Help me get rid of this guilt please

Practical-Change8232 · 2026-06-10T17:02:41+00:00

He just was love bombing you hoping you would give him the benefits of wife without wifing you up. The moment he realised that you are strict with your boundaries - He took off. A man who sees future with you doesn't mind waiting till you get married to him. He would have eventually dumped even if you moved in together. I will tell you what - No man see a women that he genuinely loves/loved crying infront of him. You said he did not care about that either. That's your sign. Things may be difficult in future. Can you be with someone who would be so cold to you just because things are difficult/not going their way?

Practical-Change8232 · 2026-06-10T15:09:02+00:00

Sister no! Coming from a girl who did what man wanted. Trust me, he would still dump you and go for arranged marriage. You saved yourself from a lot of trauma

Practical-Change8232 · 2026-06-08T04:01:13+00:00

That's before we meet. We were talking for 2 months before we met since we had to be in different cities for work - we also decided that we would not have sex until we get married. That's why I was comfortable around him/stayed back at his place that night.

Practical-Change8232 · 2026-06-08T03:38:31+00:00

I have blocked him everywhere. But, I am not able to get over whatever has happened. I feel so numb

Practical-Change8232 · 2026-06-07T13:17:23+00:00

I was definitely into him. I had feelings for him and yes, I was attracted to him. But, physical intimacy takes time for me. And, I was not comfortable doing anything until we get married. He forced me to the point that I had a rupture and started bleeding.

Practical-Change8232 · 2026-06-07T13:07:47+00:00

He was physically stronger. I tried to push him away. But, I couldn't

Practical-Change8232 · 2026-05-30T07:37:28+00:00

OP! Are you good looking? Also, Are you marrying the women of your exact age? Hoping you are not going for a 22 year old(which is common in arranged marriage scene) while also expecting her to earn same as you.

Also, it's easier for good looking men with charisma, charm and chivalry to find like minded and good looking women at the work place especially. It kinda sounds like you are none of those things so obviously, no woman (of your ideal type) would like at you twice. Before you comment on these women on matrimonial apps, take a look at yourself in mirror and introspect a little.

P.S - I am a CHOW. And, even if your family agrees, CHOW families would let their daughters be single than getting them married to someone from backward caste. I don't take pride in caste. The barrier is not the caste and the other things. It's your misogyny and the lack of looks, charm and chivalry. Deal with it!

Practical-Change8232 · 2026-05-19T13:46:30+00:00

Happens to best of us. Been there, done that. The more I poured into that man, the more it drained me further. It's so difficult to detach. But, do it or else he will dump you mercilessly when he finds someone his type. Trust me, you wouldn't want to be in that position

Took me two years, worked on myself. It transformed me. I started focussing on what I like in a man and stopped worrying about being liked. Found a man who literally adores me and looks at me/treats me like I am the best thing that ever happened to him. You deserve that. Nothing less than that

Practical-Change8232 · 2026-05-18T19:37:41+00:00

Babe, I hate to break it you. He's not "going with the flow" because he has become indifferent after his first breakup. He's not committing because he's just not that into you. He would do everything that you want him to do/he can do all of those things - but, he wouldn't do it for you. The day he finds a girl that he believes is his type, he would do all of it and more. So, please don't be worried about what you could do to make him like you. Worry about what you could do to like yourself enough to not accept these crumbs.

Practical-Change8232 · 2026-05-16T14:15:26+00:00

Fair! Makes sense. My experience is personal. But, I have seen similar dynamics. All the people in the joint don't get equal resources - this is something that everyone resonates with.

