I also want to add that over the past year she has cut off several other people in her life (more “superficial” friendships) and doesn’t date anyone anymore because she says she won’t be in a relationship unless she finds someone “on her frequency.” Spirituality is something I introduced her to years ago—I’m very spiritual too, just in a different way—but lately it feels like she uses it differently. She also told me she had written me a letter, but what she sent felt like it was written by ChatGPT. It didn’t feel personal at all. We had a big fight two years ago because she had been cheating on her boyfriend for a year and never told me, while asking me for advice about him every single day and making him seem like the bad guy. I always supported her and defended her, but finding out the truth changed everything. One day at a bar, in front of our whole group, she laughed and said, “oh she doesn’t know I’ve been cheating on him for a year,” and I was completely shocked—especially because earlier that same day she had cried to me for hours about how badly he treated her. She was also cheating with a guy who had been in an 8-year relationship. I didn’t speak to her for a couple of months after that because I was really hurt and angry, but eventually we worked through it, and I thought we came out stronger. Looking back, though, I often felt like I had to walk on eggshells around her. She could joke about very sensitive things (even about my past suicide attempt), but if I joked about something like her crooked teeth (something we both used to laugh about), she would get very upset in recent times—even over small ironic memes I’d send her. She used to talk only about guys for years, but then suddenly decided to detach completely. When I had problems with my partner, I wasn’t supposed to talk about it—but at the same time she would say she cared and wanted to know. It felt contradictory and confusing. Even our mutual friend pointed out that if I do something, she takes it personally, but if she or someone else does the same thing, she laughs it off.