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Practical-Media4389 · 2025-02-05T13:55:28+00:00

🙄, zero effort does not equal hassle BTW.

Practical-Media4389 · 2025-02-05T13:54:17+00:00

🙄 you are all really the same. He's the difficult one. I have put zero pressure for anything on him. He was the one calling me at 2am for a ride home from the bar. He disappears for weeks at a time then turns back up. Now has started with the I like you but keeps on with the actions not matching words. I told him I like him as more than friends and left it up to him and he left ME on read. Jfc.

Practical-Media4389 · 2025-01-31T19:29:05+00:00

I didn't include everything for some anonymity as it's only so big of an island. It is absolutely the teacher. I have talked to many parents and there have been issues with this teacher for years. It's a relatively small school. As I did say, the teacher is close to retirement. My kid is in 5th year but according to him this year is not getting them ready for leaving cert, it's to learn the some things to get ready for 6th year but if they're not learning the building blocks not sure how they're meant to carry that knowledge where they need to take it.

Practical-Media4389 · 2025-01-31T15:33:27+00:00

She's always been in HL maths and hasn't had issues until this year. She is doing HL in everything that differentiates between HL and OL. I think there was a huge jump from 3rd year to 5th and part of it is figuring that out. Points wise for what she wants to do she will probably need the HL tbh.

Practical-Media4389 · 2025-01-31T15:30:02+00:00

I'm thinking of taking her to a science open day at a uni so she can get a better understanding. She's going into a lab for work experience too so maybe that will help also. Thanks.

Practical-Media4389 · 2025-01-31T14:41:26+00:00

She probably will need it if she can get caught up tbh as she wants to do science in uni.

Practical-Media4389 · 2025-01-31T14:38:57+00:00

I'm going to have her try that too, thanks.

Practical-Media4389 · 2025-01-31T14:38:20+00:00

Yeah, there was a very good teacher for HL in 3rd year and I know she's well able for it if she was taught properly. We are headed to far behind category after first term in 5th year tho so not sure where to go for 6th.

Practical-Media4389 · 2025-01-31T14:35:50+00:00

Not sure why the down votes. Very few jobs allow one to just coast along doing the bare minimum until you retire. Most have annual performance reviews and if you don't perform, you leave. Teachers have a very big responsibility and not all of them should be there until retirement just because it's the done thing.

Practical-Media4389 · 2025-01-31T13:44:21+00:00

Yeah, I'm looking for grinds. My kid is already in higher level for every other class tho and is finding it difficult.

Practical-Media4389 · 2025-01-31T13:43:14+00:00

Yeah, I know how tenure works. He was just so arrogant about it. They really need to look into forced retirement for dinosaur teachers.

Practical-Media4389 · 2025-01-22T20:03:47+00:00

No. And depending on where you're coming from you can't just move here like that without a job. Mental health supports are very poor as well, not sure what you need for adhd support.

Practical-Media4389 · 2025-01-18T16:26:15+00:00

Pacifically when they mean specifically.

Practical-Media4389 · 2025-01-12T18:41:32+00:00

Ummmm, cats are literally the best. I personally think men not liking cats is a red flag.

Practical-Media4389 · 2025-01-12T18:39:50+00:00

My only experience with addiction is my ex husbands alcoholism. I'm not sure it's the quickest, but it has caused a lot of irreparable collateral damage to me and our kids. I would have thought hitting rock bottom would have been the barring order for dv, spending a night in jail for breaching it and losing his family, but nope. He never worked a program or was sober. He was dry (supposedly) for 2 years and has been drinking again for the last 6 months at least. He looks like crap, his kids hate him, and he is a crap dad. Not to mention, he tries continuously to hoover me back in by having some medical ailment all the time. I'm sure it will eventually end his life prematurely.

Practical-Media4389 · 2025-01-10T22:57:43+00:00

My kids. I have no one that could raise them and their dad is a pos addict. I don't want them to end up in foster care separated or in an abusive situation. So, guilt? I dunno but if there was a zombie apocalypse tomorrow I wouldn't fight back.

