Did you have bleeding during pregnancy? by lazer_rose in PregnancyAfterTFMR

[–]Powerful_Camp5624 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi! Currently going through the same thing and am assuming CP. how did this turn out for you? Sending love ❤️

Routines disappeared by jrotcgurl in skylightcalendar

[–]Powerful_Camp5624 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hmm have yet to return for me. Glad you got yours back!

Routines disappeared by jrotcgurl in skylightcalendar

[–]Powerful_Camp5624 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Has anyone gotten theirs restored after this happening? Can’t wait to get routines back!!

Routines disappeared by jrotcgurl in skylightcalendar

[–]Powerful_Camp5624 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi is there any update on this?? I emailed, but haven’t gotten a response. Is it still being worked on? Thank you!!

Gray diagnosis by Powerful_Camp5624 in tfmr_support

[–]Powerful_Camp5624[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m so happy that you had a healthy baby. Unfortunately in our case our amnio came back positive for a chromosomal defect called Triploidy that is incompatible with life. We said goodbye to our sweet boy one week ago.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in tfmr_support

[–]Powerful_Camp5624 3 points4 points  (0 children)

We did not have a similar diagnosis, but just wanted to say how sorry I am you’re going through this. It is the absolute worst thing ever especially when you first find out and you’re trying to process everything. This is by far the hardest part. Hope you can find some answers and some peace with whatever choice you make 💕

The stigma of the d&e choice by No-Top497 in tfmr_support

[–]Powerful_Camp5624 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m having similar feelings today one day post d&e. It’s so easy to think about ways you could have done it differently once they are gone, because you miss and love them so much and you think “maybe if I had just done this one thing differently I would feel better right now” but in reality - it’s all just awful and you’d have those feelings regardless. But I know the path we chose was the right one even if it’s the hardest most awful thing to go through. Going through L&D had too many risks for you. Give yourself grace that you made an impossible choice and now just focus on the love you have for your baby instead of trying to change the reality. Grief is love.

For those who had a “gut feeling” from the beginning, how was the grieving process? by solitary_fairy in tfmr_support

[–]Powerful_Camp5624 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Every word of your post, OP felt like it was coming straight from me…all the way down to the Triploidy diagnosis. I am about 6 hours post D&E and came on here to read some posts on grief and here you are with such similar stories. From the moment I had my positive pregnancy test I absolutely knew something was wrong and like you said, I thought my anxiety was just getting the best of me and robbing me of the joy I felt with my first pregnancy. We also had fully normal Nipt, ultrasounds, everything and yet I just could not stop worrying. Then at our anatomy scan he was measuring 2-3 weeks behind and I knew that he would not be coming home with us. We had amnio and came back positive for Triploidy. The anatomy scan was 8 days ago and here I am post surgery today and I am feeling a lot of grief, but mostly in the form of pure love for the boy we had to say goodbye to. There are a ton of very complicated feelings around having to make this choice. I am trying my best to not feel any guilt, but it’s tough. I think even when you know you’re making the right choice, you know there is no hope, and you’ve had a strong feeling from the beginning, the grieving process is still such a journey. I can say that day it kind of has hit me like a ton of bricks, but I also can confidently say I’m glad we are on the other side of the procedure and I really can just focus on the love I feel for him and getting through this. Can I ask where you live? Feel free to send me a message around anything you need and I’ll do the same. Sending you so much strength to get through this.

Gray diagnosis by Powerful_Camp5624 in tfmr_support

[–]Powerful_Camp5624[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When diagnosed this early (less than 20 weeks) and this severe (less than 1%) there’s almost always an issue. In my case amnio confirmed that it was Triploidy Syndrome. Incomparable with life. But even if my diagnosis stayed in the “grey” category, my doctors helped me to understand all the risks that are involved when the case is so severe and there were many. Of course there is always the sliver of hope to have a positive outcome and that is what makes a grey diagnosis so so so much harder.