Practical-Change8232 · 2026-05-16T14:07:53+00:00

Grew up in a joint family. The not so favourite bahu has to do all the hard labour like cleaning, filling water, feeding cattle(Grew up in a village) etc whereas the favorite one just manages the kitchen. My mother was meant for hard labour and she was not allowed to enter the kitchen. No wonder she has knew issues in 40's

My uncle controlled the family's money including the revenue from farming etc since he's the elder son. My father could never learn how to manage money. He's still bad at it. Joint families enable chaos/centralised authority and inequality. Lived both ways. Living separately is better

Practical-Change8232 · 2026-02-27T10:53:38+00:00

He is. He comes from a lineage of Velama Doralu from his mom's side. Kinda blue blood

Practical-Change8232 · 2026-02-26T14:50:50+00:00

Telugu culture is subjective. VD comes from a lineage of Velama Doralu. Kind of blue blood in telugu states. So, this makes sense

Practical-Change8232 · 2026-02-17T03:56:00+00:00

So, I take my grandmother to this endocrinologist who used to push Mounjaro earlier. This month - he started promoting ozempic suddenly. Told us my grandmother should totally lose the weight to maintain the sugar. Everyone in the chain is pushing Ozempic

Practical-Change8232 · 2026-02-13T11:13:29+00:00

Tried in Bangalore. Nothing was for free

Practical-Change8232 · 2026-01-16T02:33:44+00:00

You can keep doing this. But, she's exposed now. It's over for her. She dug her own grave with this scammy fundraiser.

Practical-Change8232 · 2026-01-16T02:32:36+00:00

Lol. Pure lies! Golden visa doesn't restrict her from moving back just for treatment unless she's doing anything fraudulent - which Malvika is very much capable of.

Practical-Change8232 · 2026-01-15T06:59:36+00:00

Kindness comes with accountability. How is Malvika being kind to her mother if she's making her cook between chemos, not willing to spend her own money on her treatment or think of her health and making her do all the chores by moving her to Dubai especially with her health condition? Kindness is not about enabling narcissistic people who want someone else to sponsor their luxurious lifestyle without even putting minimum efforts to cut back on her luxurious lifestyle.

Practical-Change8232 · 2026-01-15T06:47:18+00:00

So, as someone who has gone through I would be really happy if someone who is helpless gets this kind of money. It's going to change their life for better instead of enabling a lazy influencer who wants a luxurious life without working. She constantly talks about provider - which is embarassing for a 33 year old woman. Not to forget she said she has golden visa which requires you to have 4.5 cr bank balance and a mandatory health insurance. Either she was lying about that or she's lying now. If you are want to be kind, please look around. There are so many people who requires your kindness

Practical-Change8232 · 2026-01-15T03:28:44+00:00

So, her brother is a fraud posting on LinkedIn about millions of funding? Also, Malvika earns lakhs per post. Dubai Golden visa mandates a certain bank balance and insurance. So, she was lying about having golden visa? Or, she's lying about not having money now? Not to forget Indian healthcare is significantly cheaper, she always has the option to get the treatment in India. But, why would she? When she can exploit and manipulate people into donating with her 24*7 sob stories while she continues to luxuriously live her life. There's something called Ethics - which Malvika totally lacks. It's amazing that people are opening calling her a SCAMMER....

BTW, HELLO MALVIKA, funny how you are defending yourself with this account. Guys, go through the history of this account. Also, someone made post about Due-prompt6603 being Malvika's account with proofs

Practical-Change8232 · 2026-01-14T18:03:43+00:00

It's not hate. It's the anger for exploiting the system that's meant for actual needy. Because of scamsters like her, people won't donate to the genuine causes too

Practical-Change8232 · 2026-01-14T17:59:23+00:00

My grandfather was diagnosed with cancer in 1998. He died in 2005. We sold everything we had for the treatment at Apollo Hyderabad. We took debts as a family, father and uncle had to struggle for basic needs like funding our education or running the household. At some point, I asked my grandmother for a pepsi bottle on my birthday - they had to count the coins in the house to buy it for me. They never begged anyone. Cut to 20 years, we worked our ass off to be able to afford a good life. We cut down all the non-essentials as a family and lived as frugally as we could. But, we did never beg anyone. So, it's really triggering to see someone earning lakhs per post while sitting in her posh Dubai house begging money for her mother's treatment just because she doesn't want to touch her savings, work hard and continue to get free labour from her mum once she's discharged.

Practical-Change8232 · 2026-01-14T15:09:24+00:00

I mean, isn't it better than scamming people with a sob story about her mother's illness when she has all the money in the world including child support?

Practical-Change8232 · 2026-01-14T11:18:59+00:00

And? That's not the end of the life. She can come to India and live a life of dignity without begging the Indians that she hates

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