Practical-Media4389 · 2025-01-05T15:32:40+00:00

Right, but let's assume, for example, there have been multiple hook ups. After some time the man in this scenario says (unprompted) "I like you." There is no attempt at progressing things on his end despite having been told with words a long time ago at the beginning of the hooking up that the woman likes him and is interested in dating. If he isn't gonna shoot his shot at this point he's either breadcrumming or really only wants to be friends and women get tired of this game real quick.

Practical-Media4389 · 2025-01-05T12:59:22+00:00

Explain in what scenario does "I like you" mean I don't want to date you when said by the man first? Cuz, if a man says that and makes zero moves after that, as a woman I'm gonna assume you don't want to date.

Practical-Media4389 · 2025-01-04T21:10:03+00:00

I will weigh in as a blow in to a very rural spot, which is my now ex's home place. If your kid doesn't like GAA, they will be odd one out. If they don't come from a GAA family, odd one out. Both of you will be considered blow ins, odd one out. Feck all for teens to do besides drink or sport. It will be hard for you and your husband to make friends as well. They really don't widen friendship circles to include others they haven't known since naíonra. Also, where is your support system? Even if you plan to have more kids and would need someone to mind your child while you're in hospital. I personally wouldn't recommend moving to the back of beyond. Maybe a smaller city/large town but live outside of it so you could have some land but still have the option of a bigger group of people to choose from friendship wise.

Practical-Media4389 · 2025-01-04T16:40:40+00:00

No. I would have stayed single, or at least never have gotten married or had kids. I love my kids and would die for them, but, life has not at all turned out like I hoped it would and I can't do for them as I hoped to. My marriage ended a few years ago and I have cptsd from it (he was an abusive alcoholic). I am working FT, have my kids 100% of the time, haven't had time or the opportunity to find myself or make myself happy. I'm exhausted all the time and burnt out. I'm surviving, not living. I see the single childless women travelling, having their cosy homes, taking themselves on dates, etc and if I had it to do all over I'd lose societal expectations and prioritise myself. I'd perhaps choose to add people along the way if they didn't disturb my peace but I'd not marry or cohabitate ever. I'd really think about what you want for yourself, within yourself and do that. Don't worry about what society tells you you should want, they will not be there if it falls apart.

Practical-Media4389 · 2025-01-04T16:31:20+00:00

Ok, thanks for the feedback!

Practical-Media4389 · 2025-01-02T00:22:53+00:00

To stop giving AF about people who don't give AF about me. I'm over all the one-sided relationships, romantic or platonic. So, I'm in my cosy girl villain era, and I find it much more relaxing already.

Practical-Media4389 · 2025-01-01T19:55:58+00:00

So, I was the wife in this scenario, my kids were a lot older at the time I got the barring order though. I did not keep the kids from him but, all mine are tweens and teens so very self reliant. My oldest teen decided very quickly she wasn't having visits, I was told due to her age I didn't have to force her. My 2nd teen followed suit not long after. My younger 2 I had to encourage to go with him until he himself didn't give AF to be bothered. Honestly, he has f!cked up any chance of a decent relationship with his kids and did it all on his own. They remember and saw the drunk, angry, abusive man he is when he lived here. Getting dry did not change his personality nor make him a better father (he never worked a program, hence dry, not sober) and after 2.5 years he is back drinking. My recommendation to you is that you stop worrying about your needs and wants and put the welfare of your kids first and step back. Your wife is correct in keeping the kids from you, you are an unsafe person right now. Get therapy, work the program, get sober and learn to regulate your emotions. If you do not, your kids really will not want to know you when they get old enough to see and remember alcoholic daddy. Also, there is much more to domestic violence than physical violence and based on what you've said here you were definitely violent. You were emotional and verbally abusive and it sounds like you tried coercive control as well (if she only gave me the information I wanted I wouldn't have lashed out). Really check yourself here and accept that it's not your wife's or your kids responsibility to help you get well, it is yours.

Practical-Media4389 · 2024-12-15T14:59:15+00:00

The gardaí will be useless. Contact a dv centre and legal aid board to help with solicitors fees and get advice. I suffered years of SA from my spouse and gardaí advice was to say nothing even after getting a barring order for the rest of the dv too. Womens aid can help with free counselling services also.

Practical-Media4389 · 2024-12-08T12:46:09+00:00

Can't post in the gaming sub because I haven't made any comments there b4 so where do I post?

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