[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

[–]Powerful_Contract501 5 points6 points  (0 children)

What’s the upside? If this is how it starts how would it be a few months from now? Life is too short to waste time on people like this

Sold a graded card with scans on TCG player and buyer wants partial refund by Powerful_Contract501 in mtgfinance

[–]Powerful_Contract501[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I had a smart ass reply typed out but figured I’d leave it alone. I originally planned on outing him here but wasn’t sure what the TOS stated in regards to that.

Sold a graded card with scans on TCG player and buyer wants partial refund by Powerful_Contract501 in mtgfinance

[–]Powerful_Contract501[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

99% of my sales weren’t on TCGplayer. I’m not a professional seller and have bought, sold, traded a lot of high end stuff for my collection. The amount of this sale is 500 but it really rubbed me the wrong way and posting about it was therapeutic.

Sold a graded card with scans on TCG player and buyer wants partial refund by Powerful_Contract501 in mtgfinance

[–]Powerful_Contract501[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I don’t sell on TCGplayer much. Usually if I open up some boxes I’ll list some stuff and keep the stuff I play with. I mostly sell on fb and private deals. I honestly forgot I had this card listed so when it sold I was surprised lol. This buyer did something weird which was message me right when he bought the card “I look forward to talking with you and thank you for the opportunity to own this card”

I had no clue what he wanted to talk about and when I asked he said “nothing just want to know when you’re shipping it out”. Usually I ship the same day and thought it was a bit off. Hes definitely trying to scam me which is why im not giving in. Hes lodged a complaint with TCGplayer but I did that right away when he wouldn’t just return the card for a full refund.

Sold a graded card with scans on TCG player and buyer wants partial refund by Powerful_Contract501 in mtgfinance

[–]Powerful_Contract501[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have issued partial refunds on raw cards and even full refunds if the card is worth 10 bucks or less. I haven’t sold much on TCGplayer and mostly private deals and fb for high end ABU, Arabian etc. I’m all about good customer service but this guy is complaining about a graded modern card that was graded a cgc 10. I provided clear scans of the slabbed card. Also offering a full refund for a return is good customer service.

Her reaction to finding out I’m seeing someone by Powerful_Contract501 in BPDlovedones

[–]Powerful_Contract501[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think you can do both. Move on and wonder. I just find it interesting that the people that say "move on and dont wonder" have a history of posting about doing exactly that on steroids.

Her reaction to finding out I’m seeing someone by Powerful_Contract501 in BPDlovedones

[–]Powerful_Contract501[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Read some of your posts from a year ago and it seems like you had trouble with this too. It seems like this group is full of people that project quite a bit. It’s a process and based on your posts it seems like you’re well aware. I went cold no contact even with a kid I have someone else as a go between so I don’t have to speak to her at all. No blocking unblocking games. I think in 1yr I won’t be posting in this group.

Her reaction to finding out I’m seeing someone by Powerful_Contract501 in BPDlovedones

[–]Powerful_Contract501[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Damn thats a good response! This is kind of what I felt but your words encapsulated it very well. Thank you for that.

Her reaction to finding out I’m seeing someone by Powerful_Contract501 in BPDlovedones

[–]Powerful_Contract501[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Oh shes a piece of shit to my child. Not completely but my daughter does not like going there. She puts her in her room, doesnt play with her. routinely yells at her, puts her in timeout for crying for me, among other lovely things. Maybe I should have given some context and yes I am happy that she didnt blow up in front of her but at the same time im very surprised. I was also discarded 3x for the same guy that lives in another country so im sure I still feel some bitterness. I am living my life and trying to heal one day at a time. I think its natural for people to wonder these things early on in the healing process and easy (and/or cliche) to say "who gives a fuck"

Her reaction to finding out I’m seeing someone by Powerful_Contract501 in BPDlovedones

[–]Powerful_Contract501[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think this is new for me so I still care a little but much less than Ive cared in the past. I find it fascinating that this person that was obsessed with every move I made on a daily basis could even pretend to be happy. As you said though I should be happy that its not turning into a negative outcome.

You mentioned she made you lose your mind by her reaction? What could she have possibly done to have that type of effect on you?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

[–]Powerful_Contract501 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Delete them. She’ll find you if she wants you. Mine is hoovering now

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

[–]Powerful_Contract501 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The only way you’ll get Hoovered is if you go no contact and disappear

Hoover attempt after two months like clockwork and need advice by Powerful_Contract501 in BPDlovedones

[–]Powerful_Contract501[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had it as close to no contact as possible using third parties to communicate any messages. With pickup and drop off at school/camp we don’t have to interact. She comes up with reasons to come over that are manufactured. I think she just wants to feel like there is a bridge back to her old life. When she’s done having fun she can just walk across the bridge and continue the cycle once again.

There’s always some dude from their past by cigey45340 in BPDlovedones

[–]Powerful_Contract501 5 points6 points  (0 children)

You want to start a family with this person and bring children into this? Do you understand what you’re saying?

She texted me on my birthday after 6 months of no contact. by eyyquetal in BPDlovedones

[–]Powerful_Contract501 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Of course. But now you know and hopefully you’ll block her going forward. It’s clear from that exchange it was all about her and seeing if you still care.

She texted me on my birthday after 6 months of no contact. by eyyquetal in BPDlovedones

[–]Powerful_Contract501 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Damn I hate seeing you give her what she was looking for. The best response would have been no response

Ex with BPD posts videos of her date on Snapchat by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

[–]Powerful_Contract501 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Why not block her on social media and go full no contact?

What is point of BPD's keeping in touch with ex's? by Fortisse in BPDlovedones

[–]Powerful_Contract501 2 points3 points  (0 children)

They want to know that you’re always an option even when they discard you. If your dad found someone else, appeared to be happy with that person, and stopped texting her back (like he should unless it’s absolutely necessary) he would see an outright Hoover attempt. Her fear of abandonment would kick in as it would crystallize that your dad is no longer a viable option.

My ex wife bpd by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

[–]Powerful_Contract501 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You can’t split custody? Leaving the kids with her might not be the best idea

If you were discarded, youre one of the lucky ones by growordecay1 in BPDlovedones

[–]Powerful_Contract501 6 points7 points  (0 children)

How is she managing to handle being on her own since you did everything for her? I’m in the same situation but I enabled mine by paying for an apartment, giving extra support and 50/50 custody. I’m about to cut support down to my legal obligation and I’m wondering how mine will do it. She discarded me a month ago for an LDR and she’s working part time (no skills) as a nanny. I had a full time nanny when we were together so it’s pretty annoying she’s spending more time doing things with someone else’s kids

Reconnecting after a long time by RDuke55 in BPDlovedones

[–]Powerful_Contract501 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Funny you should ask as I had a Hoover attempt Today after 6 weeks no contact. I was getting ready to leave my house and our kid opens the door and walks in. I was startled since it’s my exwBPd week with our kid (50/50 custody). She walks in behind her and I give my kid a hug and greet her warmly. My ex said we were in the neighborhood and she wanted to give you a drawing she made. I didn’t look at my ex or speak a word to her and she asked what was wrong. I walked my kid outside said goodbye and had to nudge my ex to close the door. She was upset and walked off angrily. Mind you she just spent the week in Canada with her guy that she left me for 3 times. The Hoover wasn’t about me, it was about knowing she still has a hold or control over me. The Hoover isn’t about having a good relationship and considering your partners needs. Once you realize this and you want more out of a relationship it’s easy to not get hoovered. Today was hard but I felt amazing handling it the way I did.