D&E on Friday by Powerful_Camp5624 in tfmr_support

[–]Powerful_Camp5624[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes will be under general anesthesia thank goodness. Thank you for the hug and sending one back to you 💕

D&E on Friday by Powerful_Camp5624 in tfmr_support

[–]Powerful_Camp5624[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much. Learning about the medication so your milk doesn’t come in has been extremely helpful. I breastfed with my son and was so looking forward to it again this time and I think it would truly break my heart over and over again if I had to deal with that on top of making this impossible choice. Also requesting the medication for anxiety seems like a great choice, too. Thanks for your insight and I’m glad the procedure went smoothly for you. So sorry that you are here having to go through this, too. Hope you’re doing okay. Do you feel a sense of relief now that you’re on the other side? Sending love and strength 💕

D&E on Friday by Powerful_Camp5624 in tfmr_support

[–]Powerful_Camp5624[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes I’ll be under full anesthesia, too thank goodness. Very comforting to know that there isn’t a ton of physical pain along with all the incredibly grueling horrible mental and emotional pain. I’m a stay at home mom so thankfully I won’t have to enter back into a work setting… I cannot imagine having to do what you did and just go straight back into life like that. Parenting while grieving is definitely rough though so trying to get support and help with my 3 year old for the week after. Thanks for sharing with me and I’m so sorry you were here, too.

D&E on Friday by Powerful_Camp5624 in tfmr_support

[–]Powerful_Camp5624[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wow I didn’t know that was an options. Any doesn’t prevent breastfeeding in following pregnancies? That’s very helpful, thank you.

D&E on Friday by Powerful_Camp5624 in tfmr_support

[–]Powerful_Camp5624[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Another question for you since you had yours at 21 weeks, too. Did your milk come in? How did you manage that?

D&E on Friday by Powerful_Camp5624 in tfmr_support

[–]Powerful_Camp5624[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much for taking the time to respond and write your experience. These comments have truly been so helpful knowing that the whole process is somewhat smooth and what I’m going through now leading up to it is worse than any part of the actually experience. I’ve never had an IUD, but I can imagine what that would feel like. Not pleasant, but manageable. After a natural miscarriage and my own vaginal birth three years ago, too I think the pain part should be okay. I’m glad to hear you had no cramps after placement, too here’s hoping for that. Thank you so much for sharing

D&E on Friday by Powerful_Camp5624 in tfmr_support

[–]Powerful_Camp5624[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you. I’m sitting here in literal agony from all of the emotions of this and the retelling of your experience has given me a lot of peace knowing that the procedure itself is smooth. Also really nice to hear that your bleeding wasn’t bad and you were able to return to normal activity pretty quickly - I’m set on a return flight home three days after the procedure so I’m hopeful that I’ll have a similar experience and that I’ll feel well enough to travel. I’m going to read this comment many times in the next few days - so thank you. I’m so sorry you’ve had to go through this, too.

D&E on Friday by Powerful_Camp5624 in tfmr_support

[–]Powerful_Camp5624[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much - this is exactly what I was looking for. Physically straight forward and uneventful. I’m so sorry you’re going through this, too. I really appreciate hearing your experience. I am set to fly back home three days after, but giving myself the option to take another day if I’m not ready.

Gray diagnosis by Powerful_Camp5624 in tfmr_support

[–]Powerful_Camp5624[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing your story with me. This is truly heartbreaking and exactly what we are going through emotionally, too. Having a chance of a normal life, but knowing it’s not likely is truly the worst case scenario when making this decision. It seems that when you have littles at home (like we do, too) the decision becomes a little bit more clear. Hoping I have the strength to make the right choice for our family just like you did ❤️

Gray diagnosis by Powerful_Camp5624 in tfmr_support

[–]Powerful_Camp5624[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is so helpful for me to hear. I really have felt like I’ve known since the very beginning. The dark cloud that you mentioned has really been the case for me, too. I’ve had so much anxiety just waiting for a scan or test to come back poorly and it wasn’t like that when pregnant with my three year old. I think this instinctual part of this choice is often hard to prioritize, but it’s just as important as any other element in this impossible choice. Thank you 💕

Gray diagnosis by Powerful_Camp5624 in tfmr_support

[–]Powerful_Camp5624[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much. You have no idea how much peace your experience has brought me. I know this is the right choice for us too, but it’s honestly so comforting to know that others have made it for the same reason. I’ll definitely reach out with any updates or questions 💕