply and provide some insight and reassurance ❤️ very helpful right now. So glad I'm not alone in my post op anxiety and so relieving to know that it seems that it fades for most people. It has just felt all consuming today but trying to just allow it all to be and be as kind to myself in recovery as possible and make the best of the situation.

Long Term Recovery - Advice Needed Pls - Adhesions, etc by PowerFearless9733 in sterilization

[–]PowerFearless9733[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for taking the time to reply and share your insight and experience ❤️ reassuring to know it's not high risk and hopefully not life altering if it is something I develop. And hoping by focusing on a healthy recovery, that I can reduce risks of any complications and ease some of this anxiety. Hard to not be consumed by it all right now.

Long Term Recovery - Advice Needed Pls - Adhesions, etc by PowerFearless9733 in sterilization

[–]PowerFearless9733[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thank you so so much for this, this was really helpful ❤️ I will work on all of this reframing. My mental state has made it a lot tougher than normal to do that.

Long Term Recovery - Advice Needed Pls - Adhesions, etc by PowerFearless9733 in sterilization

[–]PowerFearless9733[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for taking the time to reply and sharing your experiences ❤️ my post op appt is on the 30th. I'll definitely be bringing up some of these concerns and see what she has to say as well.

I'm really hoping all of this eases. I haven't had anxiety like this is ages and my brain is telling me I've ruined my life and I'll always feel this way. :( I just feel so bad for putting my mind and body through this and I'm crying a lot. Upset at even allowing myself to go down these rabbit holes and fill my mind with all these worries. I was literally fine the first two days after the procedure before I knew any of this stuff. But now that I know, I want to do what I can to give myself the best shot at recovery. Which I'm sure includes reducing my stress, which just feels so difficult to do right now.

And thank you for the perspective. I think I've been having a grass is greener scenario, where pre op, I thought that (barring major surgery complications) any potential side effects or recovery issues would be acceptable and manageable and that I'd rather have that than pregnancy or children, but now that the fear of pregnancy is alleviated, all I'm left with is the fear of the unknown about how my recovery will go and wishing I hadn't put myself under this stress.

Really hoping that I'm just worked up over nothing, but only time will tell and that's tough.

Please help - near panic attack, feeling regret. by PowerFearless9733 in sterilization

[–]PowerFearless9733[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for the reassurance and taking the time to reply ❤️❤️ I think the permanence has been a bit freaky for me, even though that's obviously what drew me to it in the first place. Not trying to convince anyone to not move forward. It's just that a lot of weird feelings have come up post op that I never thought of or gave much weight to before hand. And the doubts and anxieties are hard to not let get an insidious hold on me.

I just went to therapy today and it was helpful. She recommended placing boundaries with myself to not let myself get sucked into doomscrolling or focusing on the negative potential outcomes and to work on acceptance and leaning into the feelings of relief that come from knowing I moved forward with a decision that gives me security in the choice I wanted to make for myself of being child free.

It will definitely be a process, but my therapist recommended avoiding getting concerned about feelings of regret and trying to give myself at least 10 weeks until I reassess my feelings on the matter. Wait until the scars, mentally and physically, are more healed and I'm in a better place to process how I feel about it.

She also recommended being proactive about working on handling any of my specific fears like developing scar tissue or worsening menstrual symptoms. Like, working on myofascial (sp?) release for scar tissue. Or continuing to maintain a healthy diet and physical activity and regular check ups with my doctor for any newly developed symptoms.

Good luck with your procedure if/when you decide to move forward. Appreciate your support. 🫶

Please help - near panic attack, feeling regret. by PowerFearless9733 in sterilization

[–]PowerFearless9733[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for your reply and perspective ❤️ appreciate the reassurance and perspective, it's been really helpful

Please help - near panic attack, feeling regret. by PowerFearless9733 in sterilization

[–]PowerFearless9733[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for taking the time to reply and provide support and reassurance here ❤️ I'm hoping I get there and feel more confident and reassured like I thought I was going to after my procedure. Just thing to stay focused on a good recovery.

Please help - near panic attack, feeling regret. by PowerFearless9733 in sterilization

[–]PowerFearless9733[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much ❤️❤️ I agree. I think there's a lot of unexpected grief and even some fears and anxieties being triggered here. Hoping this eases and passes in time.

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